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It is said that people will have suicidal thoughts several times in their lives, but when they really face death, some people choose to retreat, while others choose to continue. Everyone's birth and destination are the same, so God has set our average life expectancy at 80 years. Perhaps this middle paragraph is what many people don't understand-the meaning of being alive.

The school will not teach you the meaning of life, and the tutor will not convey the meaning of life to you. For schools, grades are the greatest significance, and for tutors, grades are still the greatest significance. The formation of a person's ideas comes from the environment, to be precise, from the ideas instilled by people around him consciously or unconsciously. Parents have cultivated an idea in their children's minds since childhood. When they grow up and find that this idea can't adapt to the present society, his heart will be very resistant and he can't compromise with himself. It seems that there is a devil living in his heart. He tried to drive him away, but there was nothing he could do, and he finally died with the devil.

Recently, a female college student committed suicide by burning charcoal after dropping out of school. She was admitted to Wuhan University of Technology with more than 580 points, but because she didn't like her major and didn't adapt to the environment in Wuhan, she finally chose to drop out. Qin Xiao's space reveals a world-weary mood. Unfortunately, this information posted in an unusual space was not discovered by the family for the first time. In fact, in two spaces in Qin Xiao, at 9: 50 on June 26th of 165438, she posted the message that "it should only take two days", but at that time, her family was unconscious, which was the meaning of this sentence. On the surface, a person's suicide is a kind of liberation, a kind of detachment from the world, and some people classify the causes of suicide as: world-weariness, depression, emotion and so on. But in fact, suicide is only a symptom. Many people actually have the same suicidal thoughts as him, but they are forced to stop because of family responsibilities and fear of death. Suicide is not a personal phenomenon, but a social phenomenon.

Twisted values. China has a large population and few resources. We have been trained to win at the starting line since childhood and to compete for high-quality social resources when we grow up. But this has formed a single value, that is, to talk about heroes by grades, and parents and teachers use grades to measure whether a child is excellent or not. When he goes to college in the city after the college entrance examination, he will find that in his college career, he does not pay much attention to personal achievements, but a small society with diversified values. Most of the most important people in universities are students who are outstanding in entertainment, socialization and fashion. When I was a child, the single value cultivated by my parents and teachers-proud achievements-suddenly failed to gain recognition and sense of existence. Students will not envy him because of his outstanding achievements, nor because he has been top student since he was a child. Students talk about fashion, e-sports and the Internet. Parents will think that educating their children to an ideal university is the best explanation for themselves and their children. For teachers and schools, they just want to get better professional titles and enrollment rate kpi. Finally, the values he has always adhered to in his heart began to collapse gradually during his college years. He tried to change himself to adapt to this small society, but he stuck to the concept of 18 and could not complete the transformation overnight. Moreover, he clearly found that the real value of life lies in the process of pursuing dreams, which is the driving force for a person to continue to live, and the remaining material and external things will disappear in an instant. It's not that he doesn't understand the true meaning of life, but that after he understands the truth of society, he knows that his 18 years of growth has made him lose his dreams and significance. "Blind efforts are just to cover up inner anxiety" is a sentence in his diary. This sentence awakened his efforts in the past ten years, just because he concealed his inner inferiority. The formation of this sense of inferiority comes from a single value. Students with good grades will naturally feel superior, while students with poor grades will feel inferior. So he has been admitted to Wuhan University for so many years just to make himself feel inferior. In the end, the university made him understand that a person's inferiority and self-confidence depend entirely on the values you stick to, not the values instilled in you by society or the environment. Value diversification. When a rich man compares wealth with a poor man, he is confident. When a rich man compares art with a painter, he will feel inferior. Most of us, influenced by the mainstream values of society, have always regarded our wealth value as the standard to measure our success, and are often influenced by mainstream public opinion as the values compared with others. Who defines your values, who manipulates public opinion behind your back, and yourself. Although you can't control the outside voice, you have the right to decide your own thinking. (article reading network: three smells)

