2. Chatting If she calls me more first, I will plan the next time to call her reflexively, otherwise she will say that I called you. I think it's good to be cheap. You don't love me balabala.
I will make some suggestions when I hear her complaining about her roommate at first. It's no use. On the contrary, I will suspect that I am protecting her roommate. Later, I learned well and skillfully used the skills of psychological counselors to listen to feedback. This kind of thing didn't happen again, but I complained.
For chatting online, there is no expression, no tone, no body movements, no eye contact, and the other party can't fully accept what you want to express, so if your sentence is understood as other meanings, it will be troublesome. Therefore, when chatting, consider every word, think it over and over again, and then send it out after reading it. There is no fun or desire to chat at all.
5. She: "What are you doing?"
Me: "Reading"
She: "Oh, I'm so busy that I won't bother you"/goodbye.
6. She: "What are you doing?"
Me: "Chatting with my roommate"
She: "I can't believe I still have time to chat with my roommate. I didn't even look for her."
7. Chat with her in the group where she is also present.
She: "You are dead."
Me: ". . . What's wrong? "
She: "I saw that you returned to the group, and you came back so soon."
At this point, one minute and eight seconds have passed since she didn't return to the distance. Since then, she has paid more attention to reply, always returning first.
8. When I'm not in love, my QQ message tone is off. After that, I found that this is the most humanized design.
9. From time to time, there will be "Did she send me a message?" Then I will take out my mobile phone and check it.
10, once I went to have a snack with my friends and didn't notice the message. After eating snacks, I went to see her.
She: "Why didn't you reply to my message?"
Me: "I didn't pay attention to eating midnight snack"
She: "This is an excuse. Do you think I'm boring? Will I call you if I have nothing to do? What if I suddenly have an accident and I can't contact you then? "
Me: "Call me if you have something urgent."
She said, "There is nothing urgent that I can't find you. Well, I won't look for you after that. "
Me: "That's not what I meant."
She: "What do you mean, why didn't you reply to my message?" (Go back to the beginning, and so on until. . . )
She: "Since your mobile phone is a decoration, what do you need it for?"
Bang, cell phone pawn.
As for chatting online, I think many young people are taking the same love path as me. How to avoid quarreling in online chat? I summed up three points.
1. Try to be expressive in every sentence of the chat. Please collect more different expressions.
Never talk about important things online. If you are about to be forced to do this, pick up your cell phone and make a phone call immediately.
Please return in seconds.
I feel the same way when my girlfriend does this. I still remember her famous theory "There is a reasonable ethics", which wrote: "All the emotions I feel are reasonable, because you made me feel this way, so this feeling must exist and be true." It sounds hard to understand. Let me explain. Let's just say that about the second reply, her mental journey is like this. Because I didn't reply for the second time, she felt that she was humiliating herself and took the initiative to find me. But I looked so cold that I was extremely uneasy and insecure when I didn't get a reply, because I caused her this feeling, and it was all my fault. Don't try to justify, because existence is reasonable.
Young and ignorant, I was stunned by this theoretical tiger, and I reflected in my mind. Alas, I really didn't do well enough. I looked at the way she felt dejected by Lin Daiyu, and suddenly I resented myself.
It turned into a strange pattern of her asking me to apologize. When I feel something is wrong and want to jump out, she will say, "A man and a woman, what do you care?" Send me away. So for more than two years, I apologized for all the quarrels, big and small, and she didn't once.
The University of Auckland in New Zealand took a newly married couple to do the experiment of "husband obeying". As a result, the husband "obeyed" for 12 days, and finally the whole experiment was forced to stop because of emotional breakdown.
Time magazine revealed an interesting "love experiment" this week. They invited a newly married couple, stipulating that the husband must obey everything and fully cooperate with his wife's various requirements. It is worth mentioning that this experiment is only known to men, and his wife is completely in the dark, while scientists are on the side, silently recording their views on the quality of life.
A few days ago, due to the cultivation of "freshness", the couple enjoyed a very good "quality of life", but after a few days, the man began to feel tired, and the score he filled in dropped from the original 7 (full score 10) to 6, 5, 4 and 3. The score given by his wife has not changed much, and has remained at around 8 points.
It is worth mentioning that the man not only got lower and lower scores, but also began to feel depressed on the day of 12. Finally, he even admitted to his wife that his emotions were on the verge of collapse! The man told his wife that 12 days of "obeying orders" were all "scams". He has always wanted to cooperate with scientists, and now he really can't stand it!
Seeing the situation out of control, the scientists who silently monitored the interaction between the two decided to terminate the experiment early. They point out that the real reason why a man is on the verge of collapse is not that he accepts all the demands, but that when he continues to cooperate, his wife actually changes her behavior pattern and becomes more and more severe, and finally even reaches the level of "extremely unreasonable".
An experiment at the University of Auckland was cited above. In the experiment, the happiness level of women did not increase with the concession of men, while the happiness level of men declined all the way. According to my own experience, the same is true. When I gave in blindly, thinking that she could understand my efforts, it was not like this. She just feels normal, "This is what I should do", "Can't you leave me alone as a boyfriend" and "You must always think of me". Blind submission can't improve your happiness. Love is mutual. Today you let me, tomorrow I will let you, and this life is over. Paying blindly will not bring you the happiness you think.