My aunt died last month, and I felt it, too. I wrote a lot of family history. I have witnessed my father's love for everyone since I was a child. So, many times, I am deeply touched by many of them.

When a man cares too much about everyone, he doesn't care about his wife's feelings at all. He even prefers to divorce his wife, to protect his family and to be filial to his parents.

Just like Malik Xiaolong in Family, no matter how much he loves Luo Xiaobei, if he had to choose between his mother and Luo Xiaobei, he would never choose Luo Xiaobei.

Those ignorant and filial rural men have a deep-rooted concept:

Mine is my parents'. My wife's is also my parents'. I would rather have a hard time with my wife and children, but also let everyone live in harmony and let parents worry. If I have money, it is my bounden duty to help my brothers and sisters. If you don't help, you are unfilial to your parents or heartless to your brothers and sisters.

Yi Lee's wife earns 50,000 yuan a month.

His wife is a designer. It is common to work overtime day and night, and sometimes she has to stay up late to catch up with the design. His wife is in poor health because of staying up late and working overtime for a long time. For so many years, his wife has an oral ulcer almost every month.

The doctor said that this is related to her perennial anxiety, nervousness and staying up late.

Yi Lee's parents totally disapprove of Yi Lee's wife's hard work and pain. They think their kannika nimtragol is capable and easy to make money. His mother always said, "Your wife can't get the wind and the sun. You can earn so much money by painting a few pictures. This money is also earned too easily. "

Because his parents think it's too easy for his wife to earn money, it's almost painless for his parents to spend their money. Anyway, the daughter-in-law sat there and drew two strokes, and the money came back.

Yi Lee's brother is in the countryside. He doesn't have a formal job and doesn't want to work in other places. He just does odd jobs in the local area. Because there are few jobs in the village, not every day, so Yi Lee's brother doesn't even have a fixed salary of 3,000 yuan a month.

Two children, such a huge gap in life, make the two old people psychologically unbalanced. They take it for granted that the younger son should help the older son. This is the responsibility and obligation of the younger son, because that is his younger brother, and brothers and sisters should help each other.

Yi Lee's wife earns 50,000 yuan a month, while Yi Lee has no wife's ability and hard work, and her monthly salary is around 1 10,000. Apart from the mortgage at home and the children's tuition, Yi Lee basically has little money left.

Usually, Yi Lee's wife pays for the trip or any major accident. Yi Lee's wife is not strict about food and clothing, but she likes to buy bags. Therefore, almost every month, Yi Lee's wife buys herself a new bag.

She said to Yi Lee, "Every time I see this bag, I feel it is worthwhile to work overtime and stay up late. What are we fighting for? Isn't it just the confidence to buy what you like? "

Yi Lee totally disapproves of his wife's behavior. He thinks that one bag of his wife is worth a month's expenses of her parents and brothers combined. He even thinks it's really better to give all the money for the bag to his brother and sister-in-law.

Her brother and sister-in-law gave birth to three sons. How hard life is.

He had this idea in his heart: "My brother and sister-in-law are already happy, and you still buy such an expensive bag all day. If you give all the money for buying bags to my brother and nephew, their lives will be upgraded. "

Li Yi has this idea, and so do Yi Lee's parents. So they began to ask Yi Lee for money. As long as Yi Lee gets the money, it will be taken away.

They gave the money to their eldest daughter-in-law, who asked her to buy clothes for her three children and a school with better food.

As a result, this phenomenon appeared in Yi Lee's family.

His brother-in-law has three children, but he has made no progress. Anyway, my brother has enough money to sew off his fingers for them for several months. Yi Lee's parents are fully aware of this phenomenon. Shouldn't the good ones be given to the bad ones? It is easy for them to make money anyway. If they help, they will.

However, Yi Lee's wife not only has to pay the mortgage and the children's tuition every month, but also is responsible for the family's food, clothing, housing and transportation.

This phenomenon lasted only two months, and Yi Lee's wife began to check her husband's salary. Every month, men don't bring money out, saying they have no money. Where is his money?

When Yi Lee's wife found out that Yi Lee gave her parents 8,000 yuan a month, she asked Yi Lee why she did it.

Yi Lee even said, "You spend money on bags every month. What's the use of those things if you don't look at how others live? My brother and sister-in-law have three children and are reluctant to buy them new clothes. If you have money to buy a bag, can't you use that money to help my brother and sister? "

Yi Lee's wife therefore called her in-laws.