Study hard and don't be paranoid. What is the so-called thinking? Is what kind of inspiration we get after reading this article. By studying a historical event, how to avoid repeating the same mistakes today, what impact it has on today's political arena or other fields, and how to foresee the future crisis. The teacher focuses on the cause, time, dynasty and so on. Learning history is not to remember these historical nodes, but to learn more about and think about the direction of dealing with problems in the future. But the direction of our exam is wrong, so that the content of the professor is wrong, which leads to the wrong purpose of learning. It is meaningless to remember the time and people of each war, but what we have reflected from World War I and World War II. If learning history is not to avoid repeating the same mistakes, then what is the significance of history? If learning Chinese is not for refining thinking, what is the meaning of Chinese? If learning physics is not to cultivate discovery, then what is learning physics for? So, we studied many subjects and found nothing in the end. People who can't think can't be creative. We are a vast country with a population of 65.438+0.3 billion, which lags behind the west and island countries in science, art and industry, and deserves our reflection. Because imitation is the fastest, because plagiarism is the easiest, because invention is the most time-saving, copying other people's products, copying other people's roads, as long as you see which industry is good, you will go to which industry, and as long as you see which company has a high salary, you will quit. Therefore, we have become the OEM of others. The rapid economic development in the past few decades is not due to the improvement of our creativity and scientific development, but only because of our large population and high consumption capacity. We all lack the courage to take risks. If anyone talks about changing the world, he will be laughed at and wishful thinking. Because everyone thinks that changing the world is a joke, there are few people in China who have changed the world or won the Nobel Prize. In fact, no matter how big your dream is, you are not afraid of being laughed at. If you can't even dream, that's the biggest joke.

I don't know who I am. A person's name is just a code name. A person's life is actually a process of getting to know himself gradually. It is not easy to know someone, and it is even harder to know yourself. However, no one gave us this lesson. But this lesson is very important. If a person doesn't know himself, it's easy to get lost, find a place to belong, and it's hard to improve himself. It was when I was almost thirty years old that I gradually realized who I am, what I should do, what I can do and what I can't do. What you should do is what you get after you know yourself. You must clearly know your personality, shortcomings, advantages and conduct, and have a comprehensive evaluation of yourself. Finally, you can figure out where to go. Although, you know some roads look smooth and some fruits are attractive, they don't belong to you, so just do what you have to do. Secondly, what can be done. This is a range between morality and rationality, and you generally know that the consequences of doing so can be within your tolerance. What you can't do is you can't do anything that goes against your heart and principles. Although the risk you may bear is very small, as long as the risk breaks out, it is beyond your control, or it is an unbearable outcome, then even if the benefits are great, we must resolutely put an end to it. These are the decisions and choices you can make only after you have fully learned to know yourself. We can easily see the shortcomings of others, but seldom see our own shortcomings, which also leads to the misunderstanding of most people. Overestimate or underestimate yourself in many things, and can't correctly combine with facts. Although parents and teachers didn't teach us this lesson, in fact, they have been giving us hints in our daily life. Some parents are afraid of their children's inferiority, so they only talk about their advantages and don't talk about their shortcomings when they are young, which not only leads to their children not knowing themselves correctly when they grow up, but also makes them unable to change themselves when they can't see their shortcomings. There are also some parents who only point out their children's shortcomings and never tell their children their advantages, which will also lead to their tendency to feel inferior in the future and may lose the best opportunity in life. If you want your child to know who he is, then when he was young, you should give him an objective evaluation of everything and restore the truth of the matter, instead of just judging from the perspective of parents. You should always point out his strengths and weaknesses, but don't draw conclusions, and give him room for correction and improvement. When I was a child, my parents always criticized me for being careless. This is my shortcoming, but they didn't come to a conclusion, but reminded me of what kind of person I am. As for the rest, you can only change it by your own willpower. When I grew up, I had a view of right and wrong, thinking that carelessness was really not a good thing, so I began to correct it constantly. When I was a child, my parents always said that I was too quiet. It may seem to be a shortcoming at that time, because from the outside world, children should be lively and outgoing. These are also a reminder from my parents, which makes me more aware that I am a quiet character most of the time. But now I think this is not a shortcoming, but it has promoted my thinking ability, and there are no obstacles in interpersonal communication, but I don't like noisy environment and gossiping about others. When you know yourself clearly, you can choose your own direction, and gradually change your shortcomings and cultivate yourself into a better person. Knowing who you are is really important. It determines every choice and turning point in your life, including your future marriage and so on. Because when you know your personality and dreams, you will determine the other half you are looking for, not the marriage standard that outsiders think. Suitability is the best standard.

When you feel that life is meaningless, you must not find the source of inner happiness, and what is the source of your happiness is the answer you have been looking for all your life. Maybe everyone's answer is different, but I always believe that everything outside will not make you really happy in the end, only the inner wealth will last forever. The rich must be richer than the poor, but the rich are not necessarily happier than the poor. Is the meaning of our life money or happiness? Materials are not unimportant. Material is only content with survival. In addition, wealth can only satisfy your vanity in front of others, your impulsive consumption and your superficial self-confidence.

In fact, death is not terrible, what is terrible is how we can live a wonderful life.

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