Jiao attaches great importance to the construction of family style. Jiao family is a big family. In Jiao, there are not only six children to support, but also two old people to support. Like ordinary families, they also have to face the problems of food, clothing, housing, transportation, school and employment. After becoming a leading cadre, how to deal with these problems and what kind of family style to build are issues that Jiao has been thinking about and paying attention to. He not only often educates children to love labor and always maintains a hard and simple life style, but also never allows children to specialize and establish a good family style within the extended family.
Loving labor is Jiao's most grounded family style. Jiao was born in a poor peasant family in Beigushan Village, Boshan County, Zibo City. At the end of 1938, the Japanese army occupied Boshan County, and Jiao, who was 16 years old, was forced to drop out of school. In the meantime, Jiao suffered a series of blows, such as his father hanged himself, his grandfather died of hunger and cold and grief, and his sister-in-law died of external humiliation and blows. In order to survive, Jiao's mother began to teach him the knowledge of production and life. She not only often takes him to the fields to do farm work, but also teaches him to know and dig wild vegetables such as purslane and grey vegetables to make wild vegetable porridge to satisfy his hunger. He has been adhering to this work habit for many years.
At the end of 1962, Jiao obeyed the organizational arrangement and came to Lankao, where the conditions were difficult at that time. He not only insisted on eating, living and working with the masses, but also passed on this family style of loving labor to his family. He often warns his family: "You can't get something for nothing and do your own thing." In order to cultivate children's habit of loving labor and cherishing food since childhood, he often takes time to take his children to the countryside to participate in labor after busy work, helping the production team to pick up beans, beans, ears of wheat and shavings, and let them know the hardships of farmers growing crops and the hard-won food.
Jiao Shoufeng, Jiao's eldest daughter, wanted to find a job after graduating from junior high school, so his wife Xu Junya asked him to do something. He said, "It's easy. You can let her go to the countryside to exercise, learn to have a haircut and clean the toilet. " It is a good job for the office to send the recruitment form to the home on its own initiative after some units understand the situation. Jiao resolutely disagreed. He said: "I want to take an office as soon as I leave school, but I can't." Young people should do some dirty work, find a physical occupation to exercise, or they will forget their roots if they don't work. "JiaoShouFeng know, some dissatisfaction in my heart. Jiao often teaches her: "Our family has been exploited for generations, and there is not a scholar. Your grandfather was forced to hang himself because the landlord urged him to pay his debts. After grandpa died, I took my whole family out to hide. At that time, the whole family ate wild vegetables cooked in clear water. There is no cotton-padded clothes in winter, and one of your brothers froze to death and starved to death on the way to escape. Now that you have graduated from middle school, you have become a scholar in our family. If you don't listen to the party and take part in labor, who do you deserve? "
Later, Jiao Shoufeng was assigned to work in a food processing factory. After Jiao knew it, he went to the factory director Zhang Shusen to explain: "My daughter works here. Don't treat me differently just because I am the county party secretary. We should be strict with her, please put her in the kimchi group, which is of great benefit to transforming her mind. "
After Jiao Shoufeng went to work in a food processing factory, not only did she have to cut vegetables and pickles in piles every day, but what she couldn't accept most was that she had to walk the streets to sell pickles. One day, Jiao said to her, "Dad has nothing to do today. Let's take you to sell pickles. " In the process of selling pickles, Jiao not only took her to peddle along the street, but also taught her how to attract customers by shouting. Jiao Shoufeng thinks it is not good to teach while selling. She thought to herself, "I am just a coolie, nothing, and I still love my face so much." If my dad is the county party secretary, he will lose face. " How could he make a hullabaloo about? "She said to her father," Go home, I will never make trouble again. I can do what others can do. "
In this way, Jiao Shoufeng slowly accepted the job under his father's example, and he did it for more than ten years. Later, no matter what work she did, she was diligent and worked hard all her life.
Hard work and plain living are the most distinctive family style of Jiao family. Jiao's early family was not good, but he didn't look down and out in clothes. Whenever he comes back from the outside, his mother will sweep him from top to bottom with a prepared broom outside the door and sweep him again before going out. Although the clothes were patched, they were all washed clean. Later, after he became the secretary of the county party Committee, this hard work and plain living style has been maintained.
