On Saturday, the second brother called and said, "Let me go there and say that the third brother's daughter wants to buy underwear, and no one at home takes her to buy it." . Think about it, too. My mother is old, and my siblings are not at home. Who else could it be? Considering that I have already left and I have to take her to Jining, let her come by bus.

In addition, I have taken her to run twice, so it should be no problem to take the bus. Then I told her I was waiting for her at home, and she said she didn't know where our home was. Just want me to meet her at the station, just tell her that she will come by bus, and then I will meet her at the bus station.

Hurry up and tidy up the food. The child only comes home once every two weeks. Be sure to cook something delicious for her. Take out a piece of beef from the refrigerator and half a cabbage to make boiled beef.

After dinner, it is estimated that my niece has almost arrived at the station. I picked her up by tram. There's nobody there. Look at the time. It's a little over now. It was not twelve o'clock when she took the bus. An hour's drive at most. It's been two hours. Let's leave now. I'm afraid she won't find me when she gets off the bus. Don't go. I'm afraid she can't open the door when she gets home. After a while, I decided to go home first.

Go home by tram and watch the roadside while walking. Walking to the door of the community, I saw my niece carrying a schoolbag and walking back while crying.

"Say to pick you up, how did you run away? I have been waiting at the station for almost an hour! "

"I waited at your door for almost an hour! I knocked on the door more than a dozen times, but I couldn't open it. "

"No one is at home, can you knock at the door? Is there nobody upstairs or downstairs? No one is at the gate of the community? Why don't you lend me a mobile phone to call me? Besides, it was agreed that I would pick you up at the bus stop. Why did you run back by yourself? You don't understand this rule? "

I remember two nephews coming to play in the summer vacation. Also by bus, which means we agreed to pick them up. But the driver let them off before reaching the stop sign, because he saw many stops. The two children ran home as soon as they got off the bus. My lover called me when no one was waiting at the bus stop and said he didn't receive the two children! I was so scared that I broke out in a cold sweat. I haven't received it at this time. where am I going?

I took my mobile phone while changing my shoes, thinking about whether to call the police or find it myself first. Before the shoes were put on, someone knocked at the door. The door opened and the two children were as hot as buffalo.

What a surprise! Call your lover quickly and tell him that the child is at home. Then I told them that since we agreed to pick you up, you should wait at the appointed place and be there or be square!

I remember reading a sentence before: it is experience, not years, that makes children grow up. I believe my nieces and nephews will learn a lot from this experience.

My friend said that the first time I went out by high-speed train, I was dumbfounded when I arrived in high-speed railway station. So many people, so many entrances and exits, where should she go? She said that you didn't know how backward you were until you went out, and how much you knew. When I arrived in high-speed railway station, I felt like a fool. Where to get the ticket, where to take the bus and where to find the toilet! The most irritating thing is that she got on the bus with her ticket, but was stopped by the flight attendant, who kept shouting at the crowd but refused to let her get on the bus. Later, she learned that this trip was not for herself.

The first time I went out by train, I wanted to fetch water, but I didn't know where to find it. Fortunately, the conductor saw my motivation at a glance and quietly pointed to the faucet with his finger. When I came back from the water, there happened to be a sister-in-law with a handful of peanut shells to throw garbage. At first glance, I knew it was her first time to take the train, and she looked around while walking. I also quietly pointed to the more secret trash can.

Everyone has the first time, experienced the first time, and then encountered similar things, they will know how to do it. What you get on paper is always illusory and superficial. Let children go through the storm, let children learn to ask for help, and learn to deal with some emergencies. Don't think that you have done everything just because your child is still young. If you don't let him experience it, he will never grow up. Because only his experience, not your preaching, can make children grow up.

The eldest daughter went to Wuhan for the first time. At that time, her cousin was studying PhD in Wuhan and asked her to play for a few days. Her uncle bought her a berth ticket to take her to the station, and then she went to Houtang Street in Wuhan to meet her. She didn't have to reverse the car or eat all the way, so she slept all night and arrived at the station. But my wife almost didn't sleep all night, until the next morning my daughter called and said that my cousin had received her. My wife asked me:

"You don't worry, don't be afraid? In case your daughter makes a mistake, it's too late to regret it! "

"She rode away, thousands of miles away, you worry at home, again afraid useful? Besides, is this a train or a sleeper, just sleeping somewhere else? What are you afraid of? "

The youngest daughter said that when she first went to college, she ate alone and couldn't find the way back to the dormitory. At that time, I felt so desperate that I couldn't go home or the dormitory. But now, where there is anything delicious in the school cafeteria, and when to buy it, she says it is like a few treasures. Not only that, she goes back and forth from school every year.

This is my first time in Jinxiang. Go out for a walk at night, never dare to go far, for fear that I won't be able to go home. But now, I think there is almost no place I can't find in Jinxiang, a small county.

I pay special attention to letting children experience it. Nephews and nieces come to play in summer vacation and take them out in the evening. I always tell them my mobile phone number and which neighborhood my family lives in first, then let them remember some landmark buildings, and finally tell them how to get home in case they really get lost. When you go to the library, let them take their own substitute boards, choose their own books and find their own seats. ...

My second brother's son lives in our house during the summer vacation. Later, when his mother came back from Shenzhen, I asked him to take a carton of things home by bus. He said he was afraid, and I said:

"What are you afraid of? Sit at the terminal where your grandfather is waiting for you. I wrote your grandfather's mobile phone number and my mobile phone number on the carton. In case grandpa doesn't pick you up, you can call your aunt. "

Because mom is back, the fact is so tempting. In this way, a child who just turned seven or eight got on the bus by himself. However, when the bus arrived at the station, grandpa had not arrived yet. Seeing that he was still a child, the station staff took the initiative to help him call his grandfather and let him wait in the air-conditioned room.

Don't tell your child the harm of society before he has experienced this world. These will be told to him slowly after his own experience. What you have to tell him is to be a good person, and then tell him that the world welcomes good people at any time!

Let children experience bravely and learn to work hard for their own goals. We should not be meticulous parents. Because, no matter how spoiled children are, they must grow up; No matter how reluctant you are, you still have to let go. Instead of giving children a comfortable and peaceful life, let them experience, create, face and change themselves!

"I admire a kind of parents who give their children a strong sense of intimacy when they are young.

When children grow up, learn to quit properly.

Care and separation are the tasks that parents must accomplish on their children.

Parent-child relationship is not a permanent possession, but a profound fate in life.

We can neither make children feel barren in childhood nor suffocate them in adulthood.

Being a parent is a journey of mind and wisdom.

Not only parents, but also many moments in life should know how to advance and retreat. "

This is a poem by Zhao Jie, a talented woman from Peking University. I think what she said is really wonderful: being a parent is a journey of heart and wisdom. In other words, your mind must be broad enough to let your child fly freely; Your wisdom must be rich enough, no matter how tricky the child is, you won't worry. Then, you should be full of wisdom and know when to take care of the children and when to let go decisively!