You feel unlucky to stumble and lose your wallet, but there are more setbacks in life than you think.
When the child is over one year old, he is not feeling well and always has a cold and fever. At this time, I was pregnant with a second child, but I didn't raise it. I didn't take a few days off after giving birth, and my mother had another car accident.
I thought the child was hopeless, and my life was already very painful. But who would have thought that this was just the beginning, and then I fell into the swamp, and the mud flooded my throat in despair. If you haven't experienced it once, you won't feel the beauty of free breathing.
First, when all the doors and windows in the world are closed for you, will you give up?
The doctor said that the family members were probably in a vegetative state. Will you continue to treat them?
When I saw my mother in the hospital, my face was swollen and my whole head was wrapped in white gauze, so I was slow to respond. The matter is too serious for her to panic.
The doctor said, "Life is still very dangerous. It's hard to say whether the intracranial pressure can come down. Even if it is reduced, if you don't wake up all the time, your lungs will be prone to problems, which will be dangerous, damage your brain and prevent brain cells from regenerating. The probability of curing vegetative state is particularly high ... "
When I heard about the vegetative state, I was so confused that I couldn't listen. why ...
I don't know how long it took me to wake up.
If this happens in your family, will you give up?
On the one hand, treatment may be ineffective; On the other hand, a bill of more than 10,000 a day, placed in any ordinary family, has a sense of powerlessness.
Later, a doctor said, "Your mother is still so young, and her vitality will be tenacious." You should think it over. Hearing this, I cried, and I decided to treat it anyway.
Maybe this is the common choice of every child. What color is there in a world without a mother?
After two months of expensive treatment, there is no sign of recovery. Will it waver?
A week or two ago, I installed the house and paid the final payment. My family has no savings. My husband and I can only spend one day in ICU a month, more than 10 thousand a day, and we are worried when we look at the bill every day.
My husband comforted me, "After a while, my mother's vital signs stabilized and the cost of leaving the ICU was low." After two weeks, my mother was finally out of danger and transferred to the general ward.
The cost of medicine in the general ward is six or seven thousand yuan a day, which requires nursing. Because the injury is too serious, no one wants to do one care, so they have to ask for two care. Dad calculated that the follow-up medical expenses had not been settled, so he decided to take care of himself and stayed up all night.
My husband made a film and consulted famous experts. Experts say there is no hope, and waking up is a miracle.
It seems that all the windows of the world are closed to you, and it seems that all efforts are doomed to despair. Will you give up at this time?
I don't accept it. I don't believe that God took my mother.
Holding the idea that my mother is still young, I recorded many sons' laughter, hoping to stimulate her to wake up. I am very grateful to this young doctor. He said, "Your mother is still so young, and her vitality will be tenacious", which brought me hope. In the next few months, I have always had hope and confidence, let my mother wake up, record my son's laughter constantly, and let my father play it to my mother again and again.
Once a person is full of hope and confidence in expecting something to happen, he will try his best to realize it!
Up to now, my mother has gradually recovered under the care of my father. She was disabled for the first time, and now she can walk with crutches. I hope she can walk freely without crutches in the near future.
Relatives suddenly became seriously ill and were under great economic pressure. How do you and I grit our teeth in ordinary families?
Second, this dilemma will give people a sense of despair, and the pain of hitting the bottom will force them to tear and regenerate.
1. Facing the economic pressure, resolutely jump out of the comfort zone.
I thought about finding another job before, but I either felt too far away from home or felt that the work was too hard and there was no need to be so tired.
After my mother was hospitalized, I began to put aside these excuses and seriously submit my resume. Even though the company that invited me for an interview found it particularly hard to work overtime, 996 or even 997, which was several times busier than the original company, my salary reached my expectation and I left my comfortable and leisurely job without hesitation.
I don't know when I can jump out of my comfort zone if my mother is not in hospital. It's not that I don't know how comfortable life is, but that I'm too good to jump.
A week after my mother cut the pipe, I went to work in that new company! I used to feel that the afternoon was so long every day that it was only 17 o'clock. The only feeling now is that time flies, and it's already 2 1 point.
When my colleagues can't insist on leaving one by one, I tell myself that I can't blx, and I should try my best to do what I am doing. Later, the manager felt too stressed and changed his post. Finally, there are only two old employees in the whole business team, and I am one of them.
Stress can stimulate unlimited potential, maybe you have never seen such a good self.
When I didn't know what to do in the face of economic pressure at first, I began to read more books, report more jobs and learn more skills. From how to communicate, how to speak, how to report, to the professional skills required by the post. After half a year's study, when the boss accidentally asked me what I thought of the team, I expressed my thoughts and skillfully expressed the problems and solutions I saw without trace.
I thought it was incredible before. I used to make a detour when I saw leaders. Of course, I didn't take the initiative to think about the problems existing in the team, let alone how to improve efficiency. Put this question in the past and ask it first. I will ink for a long time. When I can't prevaricate, I will say something irrelevant.
