Kou Naixin, a famous host in Taiwan Province, said that she urged her husband Huang Guolun to do something she thought he should do in the name of "for your own good".

Every time she asks Huang Guolun to do something carefully and worryingly, the answer is usually not "thank you, wife". Her husband would pull his face down and tell her impatiently, "Why do you always force me and why do you always find fault with me?" Then he will argue until dawn.

Once, Kou Naixin was so angry that he cried and said to him, "Huang Guolun, do you have a conscience? Do you know how much I love you? I did everything for you. Please, this is your dream, not mine. "

As a result, Huang Guolun gave her the answer, "If you are really good to me, don't talk to me with this attitude, don't order me, and don't treat me like an idiot or an idiot."

/ 02 /

I read a passage like this:

"You must understand that the most important thing in life is not the sword that comes at you, but the injury in the name of love or care. Because the former will make you alert and avoid, while the latter will easily make you hurt unconsciously. You can't be knocked down by these sweet poison pills. Remember not to hurt others in your name. "

Come to think of it, each of us has experienced such a thing to some extent.

Xiaoyue is my primary school classmate, and her parents opened a small shop selling clothes in the town. As a high-income group in rural areas, I envy it. As a rare only child in rural areas, she was loved by her parents since she was a child. She never needs a job, all she wants is clothes and toys.

But she said that she is not really happy, and the older she gets, the stronger this feeling becomes. Because everything has been planned since childhood, she is growing up according to the route carefully designed by her parents and has never deviated. In high school, she liked math and physics, but her parents said it was better for girls to study liberal arts, so she finally chose liberal arts. She wanted to study in Beijing during the college entrance examination, but her parents said Taiyuan was close to home, so she went to college in the province. Even the job she was looking for was entrusted by her parents to enter the institution, although she could have a better choice with her ability.

Parents built a huge greenhouse for her with "for my own good", being careful not to let her get any harm, but not considering whether it was what she wanted.

What she really thinks in her heart is, "You know, they keep saying that they love me, and everything is for my own good, but they never give me any choice. I don't like liberal arts at all. I don't want to work and live within the system at all, but they think this is what I want. They just regard me as a tool to realize their dreams! "

/ 03 /

I know what is good for me. I really think from my point of view, not from my own point of view.

More or less, we have all experienced or are experiencing "being good for me".

When I was a child, because my parents were kind to me, I might choose a major I didn't like, go to a university I didn't like, find a job I didn't like, or even marry someone I didn't like. When I grow up, I do something I don't like because of love or friendship and become a person I don't like.

We thought it was for my own good, but in fact, we condoned the injury in the name of thinking of my own good.

Once you get used to it, you will become the same person from the victim. In this world, there is another hypocrite who hurts people under the banner of being good for me.

Please don't hurt me in my name.