A burnt quilt has been covered with 10 for many years. There are patches inside and outside, and a tear is a hole. The cotton-padded clothes on him have been worn for many years, and they are no longer warm. One winter, the organization made him run around all day, and the cotton coat was too thin, so he decided to take care of his 3 kg of cotton. When he knew it, he opened his mouth and said, "That's not right." Then he refused. His wife later complained about him, and he always smiled and said, "Compared with the masses, we are dressed fairly well. It's much better than the sack I wear when I beg for food and live under someone else's eaves to keep out the wind and snow. " Seeing that his lover couldn't let go, he patiently explained: "The relief materials are for the masses, and we can't take this cotton. Although my cotton-padded coat is a little worn, it can still be worn. I am a leader and cannot be special. " He also said: "Lankao is a disaster area and people's lives are difficult. We can't use public funds. Difficulties in life must be solved by yourself. "
He did this to himself, especially to his family. When the eldest daughter Jiao Shoufeng 10 was in her teens, she was still wearing a cotton-padded jacket when she was 9 years old. Several patches were made and the sleeves were lengthened several times. The students all laughed at her: "It's a shame that the daughter of the first county official wears this kind of clothes." After knowing this, Jiao said to her, "What's shameful about being a little older than dressing?"? If you don't study hard and obey the discipline, that's the real shame! The clothes are old, broken, washed and mended! " Under the guidance of her father, her old cotton-padded jacket was worn for another two winters, and it was not until it was really worn out that she changed it for her little sister.
For a long time after Jiao's death, Jiao's family lived on Xu Junya's monthly salary of more than 50 yuan and the subsidy of 13 yuan. Because of the difficulties of life, they haven't bought a new dress at home. Several children in the family are growing up, and there is really nothing we can do. With tears in her eyes, Xu Junya took out the clothes worn by Jiao before his death, changed the seams for the eldest son, and later handed them to the younger son. 1September, 966 15, when Jiao Shouyun, the second daughter of Jiao, took a photo with her at the city gate, she wore the clothes worn by her elder sister Jiao Shoufeng and changed them several times. Today, Jiao's brothers and sisters are still simple and never pursue luxury enjoyment.
No specialization is the most emboldened family style of Jiao family. As a party member cadre who grew up under the Party's education for a long time and experienced the baptism of revolutionary war, Jiao knew the harmfulness of the privilege of leading cadres. To this end, as soon as he took office in Lankao, he cancelled the special care given to leading cadres in the county.
On one occasion, Jiao found his son Jiao Guoqing coming home very late. Ask him where he went as soon as he entered the door. Jiao Guoqing said, "I went to the auditorium to see the play." Jiao Youlu then asked him, "Who gave you the money to buy the ticket?" Jiao Guoqing said: "Nobody gave me money, so I went in without buying a ticket. Several of our children are crowded at the entrance of the theater to get in. The uncle who checked in said,' Whose child are you? Go home and sleep quickly. I said,' Secretary Jiao is my father.' My uncle let me in as soon as he heard it. Jiao said after listening to the education: "National Day, you know, the uncles and aunts of the troupe are jumping and jumping on the stage, which is also labor. If we all go to the theatre like you without buying tickets, it would be tantamount to exploiting the fruits of their labor. Will you watch white dramas in the future? " Jiao Guoqing finally said, "I was wrong. It won't happen again Jiao Youlu took out twenty cents and handed it to him, saying, "We should cultivate the good character of serving the people from an early age. Don't think dad is a secretary just because he is special. Go to school tomorrow, pass by the theater gate, give the money to the uncle in the auditorium, and then apologize. "
On his deathbed, Jiao Youlu said to his wife, "Jun Ya, don't cry. You should be strong, listen to the party, study hard and work hard. I didn't expect me to leave so soon and so early. For so many years, you have been worried and suffering with me. We still have two old people and six children, but this burden falls on you alone. There will be difficulties, and the leaders will take care of them, but you should not make trouble for the organization, and don't stretch out your hand to ask the leaders for money and things ... "
Don't ask the government for subsidies at any time, take care of them and specialize them. These commitments have also become the principle of children's life. The condition of the eldest daughter Jiao Shoufeng's family is the most difficult among several brothers and sisters. The eldest son's daughter-in-law never had a fixed job. Later, the eldest son fell ill for many years until he died a few years ago. Jiao Shoufeng silently endured these hardships that lasted for many years. Not only did he never seek help and relief from the government, but he never extended a helping hand to his brothers and sisters. When it is difficult to ask the government for help, the Jiao family has no such atmosphere. Jiao Shoujun, the third daughter of Jiao, is a professional and technical cadre with intermediate title in 12. Because there is no senior title index in the Military Region Archives, she faces retirement. After learning about it, a leader of the cadre department of the General Political Department offered to solve the problem of senior professional titles for her, but she politely declined. She said: Dad told us when he was alive that it couldn't be special. I can't embarrass my father or denigrate him. Jiao Shouyun became a single mother when her son 10 was a child.
Later, my son was admitted to the Central Conservatory of Music, and his family expenses were particularly high. She scrimped and saved, trying to bear it alone. Like everyone else, the second generation of Jiao family also faces various difficulties and choices such as children, houses and tickets. Half of Jiao's third-generation 10 children are unemployed or working, but no one has found a relationship to solve their own problems.
In short, living under the aura of parents, privileges are around, but it is Comrade Jiao's family style to take the lead in suffering, take a personal path, not specialize, and not lie on his father's credit book to make people look down on him. We need to carry forward this family style.
Editor: Liu Zhonghui
Editor: Zheng Guowei
Production: Wang Yu