The boss affirmed me and made me a manager. It only takes one year to go from a soldier to a manager. In the next few years, although the direct leadership has been adjusted, every leader agrees with my ability and has an extra performance award every year.
Being promoted to manager is not just a matter for one person. It needs to motivate team members and push the project forward, and it is often too busy to eat. However, a drop of sweat will not be wasted. These efforts have brought about the improvement of my own ability and the growth of the company's business. The team is expanded to more than 20 people at most. By 2020, the quarterly performance will be rated as A, of course, the annual performance will be A, and the team members will also get the annual B+ performance. This is quite difficult. Only 5% employees of the company can get A, 25% employees can get B+, most employees' performance is B, 10% employees will be rated as B- or C. Of course, no matter the annual performance or quarterly performance, as long as B+ is above, there will be a certain cash reward, and the best one will get 654.38+million yuan.
After the company leaders affirmed their abilities, my annual income also increased fourfold. I have thought about when I can get a higher income before, but I just thought about it and never forced myself to do it. When I got my salary, I looked at the figures and thought: If I had worked so hard earlier, would my life be very different?
What surprises me most is that in this process, I overcame the influence of evil, and I didn't like to talk since I was a child, and my communication ability changed from a short board to a long board.
I thought I just couldn't talk. The younger one came to my house to meet relatives and didn't know how to greet others. For this reason, my mother always said that I was dumb. Relatives often don't know how to answer when they ask me questions. I can't wait to slip away like the grandson in the kamikaze gang. But after several years of training, I can easily cope with various occasions, and finally I don't have stage fright. Even if I communicate with the big boss, I am well-founded, clear-headed and no longer at a loss.
If you feel difficult and under great economic pressure now, go to school and study. Although you may not remember what you read or learned in the end, what you read and learned will enter your subconscious and unconsciously come out in a certain scene to help you solve problems and achieve you!
Third, in your most difficult time, someone can stand up and help you. No matter who you are, carve your heart out.
During my mother's hospitalization, my husband ran before and after, helping to deal with big and small things.
Because my mother was too ill, my father didn't have time to go home for dinner and couldn't bear to take takeout. Her husband bought a good meal and sent it to the hospital; After leaving the hospital, he went up and down to various institutions and issued various certificates.
My husband has taken on a lot of things on my shoulders. Although he is my lover and my lifelong companion, I remember this feeling.
I am more careful with him and my in-laws than before, and will not participate in any opinions, interventions or accusations that will not affect the healthy growth of children.
Every time I see my husband, I feel good to have you. I hid that beauty in my heart and turned it into action, silently caring for the people around me and silently loving him.
The maturity of most women comes from experience.
Only when there are fewer setbacks in life experience will we feel that small things are big troubles.
He always quarrels with the people next to him, but forgets that he is such a good person.
After so many things, I want to understand a lot, as long as it is not a matter of life and death, it is a small matter. You still have to change your job, but no matter how long you wait and squeeze, you won't be in the mood.
I seldom quarrel with my husband, pay little attention to some details, and I won't always ask for a divorce as I did a few years ago! My husband's shortcomings and shortcomings are still there, but in the face of our common life goals, these are major events.
You can't resist some behavior of the other party. You will jokingly say, give the other party a step and give yourself an exit.
Although the past days were difficult, they also became the cornerstone of our feelings. I believe we will be more determined in the future!
Fourth, the hardest road in the world is uphill.
Nothing in a person's life is easy, but looking back, all the difficult roads are uphill. Even some GouGou Kan Kan, in his whole life, are on the rise.
Life is painful and difficult, but we can't give up so early. We should have hope, work hard from another angle, and don't have to save ourselves. When the pressure is high, everyone has emotions, but they should be the driving force for a better life.
1. Keep hope.
If it weren't for a young doctor, remind me that my mother is so young and full of vitality. Maybe I will lose confidence, not think about how to wake up my mother, nor record my son's laughter and play it to her again and again. Although I don't know if it really helps my mother, we are full of hope after all, when my mother wakes up.
2. Work hard from another angle.
I failed to help my mother recover from the car accident. I can't take care of her even because of physical problems. What should I do? I can work hard, earn more money, let her use better medicine, and then she will be better.
3. Ask people around you for help.
My father and husband gave me a lot of help in this difficult situation. Without their support and help, I can't grow in my work and my salary can't double. If my salary doesn't increase exponentially, it's impossible to pay for the subsequent physical therapy.
4. Think less and do more.
Just do it, don't think about it. Too much time to think blindly will not only cause many problems out of thin air, but also reduce the time for doing things. If you don't take action, you will still get into trouble. Sudden difficulties can not be reversed by thinking, but only step by step.
Conclusion: If you encounter similar difficulties, please hold on with hope and work hard from another angle. In addition, don't forget to ask people around you for help, just do it right. I hope the above points can add a little sweet comfort to you under great pressure. If it helps you a little and doesn't waste your reading time, then I'm relieved!