Some people think that a smart child means that he has a higher IQ and is smarter, but in learning, a smart child may not get good grades. Children's usual performance can be divided into superficial intelligence and "true intelligence". The former seems to be ahead of its peers in all aspects, but it is also easy to be surpassed.
At that time, I felt that children were not really smart and it was difficult to catch up, so parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's "true intelligence".
Making children smart is not to compare with others, nor is it simply to improve their grades. This kind of "true intelligence" has a positive effect on children's study, life and work.
Experts from Harvard University once put forward the theory of true intelligence. A truly intelligent child should have three kinds of intelligence. Many parents take their children to early childhood classes and spend a lot of money on tutoring or learning talents, but they ignore three key "intelligence".
Having IQ is not equal to having intelligence. Strictly speaking, the category of intelligence is broader than IQ, while "reflective intelligence" is more complicated and influential than the other two kinds of intelligence.
Wei Kunlin also mentioned this formula in the program and explained it. Children should have "reflective intelligence", first of all, they should know themselves clearly and have good self-control. Look at yourself and others or things objectively, without prejudice. Children with "reflective intelligence" are more logical, know where their "shortcomings" are and set reasonable goals.
Reflective intelligence has many influences on children from childhood to adulthood:
Many children are clever when they are young, but when they grow up, they are "lazy" and too complacent. It seems that they are deceiving themselves. They may achieve little but often fail to achieve great things.
Having said the most important "reflective intelligence", we should also talk about children's "neuro-intelligence" intelligence. Children's intelligence and reaction speed are partly inherited from their parents, which means that some children are born "smarter" than others. However, this factor has little influence.
As the saying goes, "artists are bold". It is not enough for children to have smart "brains". They also need to be well informed and accumulate experience. In this way, children not only have a strong ability to accept new things, but also can complete tasks with their own knowledge, expertise and experience when dealing with difficult things.
Parents certainly want their children to have "real intelligence", so we should pay more attention to the following points when cultivating children.
1. Identify children's "cleverness"
When a child shows signs of taking advantage of petty advantages, opportunism, or shirking responsibility, even if he is very young, he should be corrected in time. This kind of behavior and psychology will only make him suffer in the future.
2. Enrich children's lives
Classrooms and books are not children's world. Children can take a walk outside during breaks and holidays to "see the world" and let them have a passion, such as music, sports or painting.
Parents can "control themselves" and children can "control themselves".
In the beginning, children's self-control comes from life. A clean family environment and parents' regular living conditions all affect children's mentality and habits.
Today's topic: What kind of "true intelligence" does your child have?