In the micro-interview variety show "Big Sister", Su Mang invited Xu Fan, a famous actor interviewed many years ago. Xu Fan rarely mentioned the way she got along with Xiaogang Feng and his wife. Unexpectedly, gentle Xu Fan was described as an iron hand by Xiaogang Feng.
As we all know, director Xiaogang Feng is not a good-tempered person, and his tough and fiery character in the film Old Six starring Xiaogang Feng is recognized as "acting in his true colors". Such a character, Xu Fan should be how to get along?
The famous director on the set, who listens to him at home? Xiaogang Feng's wife Xu Fan?
In the book, the director describes the relationship between husband and wife like this: "xu teacher is not only good at acting, but also good at management. Then, I like to follow the iron fist rule, so I won't bother to pursue the truth. "
Xu Fan explained his "iron fist" like this: I just insist, and this is my iron fist. It turns out that Xu Fan's "Iron Fist" is "gentle persistence" full of love.
Xu Fan gave an example to illustrate how she made her husband Xiaogang Feng give in to her insistence. "Sometimes I say you wash your hair, but he says you come back to wash your hair and sleep at night. I said you don't have to do it, just keep your head down and I can help you wash it. As long as you achieve your goal. So it is an iron fist. "
Director Xiaogang Feng described how Xu Fan insisted on letting himself lose his temper, such as letting himself drink water, in The World of Flowers. She will repeat 10 times, and get out of the way. People who lose their temper can't stand it. This gentle persistence is also very effective.
When talking about their careers, Xu Fan said that both of them are relatively independent. Xu Fan will not interfere with Xiaogang Feng's work, at the same time, she will make her own arrangements. "Everything he did was his own choice, and everything I did was my own choice. If he wants to help me choose, I will feel that I can't do it well and blame him. I think that's not good, and I don't want to blame anyone. "
Xiao Ceng asked Xu Fan if he would like to participate in the casting of the film directed by Xiaogang Feng. Xu Fan said that she never interfered with these issues because she was not a director. "Director feng told his major. Because I don't know that field and I don't explore it, our work is very separate. "
Of course, this does not mean that the couple will not exchange their ideas. "If you ask me, I will tell you. If you don't ask me, I don't have to ask. His success or growth is good. Of course, his mother didn't say I taught him. What right do I have to say that I want to guide you? " She thinks men don't want women to control themselves. Two people also listen to each other's suggestions, but don't impose them on others.
Xu Fan said that the person he admires most is his mother. "My mother is a very gentle woman, my father is a person with a big temper, and my mother is honest and gentle."
It is said that Xu Fan's choice of the mode of getting along with husband and wife also stems from his parents' words and deeds. "My mother is so great, my child has a bad temper, and my husband has a bad temper. My mother is like this, slowly softening us. "
No wonder Xu Fan mentioned that the advantages of women can be described as softness: "Do you want to be with two people? You don't want to give up the most important one. You are very gentle with him. If you are only a girl, he will be tougher than you. Don't fight like this. I don't think I like fighting. I feel that quarreling is very incompetent, and it is very troublesome for two people to stay together. "
Xu Fan said that she was old and had a big temper, while Xiaogang Feng only listened when she lost her temper. If he doesn't listen, Xu Fan won't talk to him. In other words, Xu Fan's temper is not as good as she imagined, but she chose to accommodate her husband with softness. "One day is not enough, you can use years to calculate. Cooperate slowly, and you will adapt yourself. He will get used to it. Only those who feel strong can feel your softness. "
She described her relationship with her husband as a "legitimate enemy", and even said that she sometimes hated her husband, but they are still sweet and happy from 1999 to now 2 1 year, which has something to do with Xu Fan's softness and her care for her calf. When someone said to persuade her husband not to work so hard outside, instead of blaming him, she said, "Why do you manage Xiaogang Feng like this? I won't do it if he does it. "
Xu Fan said that's why he likes Xiaogang Feng. "I like Xiaogang Feng best. He does everything without any rules. I think it makes me feel very interesting. I think it's much more fun. As boring as old. Life itself is boring. If there is no taste at all, it will be too boring. " No wonder she thinks her husband has a good temper.
Xu Fan said that he is a boring person, living while working. He hasn't even traveled, and he doesn't know the way out. Bringing this Xiaogang Feng Xu Fan to you is also an advantage: "She doesn't know much about that famous thing. In life, I think she is a professional actress who is immersed in life and lacks parents, just like a normal person. On the stage, you think she is a very glorious actress. "
In fact, Xu Fan's husband decided what to eat at home, so he developed a good cooking skill. Xu Fan, who lived a collective life since childhood, did not do housework before getting married. Xiaogang Feng taught herself, and then she stopped cooking.
