Don't just want to fall in love when you should make money.
Text/Yang Xiwen
? All I can think about is money. ?
When I said this, I was lying in bed at 5: 30 in the morning, looking at the ceiling and talking to myself again.
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After drinking two glasses of red wine last night, my soul became warm and heroic, instantly witty, flexible in fingers and cheerful. I actually figured out how much debt I have to bear every week in two minutes.
Two minutes later, I was awakened by the numbers written in my notebook. The alcohol in my body melted rapidly and my soul faded into a piece of chicken feathers that nobody cared about.
When I was young, I used to regard Ma Su, who advocated women's freedom, as an idol, in addition to noble sentiments. I read her story to my heart's content, as if reading a promising future. After an argument, Kong Huiling blurted out the word "roll". Ma Su slammed the door with her luggage, and when she got into the elevator, she suddenly realized that she had nowhere to go. She began to think that whether married or not, women should have their own place, that is, the base.
When Guanhu International opened, it took a fancy to a set of three bedrooms and two living rooms with a total price of 1.79 square meters on the top floor, with a total price of 3 million. She pooled all her savings and paid a down payment, nearly 20 thousand a month.
At that time, Ma Su was not famous, and the film pay was not high. Once the film payment is deposited in a special mortgage account, there is not much left. She pushed herself very hard.
In those years, she didn't dare to attend parties and dinners between classmates and friends, nor did she eat. After upgrading to the boss of Majiazhuang, Ma Su has a confidence in his bones: he doesn't depend on anyone, and every penny is his own, completely his own. ?
Later, I followed her example. I fought bravely in a foreign land alone, and the tenderness of all women on me was polished hard by reality in a few years. I vowed to own a small piece of land.
Unexpectedly, then I followed her example, and the story said? Ma Su said that he particularly disliked the feeling that he owed 600 yuan the bank when he woke up every morning?
One day when I turned 30, I stared at the numbers in my notebook, and the reality brutally proved to me that there was a debt of 843.57 yuan waiting for me at the moment when I woke up every morning.
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My best friend Hanazono Sakura told me more than once. I really regret that I didn't have the concept of saving money at all when I went to college, otherwise I would have some money in my hand now! ? I said yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, my head is shaking like a chicken pecking rice.
I have been eating financial books recently, and I hate the past every few pages. Finally, I just want to strangle myself when I was young. I coldly watched the younger version of myself fall in love with him with a suicidal attitude. I really don't understand why I can't turn around and find a job as a tutor and add a much-needed sum of money to my meager bank account instead of spending all my time worrying about it. Men are not worth relying on? .
Most girls in their twenties are? Love comes first? Yes, few people admit it in front of love? It's better to be self-reliant than to be dead set? The truth. Now every time a little girl complains to me? Ah ah, why hasn't he returned my WeChat! ! ! He broke up with me, but I think he still has me in his heart! ! Am I really inseparable from him?
I said,? You are so annoying! ? Finally, touch your conscience and say, Hey, just like me?
I think the teacher of the cram school in high school opened a small fork in the simple classroom. Don't delay the college entrance examination because of falling in love. You think I've never been young? ! I don't understand? I have a story too! But what's the use of loving yourself to death? It's on now! ?
A sentence that made us laugh in those years actually made us have a fever ten years later. How right the impassioned teacher said, I now forget whether the other person's eyes are big or small.
I calculated an account, a love affair that died in college. That was five or six years ago. Eating, drinking and having fun is 700 to 800 a month, afternoon after afternoon, which is also a considerable time expenditure.
That is to say, when a relationship ends, apart from the psychological and emotional losses of both parties, there are also money expenses and people who once cared? Will the other party reply to the text message within two minutes? Does he love me or not? I can't live without him. This is actually the most expensive time loss. What I saw when I graduated, those full of hearts? Serious business? People of the same age, some people have tapped the first bucket of gold in their lives through entrepreneurship, some people have stepped into the threshold of top 500 companies, and some people have been able to complete a graduation trip with their own savings. These peers, who are extremely envious of me, are telling me with the glory of not talking:
When you are old enough to earn money, don't just think about falling in love.
Because what you miss is the most important springboard in life.
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In my early twenties, I was a super literary young woman who was aloof from the world and didn't like money and fame. I'm wearing a long skirt, and there's a book in my wallet. There's always a poem in it:
Love as if you have never been hurt.
Dance as if no one would appreciate it.
Sing as if no one would listen.
Work as if you don't need money.
Live as if today were the end.
Yes, I'm Alfred? My youth conveyed by virtue is not afraid of the future of time, but for inner joy. Life should be as boring as poetry, not stone.
However, he didn't tell me that youth would soon end.
Instead, it was a series of personal economic crises.
