His gentleness is not possessed by Minlante, but his temper.
Is it love to be gentle and considerate to a person? Not necessarily. As Ming Lan said, "Good and bad are easy to disguise", gentleness and thoughtfulness are not necessarily true love. He Hong Wen is really gentle and considerate, but it is natural, because of his nature, not because he loves Ming Lan, so he is gentle.
Why is he so gentle and considerate in Hong Wen? There are two main reasons.
First, he lost his father when he was a child in Hong Wen, and his mother was seriously ill. It was his grandmother, Mrs. He, who brought her up. He witnessed the hardships of his grandmother and mother all his life, and understood the hardships of women better, so he was more considerate to women.
The second is that doctors are kind. He Hong Wen is a doctor. Because he has to deal with patients for a long time, he has cultivated his gentle, considerate and patient character.
Therefore, his gentleness in Hong Wen is gentleness to everyone, not just to Ming Lan. In today's words, it is "central air conditioning".
At this point, Ming Lan's other two boyfriends are not like this.
Besides, Qi Heng, an equally gentle and jade-like constantly chauffeured. Qi Heng always maintains an indifferent attitude towards other members of the opposite sex, and only Ming Lan is his sincerity. All the delicious food is thinking about her. Because she cried, because she smiled, because she rebelled. JiHeng really left all the tenderness to Ming Lan.
Where's Gu? Gu is a military commander, and his thinking is also the thinking of a typical military commander. He treats everyone equally. Only when he treats Ming Lan will he show his inner tenderness.
Comparing the three, we can see that his gentleness in Hong Wen does not mean that he loves Ming Lan.
He never made up his mind to make Ming Lan his only one.
Cao Jinxiu is indeed He's childhood cousin, and everything at home is very difficult. But since Hong Wen chose Ming Lan, he should consciously keep his distance from other women. Unfortunately, he has been pandering with Cao Jinxiu, even meeting and communicating privately, and has never kept the proper distance between men and women.
Qian Qian tried every means to help Cao Jinxiu, but he only acquiesced in the proposal of concubinage. Carefully observe the episodes in which Cao Jinxiu insisted on marrying a concubine. It has always been Mrs. He who rejected Cao Jinxiu. He has always been silent, saying that he only listens to the arrangement of his grandmother and mother.
Why can't he simply refuse Cao Jinxiu's unreasonable request, or does he think it's not unreasonable at all?
On the other hand, Gu did much better than him on the issue of concubinage.
After he and his wife got married, Xiao Qin used the fortress as an excuse to bring a concubine narcissus, and decided to accept it as a care. But for his generosity, Gu was very angry, because he didn't refuse or be jealous, which showed that he didn't love him. After Narcissus entered the palace as a concubine, she kept her distance and never approached her.
Even Qi Heng of Minglan was defeated. At first, he fought and worked hard for Ming Lan. He insisted on marrying Ming Lan, knowing that the two families were wrong, and he also promised to marry Ming Lan and be a big lady. This is why Ming Lan was very moved and said, "Even if you fail me in the future and don't marry me, I will still remember what you said you would marry me today." .
"Weak water is 3,000, I only take a spoonful of water." If a man really loves a woman, that woman must be his only choice. Both Qi Heng and Gu are so dead set, but he is not. He is not determined to give up the whole forest for the sake of the Ming Lan tree.
He married Ming Lan not so much in favor as in favor.
He Hongwen and Minglan met. The old lady Yu Sheng asked her to treat Hualan, and Ming Lan's relationship got closer when she returned to her hometown in Zhiyang. In fact, they have only known each other for a few months, and the time is too short to compare Gu and Qi Heng.
When I was a child, the Sheng family was still in Jiangnan, and I knew Gu. At that time, Gu found a doctor and saved Wei Xiaoniang's life for her. This friendship has always been remembered. Later, he witnessed the love between Ming Lan and Qi Heng, and rescued Ming Lan from danger several times.
I met Qi Heng in Zhuang's private school and have been classmates for several years. Their love is the result of several years of classmates' friendship. Because of his deep love, Ming Lan got married, but Qi Heng still couldn't let go. He has hurt, hated, repented, begged for forgiveness, and even been paranoid to be embarrassed everywhere.
Visible, the theory of three people and Ming Lan's feelings, he Hong Wen completely can't compare with the other two. He and Ming Lan are like blind dates. They are more "suitable" and don't have much real feelings. Therefore, when Ming Lan married someone else, he didn't take the initiative to fight for it, and there was no resentment. He just watched her get married on the podium.
Therefore, Guan Xuan thinks that Hong Wen, who is kind and considerate to Ming Lan, actually doesn't love Ming Lan very much. If it weren't for Gu's sending Cao Jinxiu over, the old lady and Sheng would have been confused by his tenderness and thoughtfulness.