Our family has long-term experience in caring for bedridden patients. This process can't be described by only two words, but it is still quite troublesome.
My husband's mother was paralyzed in bed for five years because of a cerebral infarction, and later she developed skin squamous cell carcinoma. In these five years, she basically spent time in bed, eating in bed and urinating in bed.
As her husband is a dutiful son, he has to go back to his hometown to take care of his mother personally. In five years, my husband was the main force, and his other three sisters assisted me to ensure that two or three people were around the old man at any time. If the old man is hospitalized, the other sisters will have to come and take turns to guard him.
In order to make the elderly eat less and more meals and increase nutrition, the family specially arranges a person to buy food, cook and cook five meals for the elderly every day.
Husband is responsible for feeding the elderly, giving medicine, rubbing medicine and dressing change, functional exercise, receiving excrement and urine, helping to turn over and watching TV with her.
At night, my husband and his mother share the same room, get up in the middle of the night to feed water, change diapers and help turn over countless times, and basically can't sleep.
The old man lives upstairs and hasn't been out of the house or downstairs for five years.
During those five years, my husband, his sister and brother-in-law devoted all their energy to taking care of the paralyzed mother. Three people are busy from morning till night, and there is no time to rest.
Especially in the later period, the old man was seriously ill and even the hospital was unwilling to accept it. I changed medicine and diapers countless times a day, and my skin and cancer stink. In addition, there is no perfect disinfection method, and the stench at home is pervasive. My family has lived in this environment for a long time and has been sick.
What is more troublesome is that taking care of such a seriously ill old man for a long time, his family is on the verge of collapse both physically and psychologically. I can't take care of my small family and children at home for five years.