It is a common desire for senior three parents to talk with their children about whether it is necessary to enter the university. Parents require their children to be admitted to universities, and some parents even require their children to be admitted to famous universities. I understand these wishes. But being admitted to a university and being admitted to it are two different things. Must be admitted to the university, parents have a little unrequited love, Alexander, the pressure on the child, I am afraid it will do great harm to the child's mind, but also cause serious consequences.

With the care and education of parents, children can be successful as long as they study hard and work hard. It doesn't matter if you can't go to college. All roads lead to Rome, and you don't have to be highly educated. There are also a few successful people without high education. Therefore, parents should care more about their children and communicate with them more. On the issue of college entrance examination, we should have less pressure, more understanding and tolerance, lower our ambitions and let our children grow up happily.

What are the "hidden dangers" that children are often urged to bring? Although many parents think that it is good for children to procrastinate and urge them more, if they always urge their children in different ways, it will still bring some problems to them.

1 will make children dependent.

The most direct problem caused by parents urging their children too much is that it is easy for children to feel dependent, which was the case with children of friends' homes in the past.

His children are very slow in doing things, but his friends are quick-tempered, so when they see the ink stains on their homework, they will start to urge them.

But after a long time, my friend found a problem. As long as his children are not urged by him, they become very slow, even slower than before.

Later, when he communicated with the child, he realized that his friend's constant urging seemed to be the child's alarm clock, so as soon as he heard the urging sound, the child knew to hurry up, but without this "noise", the child seemed to lose motivation.

Therefore, if parents urge their children too much, they may become addicted to this kind of urging, just like friends' children, and thus become dependent.

② It is easy to cause parent-child conflicts.

Some parents think that their children are born by themselves, and they should listen to themselves no matter what they do.

Therefore, when they see their children doing things, they may rush in disorder, euphemistically calling it for the good of their children.

This is a double-edged sword for this idea, or to give children enough self-space. Learning is your own business, and you must rely on your own self-discipline and hard work.