Oedipus complex is a necessary stage for women to grow up. However, most women can start the transition from this stage, that is, from their father's concept of men to other men. Therefore, in western weddings, it is always the father (not the mother) who gives his daughter to the groom. On the one hand, give your daughter to your husband, which is a transfer of protection rights. On the other hand, it is also a delivery of Oedipus complex. From the father's side, the daughter personally gave it to another man, and there is no room for regret. Don't look for the back account; Moreover, the daughter also feels that her father personally gave herself to another man, so don't stay in her father's complex and psychologically transfer her feelings to her husband, so that she can live with peace of mind and leave no sequelae.
At this time, if a woman still has some Oedipus complex, it will be buried in the subconscious and will basically not affect her emotional life. If women can't transition from Oedipus complex, it will cause psychological obstacles and have a negative impact on their marriage and love.
There is no gender difference between lovers.
Normal Oedipus Complex Many people think that only girls have Oedipus complex, but in fact, many boys also have Oedipus complex, but there are many differences between them. In the normal Oedipus complex, most girls like a man who is as tall as his father and can protect himself, and tend to look for a man who can rely on himself like his father in future life, and that man will be more or less like his father in character or appearance. Girls with a normal preference for boys prefer the shoulders that their fathers can lean on, rather than the love that contains many factors like those girls with excessive patriarchy. Boys, on the other hand, worship and admire their father, and they learn his advantages and habits all the time. In childhood or adolescence, they tend to be with their fathers rather than their mothers. Boys' father-loving complex will not use their father as a template to find lovers, but only imitate their father's words and deeds. Boys with normal Oedipus complex will have a clear concept of right and wrong. Their Oedipus complex is because of their father's greatness and the quality they appreciate, which makes them fall in love with a truly great father. Therefore, I won't "help" my father's stupid behavior like those who love him too much.
The girl's serious Oedipus complex psychology
Among those who love their fathers too much, girls and boys have a lot in common, such as "loving their fathers more than their mothers". Girls will be jealous of their mothers, and boys will feel that their mothers are not worthy of their tall fathers, which will lead to a series of family conflicts. In childhood and adolescence, girls like to be with their father every day. As long as they see their father, they will be very happy. They neglect to crowd out their mothers, chat with others and like to brag about what their fathers are like. As long as everything his father did was right.
When people who love their fathers too much grow up, girls who know how to restrain themselves will find men who look like their fathers, and even paranoid ones will have the same date of birth. Girls who don't know how to restrain themselves will try their best to stay with their fathers all their lives, and even occasionally have the idea of separating their mothers from their fathers, which often leads to the consequences of a relationship. In childhood and adolescence, boys especially like to stay with their father all day, and everything his father says is guidance. They never go against their favorite father, like to rely too much on their father, and like to let their father make decisions in everything. When father and mother quarrel, they even help father to insult mother. If he is too aggressive, he can't bear the "humble" mother to scold the great father, but to beat and scold him.
When a man who loves his father too much becomes an adult, if a man who is very similar to his father appears in his life, then the probability of him becoming gay is very high. If not, he will insist on finding a strong woman like his father, a woman who likes to be strong, and a lover who leads him by the nose.