Be interesting. Many times, men who are looking for relationships are too serious in the end, which is very common for first dates, speed dating or online dating. Men try to show their long-term value, as if they are bad-tasting but "good for you" drugs. Unfortunately, women (like everyone else) don't have that long-term idea. They emphasize their long-term qualities, so women will get bored and run away. Think of yourself as a good product that quickly becomes addictive and enjoyable.
This is the most important step in making a girlfriend. Don't want a girlfriend Be careful not to convey the meaning of wanting a girlfriend, which will put you in the position of "a man with a sense of need", thus killing the relationship between lovers in the bud. The relationship between lovers is like a train. They need fun and instant enjoyment with people as fuel for pulling the engine of the train. If you spend your time figuring out the direction of this relationship instead of shoveling coal into the engine, then the whole thing will stop slowly and it will be meaningless to either side.
As a man, your job is to be the one who brings joy and improvisation to the present. Forget the direction of the relationship, even forget whether you are in love. This is how the best long-term relationship happens, and neither side needs to worry about the formal label "Now we are boyfriend and girlfriend". You just suddenly realized one day that you and her have been inseparable for three months, and then you smiled and said, hey, I guess we are already developing a relationship. In order to show that you don't want a girlfriend, the best way is not to really find a girlfriend, but to relax, pay attention to the present moment and try your best to spend a good time with the people you are with at that moment.