Poverty itself does not make children feel inferior. The life troubles caused by poverty, parents' mentality and external evaluation will all lead to children's inferiority complex. However, if we are good at guiding and responding positively, and let children have correct values and judgment, poverty will not have a substantial impact on children.

1. Children are simple and have a weak desire for material things. If you are not rich, you can honestly tell your children about your family, disclose some simple economic conditions, and let your children participate in family building, which can improve their sense of responsibility and ownership.

Some parents blindly hide their children and take pains to meet their requirements and desires. The children were placed in high places. When they discover the truth and their material desires can no longer be satisfied, they will be caught off guard and fall into deep inferiority and pain.

Or some parents will pass on their anxiety and anxiety to their children.

We worked hard to make money for you,

"If you spend so much money, you can't afford to learn badly."

You know, poverty is not the responsibility of children. These words may be just to make children obedient and sensible, but I don't know that they will stimulate children's anxiety and guilt, and then turn into inferiority and depression.

Poverty is not terrible. Parents' love can cure everything. Parents' positive response and caress are children's greatest confidence and security.

I still remember reading an article by Wu Zhihong, a psychologist, analyzing the reasons why four children in Bijie collectively committed suicide by drinking pesticides.

Some people say it's because of poverty. Teacher Wu Zhihong said that he grew up in a poor family, but he didn't feel inferior because his mother gave him full love.

The four children in Bijie have a beautiful two-story building, a cornfield and two pigs. Teachers and grandparents take good care of them. But my mother ran away from home, and my father was seriously violent and couldn't be contacted. The love of parents is irreplaceable by anyone.

There is a famous saying: where there is no response, it is despair. Teacher Wu Zhihong concluded that it was this desperate situation that killed the four children in Bijie. The lack of parental love has left these four children in a desperate situation. Many families in China believe that it is better to earn money than to raise children, and that face is better than family warmth. Everyone works hard, but they lack dedication and family building.

Teacher Wu Zhihong thinks that the foundation of true self-confidence is love, and the foundation of inferiority is lack of love. Although poor conditions can also lead to a certain degree of inferiority, it is far less important than lack of love.

What should parents do when their children are criticized by the outside world because of poverty?

First of all, don't be arrogant, and don't show embarrassment, annoyance and anger.

Secondly, clearly tell children that life is their own, whether they are happy or not, whether they are rich or not depends on their down-to-earth efforts, and don't influence and influence their feelings and ideas because of other people's evaluation.

Finally, judge the motive of speaking. If the other person's purpose in saying this is to care, then turn it into a driving force for your own progress. If it's just teasing, don't take it to heart at all, as long as you do what you should, it's enough.

In daily life, cultivating children's positive and cheerful personality, being helpful and generous is the most precious gift for children, more than money.