When Li Yi's family sat together to talk about it, Yi Lee's wife was completely desperate.

Yi Lee's parents said, "You can buy only one bag, but he can't help his brother? What's the use of those bags? People are not as important as bags. You earn a lot, don't buy a bag, and save 8 thousand a month for your brother and sister-in-law to make them feel better. "

Yi Lee's sister-in-law said, "Anyway, if no one pays this 8,000 yuan, I will get a divorce. I don't want any of these three children. A big man can't even afford his wife and children. Why should I live with him? "

Yi Lee's brother said, "We have difficulty in raising children now, so let's use you first. I'll pay you back later. You are so rich now, do you care about that little money? You will be a good thing. "

Yi Lee said, "You should buy one less bag every month."

You think such a thing is incredible. But I don't know, such things are normal in the eyes of Yi Lee and Yi Lee's family.

They think that Yi Lee's wife would rather spend money on a bag than help her brother, which is heartless. They think that if Yi Lee's wife divorces Yi Lee's brother and sister-in-law because of this little money of 8,000 yuan, she will be the enemy of the whole family.

Yi Lee's wife has lived in society for so many years, and she has a good education and status. Faced with such a thing, she finally only asked Yi Lee, "I have two choices, or I will pay you later. Or, let's divorce now. Choose for yourself. "

Yi Lee's parents began to scold Yi Lee's wife: "You are so heartless. You earn so much money by yourself. If he spends 8000 yuan on his brother and sister-in-law, you will get a divorce. You want a divorce for this 8000 yuan. The richer you are, the meaner you are. If you want a divorce, you can go by yourself. You don't want children, you worship money so much, don't lead your children astray. "

That day, Yi Lee's wife returned to her family with her daughter.

She knew that Yi Lee would not agree to divorce easily, so she had to fight a protracted war. Li Yi came to rob the children several times. Yi Lee's wife doesn't argue with him.

His parents don't help Yi Lee look after the children, and Yi Lee can't afford a nanny, so the children will only suffer if they follow him. Finally, he had to send it back to his wife.

Because Yi Lee refused to agree to divorce, the divorce lawsuit was fought for several years. But in the end, I got divorced.

The children belong to Yi Lee's wife, their house belongs to Yi Lee, and the car belongs to Yi Lee's wife. After Yi Lee's divorce, she needs to repay the mortgage, raise her daughter and help her brother.

For Yi Lee's divorce, Yi Lee's parents called Yi Lee's ex-wife heartless from beginning to end. However, they do nothing but scold.

They continued to ask the younger son for money to subsidize the older son. As for the youngest son. Anyway, Yi Lee has the ability to find a better wife. Even if he never gets married, it doesn't matter. He can adopt one of his nephews. They are very close anyway.

It's all close anyway. Are they really close?

A cousin of my husband divorced his wife and never remarried.

He is almost 60 years old now, hoping to support his nephew. Every time his brother needs to spend money, he subsidizes it to his brother. He thinks his younger brother has two sons, but he has no sons. He will rely on the support of his nephews in the future.

His ex-wife took a daughter. He thought that his daughter was just spilled water when she grew up, so she never took care of the children.

But what do his nephews think?

"He didn't build a house for us to marry a wife. Why give him a pension? It's not like he has no daughter. Who did he give birth to and who will raise it? "

Now he says, "I will give my house to raise my nephew."

His nephew said, "That house belongs to my grandfather. He died and the house should have been given to us. "

Everyone around you said, "Your uncle gave your father a lot of subsidies."

The two nephews said, "We are old in the world and young in the world. An old man who supports himself cannot afford an uncle. "

Now this old man, No Country for Old Men.

My brother, who has been subsidized for half a lifetime, said, "I can't be the boss." I can't even manage myself well, and I have no strength to manage others. "

Yi Lee may also look to his nephews for retirement.

Maybe he can find a wife who earns more money than his ex-wife. But this is about asking women, is anyone willing to marry a man who cares about everyone like Yi Lee?

I was deeply hurt by the family I came from. When I look for someone, I just need to see that this man is selfless, caring for everyone and very filial. I always stay away.

Therefore, it is a bit selfish to marry my current husband. When his family endangered the interests of my family, he solved it without saying anything.

I hope that women can be so sober about marriage and don't help the poor because of love.