1. interpersonal relationship
Entering the university, it is completely different from Lili. Lily joined the student union organization in the university. Not only did she get good grades, but she also got along well with her classmates and had a good time in the university. However, Yao Ming grew up in the beating and cursing of his parents. After going to college, he was autistic, thinking that he couldn't do anything well and didn't want to associate with others, and his academic performance plummeted. In the long-term dodge, the distance between Mingming and his classmates gradually drifted away.
2. Academic performance
Mingming and Lili have the same grades in junior high school and high school, but after going to college, their grades have opened a big gap. Although Lili is not the top student in her class, she can get a scholarship every year with her good habit of self-discipline. Mingming broke away from his parents' stick education after he went to college, gradually lost his self-control ability, started the "crazy play" mode, and was often addicted to games, which affected his academic performance and often failed.
3. In terms of ability.
Universities are basically a half-society, and most people live far away from home, so major events in life and study need to be solved independently.
Lili grew up with the encouragement of her parents. She is calm and confident in handling events, so she can easily handle the relationship with the people around her, and even if there are occasional contradictions, she can solve them quickly.
Mingming was deeply influenced by his father's bad temper and felt that many things could be solved by violence. During college, he often fought and caused a lot of trouble, which made both parents and counselors have a headache.
The two children have become like this, which has a lot to do with their parents' education methods. It is inevitable that our emotions are out of control in the process of educating our children, but after the incident, parents also need to reflect on whether their education methods are correct.
Often beating and scolding children can not only solve the problem, but also hurt their psychology and body, which is harmful to their growth. Compared with beating and cursing, it is the right way to calm down and communicate with children, help them correct their problems and encourage them more, so as to make their future brighter.