For parents, family education is first and foremost self-education. -Krupskaya

In our growing process, family education is an indispensable part. Every child's first contact with family, so family education is particularly important for every child. Good family education can not only shape children's correct three views, but also cultivate their abilities in all aspects and promote their all-round development. On the other hand, bad family education will not only lead to children's personality defects, but also be worse than other children in dealing with problems. In the long run, such children are prone to various problems.

Inferiority child

At that time, there was a case in China: a 36-year-old female college student spent 13 years at home, not only unwilling to go out to work, but also quarreled with her mother. Then, why is this female college student unwilling to go out to work? What happened between her and her mother?

First, parents fight

This matter has to be started from the beginning. This college student named Fan was born in a poor rural family. Due to the times, her birth not only caused her parents to be fined, but also lost her job to support her family. The life of a family is very difficult. Even so, her parents insisted that she go to school, hoping that Fan could get ahead and have a good development in the future.

Fan's father

So parents put their hopes on her and are very strict with her. Fan's parents don't allow her to take part in any activities except study. Not only that, her parents just criticized her and never praised her. This made Fan feel very hurt. She tries to express herself and hopes to get the care of her parents. Occasionally, when Fan saw that other children were learning to cook, she also wanted to lighten the burden on her parents, so she learned to cook and served the cooked rice to her parents.

I thought I would get praise from my parents, but the opposite is true. My parents said coldly, "It tastes terrible." Then they pushed Fan's cooking aside and urged her to study. This made her feel very hurt. She could only run to her room to do her homework while crying. Fan can't figure out why her parents never want to praise her.

Fan's mother

Second, produce inferiority complex.

Later, in order to relieve his depression, Fan devoted all his energy to painting. Her paintings are not only loved by her classmates, but also won awards at school. She ran home happily to show her works to her parents, but their parents were very angry and said, what's the use of learning these things? Repeated blows from parents made Fan feel inferior and his psychological pressure increased. Because of this, she took part in the college entrance examination three times, and finally was admitted to an ordinary university successfully.

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I thought her life would be different if she was admitted to college, but college life was the beginning of her tragedy. When Fan entered the university, she saw that many students were doing part-time jobs, so she went to the nearby supermarket as promoters with her college roommate. Just then, a customer asked her about the product, but Fan couldn't say it. When customers saw Fan stuttering, they burst out laughing. This makes Fan feel more inferior and even produces social phobia. Because of this, many employers rejected her, so she had to go home.

Inferiority child

Third, the quarrel continues.

Jincheng, a fan who came home, blamed his parents for his experience. In her opinion, she became like this because her parents beat her. So she quarreled with her parents at home every day and didn't go out to work. In order to get her parents to apologize to her, she nagged at home every day, which was 13 years. Now Fan is 36 years old, but he still has accomplished nothing. She once told reporters in an interview program that her mother never praised her, saying that she was worse than a dog. That's why she became like this.

Fan Jincheng

Four. abstract

The example of the above model makes us understand some truth. First of all, parents should learn to encourage their children instead of educating them in a repressive way. Every child needs the encouragement and support of his parents in the process of growing up, rather than blindly criticizing. Blind criticism will only lead to their lack of self-confidence and even inferiority. Just like Fan Jincheng, they can't get the care of their parents, and the final result is embarrassing.

Second, don't be too "blx". Everyone will experience all kinds of hardships in his life. When we encounter difficulties, don't always feel sorry for ourselves, live in the shadow of the past, come out bravely and dare to face the hardships in life. Only in this way can life get better and better, and we won't be trapped in pain!

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