Foster strengths and avoid weaknesses: cultivate excellent babies and create a sweet home.
As a woman, mothers tend to pay more attention to small things and details, which makes them more quiet and meticulous and can better handle trivial things in daily life. In addition, the development of small muscles is better than that of men, so it is relatively convenient for women to do fine movements, such as taking care of the baby's daily life.
Fathers, as men, tend to have a stronger sense of the overall situation, looking at problems from the overall situation rather than paying great attention to some unimportant details, which determines that they are often at the level of "Mr. Almost" in small things in life. As long as the overall situation is ok, mothers need not be too harsh. Moreover, men's athletic ability is often stronger than that of women, so let dad take charge of the baby's physical exercise and adventure.
Men are rational and women are emotional; Men pay attention to the exchange of ideas, while women prefer the exchange of emotions. It's the same with babies. Dad talks more about his ideal and future with his baby, rationally analyzes his life, and guides him to face difficulties and adapt to society. They care about the collision with the baby's mind, but often ignore the contact with the baby's limbs.
Mothers, on the other hand, like to have intimacy with their babies, hug them more, express their love with physical contact and enhance their feelings. So when I was a child, my mother would put my baby to sleep, tell her a warm story, or hum children's songs, so that her baby would feel more secure, feel better and sleep soundly. When the baby grows up and has a certain understanding ability, he can hand over the task of telling bedtime stories to his father, and tell him more life-oriented stories and hidden life wisdom stories, so that the baby can learn more from the stories.
At a certain stage of the baby's growth, it is very natural for mom or dad to do different jobs or do more work. When parents stop complaining and put themselves in others' shoes, they can start to think rationally about their own advantages and disadvantages, and then develop their strengths and circumvent their weaknesses, show their talents, cultivate excellent babies and create a sweet home.
Mom is in trouble: under the dual pressure of career and child-rearing, her psychology is easily out of balance.
Many mothers complain, and fathers say they also take care of their babies, but most of them are good at it.
It is "grabbing the fruits of victory." When we take care of babies, eat, drink and Lazar, they are always all thumbs. When we changed the baby's diaper, washed it for free and fed it, they got together and kissed Doby baby faster than anyone else. And they also do all kinds of work and non-work things for career reasons to "escape" family responsibilities, but we have no excuse to say that we are busy with work and neglect our children.
Tired, nothing, mother was tired and happy, no matter how hard, just a smile and a hug from the baby can offset it, but it is annoying that some husbands still have a lot of complaints, complaining that their wives and adults only have babies but no men; Or complain that after his wife was promoted to mother, she became a slovenly yellow-faced woman, no longer a "woman who likes herself."
The greater pressure comes from the workplace. As a mother, I can't often work overtime and travel at any time, and I have lost many opportunities to contribute to the company. The boss gradually gave up the important task, and the chances of promotion and salary increase were immediately reduced. Some women who can't balance family and career may even lose their jobs.
Some people say, then don't do it. There are many stay-at-home mothers now. Yes, but many mothers are forced to be full-time mothers. For example, after giving birth to a baby, their maternity leave expires and their jobs are gone. For example, my job used to require frequent business trips, which conflicted with my role as a mother. Moreover, even if she takes the initiative to become a stay-at-home mother because her husband is "very talented", she will still feel embarrassed because her world has lost half of its splendor.
Dad is in trouble: it is not easy to raise a rich and blessed family.
When my mother claimed that "being a father is much easier than being a mother", my father was also crying in pain: "Men cry, not tears".
Unmarried men don't grow up, and married men don't become fathers or grow up, because they can't be well established.
Take responsibility. Only when I witnessed the miracle in my wife's belly and the birth of the baby, did a man really begin to have the pride of being a man and the pressure to support his family.
When the mother concentrates all her energy on the baby's eating, drinking and having fun, the father may be fighting against the sky for changing jobs: "I really hate this job that is not creative and can't bring me a sense of accomplishment, but the baby has to eat, drink and have fun, go to a first-class early education center, kindergarten, primary school, middle school and university, and study abroad in the future, which will be a long bill … work can't be lost casually!"
Some economists say that the house price is decided by her mother-in-law, because her mother-in-law wants her son-in-law to have a house. We can also say that the car price is determined by the newborn baby, and many private cars are bought to welcome the baby's birth. Looking at his wife's bulging belly, the first thing the prospective father plans is not to let his wife squeeze the bus with a big belly! After the baby is born, you should drive him to the suburbs to play! However, are houses, cars and tickets easy to earn back?
In order to give his wife and baby a rich and happy home and a warm and stable backyard, dad is bound to spend more energy on the charge of the workplace. No matter how wronged and miserable the society is, dad can't go home. He must play a strong husband and a strong father, which is not easy for them! Empathy: the difference between men and women determines that mom and dad play different roles.
"Mom is Difficult" comes more from real physical feelings.
From the hardships of pregnancy in October, to the pain of childbirth, to breastfeeding and parenting, all mothers have a deep understanding of the ups and downs. Especially before the baby 1 year-old, a good sleep has become an extravagant hope, let alone how much time can be used to pay attention to yourself.
The traditional family is "the man is the master and the woman is the master". Nowadays, more and more professional women shoulder the double burden of working and raising children. They should not only manage their homes well, but also work hard in society and bear the pressure from all sides.
"Dad is Difficult" comes more from a sense of spiritual responsibility.
In men's eyes, a "good father" is not necessarily breast-feeding, putting the baby to sleep, taking a bath and changing the baby's diaper. This is what mothers should do. They are convinced that they can play a great role in their baby's growth, mental health, emotional development and social skills.
Although everyone has pressure in the workplace, there are still objective differences in social expectations of gender roles between men and women. In most families, the burden of bringing home the bacon still mainly falls on dad.
In fact, dad also shoulders a heavy responsibility in the baby's growth. As the baby gets rid of the bottle and diapers, the father will begin to appear slowly, which will play a guiding and strength role for the baby. What direction will the baby develop in the future? Do you have a good personality and ability? How can we make the baby better adapt to the society? Is there any way to guide and encourage the baby ... most dads have tried their best on these issues. Moreover, these questions are very difficult, and dad can only explore them by himself.