Xu Fan said that she didn't mean to have sex, because if she knew how to do it, she would have to rely on herself. She still wants to keep some space of her own.
Xiaogang Feng and Xu Fan met because of the movie The Dragon Slayer. As a screenwriter, Xiaogang Feng met the heroine Xu Fan. At first, Xiaogang Feng thought that Xu Fan was not beautiful enough, but when he fell in love, he started a crazy pursuit process. He doesn't care whether Xu Fan agrees to drive her directly to have dinner with Wang Shuo.
He will also "buy and sell" when Xu Fan doesn't agree to associate with himself, telling everyone that this is his girlfriend. At that time, the Golden Rooster Awards Ceremony chartered a plane for all actors to go with, and Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng were on the invitation list. Before boarding the plane, Xiaogang Feng said that Xu Fan was his girlfriend. After getting on the plane, the person next to Xu Fan offered his seat to Xiaogang Feng and let him sit next to his girlfriend.
1994, two people in love collaborated on the first work "Never Lose My Love", and then successively collaborated on "A, B and C" and "Be there or be square", which also established Xu Fan's position in the film industry. Someone once asked if this was a mom-and-pop shop, and Xiaogang Feng replied that Xu Fan was very professional. In that case, why not "let the water flow all the time"? In fact, he
Xu Fan never asked for a role, and insisted on the principle of acting when it suits him.
Xu Fan looks nothing like an actress. She is not anxious about her age because she never played a girl when she entered the business. She doesn't even know the famous brand, and she doesn't care about her clothes. All the expensive clothes were arranged by her husband. She has her own plans for her husband's dress. "I am a man in our family and a woman in our family."
What impressed Xu Fan the most was his first time to attend an activity. Before leaving, Xiaogang Feng and Xu Fan confirmed that they had brought all the documents. Results at the airport, Xu Fan found that I didn't bring all. If you go back at this time, you will miss your flight, which will definitely affect today's trip. Looking around with Xu Fan, Xiaogang Feng was so angry that he pointed to Xu Fan and cursed: "You are a pig!" Finally came a sentence: "Go away, change the ticket yourself, I don't care about you."
Xu Fan said that if she was betrayed by her husband, she would leave without hesitation. "Home care requires two people to take care of each other. If the other party ignores me, I will say hurry up and don't stay. "
Xu Fan said that her husband is right about himself and his relationship. "Because there are many difficulties between husband and wife, he (Xiaogang Feng) will drag you down." She thanked her husband for his contribution to the family: "I feel like an abandoned baby. He adopted my heart, and he is my life's benefactor. "
Xiaogang Feng and Xu Fan were married for many years without children until they adopted Duo Duo, which enriched their family life. I didn't expect Feng Dao to be an old urchin in front of children. Xu Fan said that her husband had no temper in front of her daughter, but she became a tiger mother.
A well-known director with such a position outside would be willing to lie on the ground and ride a horse for his daughter. On one occasion, my daughter called her father to come home quickly. Xiaogang Feng immediately put down his work and rushed back to her daughter.
Xiaogang Feng said that Xu Fan was the best actress, while Xu Fan said that marrying Xiaogang Feng made him happy. He not only praised Xiaogang Feng's favorite thing is "doing things irregularly", which added a lot of fun to his boring life. Even if Xiaogang Feng is angry with himself, he won't be angry.
Xu Fan said that she could do nothing but be an actress, nor would she be a director or producer. She won't stare at the scene except trusting and supporting her husband's work. Xu Fan's remarks once made many people feel that Xu Fan put himself too low. For example, she doesn't care about the waves that pounce on her husband, because he is a man who doesn't suffer, and even says, "You let him take advantage." This is also an obvious mentality of protecting calves.
Xiaogang Feng has two daughters, not Xu Fan's own. The eldest daughter was born with his ex-wife Ms. Zhang. Xu Fan is just her stepmother, and her youngest daughter is Xu Fan's adopted daughter.
Xu Fan, who is in her forties, has passed the best childbearing age. If you rush into pregnancy, it will only increase the risk. Besides, Xu Fan is an actor whose career will never stop. In order to support Xiaogang Feng's career, as for childbirth, she temporarily put it aside.