My first personal economic crisis happened suddenly and romantically. After graduating from college, I decided to go far away. When I got off the plane and walked out of Auckland airport, I decided to live the rest of my life by myself. I didn't realize that the world had become digital.
Starbucks coffee costs NZ $5 a cup, drinks in the supermarket costs NZ $3 a bottle, shared room costs NZ $0/20, weekly living expenses NZ $50, weekly fuel costs NZ $20, and hourly wages NZ $0/0. I never thought money was anything important before, but when something becomes scarce, it becomes very important.
A few months later, I worked as a cashier in an Asian supermarket, standing 10 hours every day, desperately saving tuition for the expected foreign education. Reality helped me practice my skills. What if you tell me? I won 100 NZD in scratch music! ? I can quickly tell the best way to use 100 NZD: where to buy food and drink for a month. Moreover, even if I stand in the supermarket and glance at it casually, I can judge whether his life has experienced twists and turns or is still comfortable only by the actions of one customer after another in choosing vegetables.
It is difficult for people to grow up without experiencing the bitter life of wandering alone.
Once upon a time, love was my dream and my dream was love.
After the age of 25, time goes by twice as fast as before, and there is no longer only love in front of you, right? How can I find a job with higher salary? , is it? How can I afford this X-bike once it breaks down on the side of the road? , is it? Is my tuition for next semester available? , is it? When can I live a decent life and be respected in a foreign country? , is it? Why does my mother keep working after retirement? Why am I always one step away from buying a house? The reality of
I once found that 1 NZD fell into the gap when washing the car. I was happy for two seconds and then sad for a long time. What kind of life has made me like this? The price of a McDonald's cone is enough to touch my heart.
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That year, I gradually changed from a girl to a woman with a heavy heart. I am not strong. I just don't have time to cry. You can earn a lot of money when you cry and digest the sequelae of crying.
I have no time to criticize myself in the past. Why should I spend a lot of youth and money to repay the unknown love? I'm just anxious and anxious. I changed my wallet into another book, which said, "If you don't do this, it will be too late." Don't start now. ?
Remember a joke played by sister Aileen in a circle of friends? I don't care if you say I can't get married. You have to tell me that I can't make a fortune and I can't sleep for several nights. ?
After laughing, it is full of pain. This is how I feel.
Time after the age of 25 goes faster and more important than before.
Senior clinical psychotherapist MegJay said in the TED video? How important is 20 years old to a person's development? Those so-called successful people usually enter the most critical stage of their lives around the age of 35, and their twenties are an important period to lay the foundation, during which their brain or body maturity reaches the highest value. If the age of five is an important moment of intellectual development, then the twenties are an important cornerstone of adult development. ?
As we all know, most New Zealanders are? Live in the moment? Hedonism, as well as some New Zealand friends in their thirties around me, are struggling to get enough to eat. When talking about their past experiences, I found that one of the characteristics of such groups is that when they were young, they were too addicted to fleeting happiness and never thought that money might play an important role at some point in the future. Now they are almost talking together. Life has given me no choice. ?
In fact, no matter at which stage of life, no matter what kind of situation we are in, we all have choices.
Being rich is everyone's right.
I lay in bed and looked at the ceiling over and over again, with 843.57 yuan engraved in my mind. While no one was traveling in the morning, I went for a walk in the gym and swam out of the pool. At that moment, I had figured out all the sources of income for debt repayment.
The older you get, the less you control. What I can control, besides this body, is a strong heart.
I am 27 years old, and I always feel that I will be 30 years old if I close my eyes and open them again. I race against time every day, and I can still hear the sound of age slipping in my ears.
I don't have time to get angry about why my boyfriend said those things at breakfast. I have no time to think about when to wear a wedding dress. I put some emotions and reason into my feelings, and take the rest out to think. How can we work hard to accumulate before the age of 30? Just in case. The wealth of.
All I can think about is money.
I think about how to make money, so that I don't have to repeat the hardships in the future. I think about how to make money so that my parents don't suffer for me. I'm thinking about how to make money so that I don't have to suffer from those reasons. Luck is looked up and down in front of the rich and poor. Believe me, no matter how you don't care now, in the near future, such a moment will definitely make you sad for a long time.
If you are in your early twenties this year, you are obsessed with a love, or you are anxious to get angry because you don't have a lover, please spare two minutes to rationally digest this sentence: Don't just want to fall in love when you should make money, because ten years later, you will see that some people are satisfied with their present life, while others pretend to be satisfied with their present life.
Nothing will follow you all your life, no youth, no beauty, lovers may not be able to grow old together, and even money may leave without saying goodbye at any time, but believe me, the earning power gained in those years will follow you all your life, so that you will not be in hot water every time.
This is not chicken soup, this is life.
This is a hard and tiring life, which requires constant struggle with pain. Let me tell you something.