From the content point of view, there are appearance, behavior, expression, clothing, speech, treating people and so on; From the object, there are personal etiquette, public etiquette, hospitality etiquette, table etiquette, gift etiquette, civilized communication and so on. The code of conduct in the process of interpersonal communication is called etiquette, and the performance of etiquette in speech action is called politeness. To strengthen moral practice, we should pay attention to etiquette, so that people can communicate with each other on the principle of "respecting others, self-discipline, moderation and sincerity" and bid farewell to uncivilized words and deeds. Etiquette, etiquette and politeness are rich and varied, and their basic etiquette principles are: 1. The principle of respecting people; Second, the principle of self-discipline, that is, self-denial, prudence, initiative, voluntariness, courtesy, self-comparison, self-reflection, self-demand, self-discipline, self-control, arrogance, duplicity; The third is the principle of moderation, moderation and control; Fourth, the principle of sincerity, treat people sincerely, treat people sincerely, don't take part in accidental amusement, and behave differently. As a college student, "knowing, learning, understanding and respecting" is the responsibility and mission of modern college students. People should be "sincere, warm, gentle, tolerant, generous, humorous and polite". However, there are also many phenomena, such as unsociable personality, poor interpersonal skills, lack of social skills, limited language expression and communication skills, poor expression of one's own feelings and ideas, poor understanding of others' feelings and ideas, weak sense of social morality, insufficient sense of honesty and so on. There are also college students who deliberately pursue strangeness under the trend of advocating individuality. Both personal image and personality behavior are incompatible with the unconscious "image" of others, which is quite different from the image recognized by society. The reason is that "Rome was not built in a day". Many college students stay in school for several years, from paying attention to it until they are close to employment, and then they are eager to standardize their manners, dress, adaptability and etiquette. Due to the lack of correct understanding, the effect is often unsatisfactory. Know the ceremony. What is the gift? China has been called "the state of etiquette" since ancient times. The core of China traditional culture is the basic spirit of China society. Medieval culture was cultivated by China scholars in many centuries, while China scholars are quite cosmopolitan. For China people, culture is universal, and the so-called rural customs and dialects only represent a certain area. In western languages, there is no synonym for "Li". He is the norm of all customs and behaviors in the whole China world, and manages all domestic and foreign affairs such as life and death and marriage. There is a passage in the Book of Rites Quli, "Parrots can talk without leaving birds. Orangutans can talk and stay with animals. People nowadays are very rude. Although they can talk, are they not as good as an animal's heart? Husband is rude to animals, so father and son get together. It is the work of a saint, who teaches people as a courtesy and knows that he is different from an animal. " This passage clearly shows that politeness is the difference between civilization and barbarism. "The reason why mortals are human is courtesy." Second, courtesy is the embodiment of natural laws in human society. "Book of Rites. "Li Yun" said, "Husband's rites must be based on heaven, moving places and listed things, and engaging in them must be associated with art." Confucianism believes that ceremony is the application of heaven in human society. In the design of ceremonies, Confucianism imitates nature everywhere, making it conform to heaven everywhere, thus obtaining metaphysical basis. Third, politeness is the rule of all social activities. "Book of Rites Quli" gives a very comprehensive explanation, "Moral benevolence and righteousness are indecent. The lesson is correct and vulgar, and the indecent assault is unprepared. It is indecent to argue and argue. Your majesty, your superiors and subordinates, your father and son, and your brother are all indecent. An official scholar is indecent. When Ban Chao runs the army, officials act according to law. It is impossible to be disgraceful and dignified. Praying and offering sacrifices to ghosts and gods is indecent and dishonest. " This shows that all social activities have their own rules, that is, they have their own "rituals". If we want to be respected by others in every small environment, we must abide by these rules. In college, how can we communicate smoothly with teachers and get effective communication? In the process of communicating with classmates all over the country, how can we form a profound friendship and make intimate friends? In the process of communicating with entrepreneurs outside the society, how can we get his appreciation and get the help we want ... and so on, these common scenes have their fixed rules, that is, etiquette, which we must abide by if we want to get a better display in front of others. Fourth, politeness is a way of interpersonal communication. Communication between people, how to address each other, how to stand with each other, how to say hello, how to entertain, etc. are all polite rules. Politeness is a sign of upbringing, otherwise it will be unnecessary embarrassment and lead to disrespect for others. Learn the ceremony. Knowing what talent is and its importance, "learning talent" becomes particularly important. If you want to learn etiquette, you must first start from yourself and reciprocate. To respect others, we must first respect ourselves, that is, self-respect and self-love. This requires us to have a reasonable diet, scientific exercise and healthy and positive thoughts. In college, as a college student in the new era, it is very important to get in touch with something beneficial to physical and mental cultivation. For example, it is a way for us to learn how to see our inner feelings by doing some sports and attending some campus lectures that are beneficial to our own improvement and self-cultivation. In addition, listening to quiet music can also cultivate our sentiment and bathe our hearts in the restless environment of the university. Second, respect your image. First impression is very important, so appearance, appearance, manners and words and deeds are very important. Needless to say, everyone must understand this point. The third point is due diligence. We are children; Be brothers; Be a younger brother; Be a disciple; Be friends; Being an enemy ... knowing who you are is very important and simple. What we need to do is to do our part. In interpersonal communication, "people" is undoubtedly the most critical, so it is very important to respect others. Respect other people's ideas, habits, space and rights. When interacting with people, you should stand in the other person's perspective and think for the other person. "If you don't learn etiquette, you can't stand it." "Politeness travels all over the world, but rudeness cannot be removed." Etiquette accomplishment is an essential basic quality for modern people. As the master of the future society, it is more important for every college student to improve etiquette quality. Love yourself before you love him. This is the most essential core of learning etiquette. The last two points are still under study, so please pay attention. . . . . .