1September 1999 19 at 9: 00 am, Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng received marriage certificates. September 19, 2009 is the 10th wedding anniversary of Xiaogang Feng and Xu Fan. Therefore, the two specially hosted a banquet in Beijing and invited 50 friends in the circle to attend.
Adopted a daughter. 20 15, 14. On April 4th, Xu Fan went to pick up her daughter from school and waited at the school gate early, which showed that she attached great importance to her daughter. Maybe she didn't want to cause onlookers and commotion. That day, she was dressed in gray at home, very low-key, wearing a big hat to cover her face. I saw that Xu Duo, who wore glasses since childhood, still wore thick glasses and dressed very low-key.
Many are a lively and lovely age. Walking with her mother shows her coquetry nature. She jumped up and down on the table in the roadside flower bed and took out a red silk fan to play with. Perhaps the little girl was also impressed by her parents' artistic cells.
Adopted a daughter. 20 15, 14. On April 4th, Xu Fan went to pick up her daughter from school and waited at the school gate early, which showed that she attached great importance to her daughter. Maybe she didn't want to cause onlookers and commotion. That day, she was dressed in gray at home, very low-key, wearing a big hat to cover her face. I saw that Xu Duo, who wore glasses since childhood, still wore thick glasses and dressed very low-key.
Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng have been married for 2 1 year and are childless. Is Xu Duo an adopted daughter or an illegitimate daughter?
Since Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng got married, she has been living under the title of "Little Three". After a long time, everyone accepted the fact that they were together and recognized her identity as "Mrs. Feng". After all, how many women can give up the right to have children and be mothers in order to consider their husbands' feelings?
Perhaps out of guilt, perhaps in order to support the elderly, Xiaogang Feng and Xu Fan adopted a girl from the orphanage, named Xu Duo. However, the adopted daughter also has buck teeth and looks more and more like the adoptive father, but it has attracted other speculations.
First, Xu Fan has been bearing the stigma of "Little Three" for many years, and she has been childless for 2 1 year.
Unlike some actresses, Xu Fan, who used to bear the stigma of "mistress", didn't know she was mistress at all, and Xiaogang Feng didn't confess the fact that she was married when she was pursuing her. So, all this time, she was kept in the dark.
But when she found out the truth, she was already deeply involved in this relationship. Therefore, over the years, she has been bearing the stigma of "mistress", deeply loving and supporting herself and talented Xiaogang Feng, silently guarding this relationship.
For his career, in order not to embarrass him, she gave up the right to be a mother, and Feng 2 1 year was childless.
Perhaps it is because children are worried that they will inherit their own vitiligo genes, and perhaps Xiaogang Feng is worried about the physical disability (harelip) of the eldest daughter, so after Xu Fan suggested having children, Xiaogang Feng opposed it. After a long time, Xu Fan missed the best childbearing age, and her dream of becoming a mother was shattered.
Perhaps out of guilt, perhaps in order to fulfill Xu Fan's dream of being a mother, Xiaogang Feng no longer refuted Xu Fan's decision and agreed to her decision to adopt a child. Then Xu Fan adopted a girl from the orphanage and named her Xu Duo.
A few years later, her "secret" was discovered by the media. She stopped hiding it and admitted the fact that she was a mother. In a blink of an eye, the little girl she was holding has grown into a big girl and looks more and more like Xiaogang Feng, and some bad remarks have followed.
Xu Duo, who was not like Xiaogang Feng as a child, became more and more like her father after she was a teenager, which led some people to speculate on the relationship between Xu Duo and Xiaogang Feng. For a time, the topic of "Xu Duo is an adopted daughter or an illegitimate daughter" has become the focus of public discussion.
In the face of different voices from all walks of life, Xu Fan and Xiaogang Feng didn't care too much and didn't respond. As for Xu Fan, it doesn't matter whether she can accept that "her husband takes advantage of other women" and that her daughter is illegitimate.
In love, a woman who looks stronger may also be another face. In the face of maternal love, women can reduce their endurance to a very low level. Therefore, no matter from which point, Xu Fan doesn't care if his daughter is an illegitimate child.
For the public, whether Xiaogang Feng's adopted daughter is close or not is not the point that everyone should pay attention to. After all, he is a world-famous director and has the right to protect his privacy. Therefore, he has no responsibility and obligation to respond to the questions of netizens.
Stars are also human beings, and they also have the right to privacy and personal life space. As people who eat melons, we should not over-interpret and pay attention to them. Eating melons rationally is the right way!