The following is my knowledge of college students' etiquette norms for your reference!

First, the meaning and importance of etiquette

Etiquette is the general name of etiquette, courtesy and ceremony.

1. Politeness refers to the code of conduct that people show respect and friendliness in the process of interacting with each other.

2. Etiquette is a common form in which people show respect, praise, greetings, greetings, sympathy and sympathy to each other in daily life, especially in communication occasions, and give necessary help and care. Such as shaking hands, bowing, hugging, kissing, greeting, smiling, etc. It's all etiquette. Different nations and countries have different etiquette, and etiquette also develops with the development of the times.

3. Ceremony is a formal form of etiquette, which refers to special procedures and normative activities held on certain occasions to show politeness and respect.

Etiquette is the external expression of a person, even a nation and a country's cultural accomplishment and moral accomplishment, and it is the basic requirement of being a man. The Chinese nation has advocated etiquette since ancient times. Confucius once said, "If you don't learn manners, you can't stand." In other words, if a person wants to achieve something, he must start from learning etiquette. In modern society, although the comprehensive national strength of a country and a nation contains a wide range of contents, when evaluating a country and a nation, we usually start with the civic quality and mental outlook reflected by the words and deeds and civilized habits of the people of this country and this nation. Because, from the perspective of a country and a nation, etiquette is an important symbol of a country, a nation, social outlook, moral standards, civilization and citizen quality. From an individual point of view, etiquette is a comprehensive reflection of a person's ideological consciousness, moral cultivation, mental outlook and cultural education. Through a person's use of etiquette in social life, we can know his education, civilization and moral level. It can be seen that etiquette learning is of great significance to the formation of civilized, polite and moral high-quality talents.

Second, the reasons for college students' etiquette anomie

In recent years, the phenomenon of college students' etiquette anomie has become increasingly prominent. Careful analysis of its root causes, we think it is mainly reflected in the following aspects.

1. Lack of school education

Under the background of one-sided pursuit of enrollment rate in China, how to improve students' exam-taking level and continuously improve enrollment rate is the main concern of primary and secondary school leaders and teachers. Because students spend most of their spare time studying and lack necessary and sufficient communication and contact with others and society, it is difficult to expose the lack of etiquette cultivation to the world, and naturally it is not easy to attract people's attention. When they enter the stage of open university life, the hidden dangers left by their lack of etiquette and upbringing may be transformed into real rudeness under the guidance of some bad social atmosphere, and even a slip will leave eternal regret.

2. Deviation of family education

Many parents of contemporary college students have wasted a long time. So they pour their whole-hearted love into their children, hoping for success and success. In terms of educational methods, they lack rational and correct guidance, regard children as the apple of their eye and take meticulous care of them, so that children can gradually develop a sense of "self-centeredness", which is consistent with the core idea of etiquette-respecting and caring for others. In some one-child families, the above situation is even more serious when children are supported by "little emperors". In the educational content, there is a certain one-sidedness and blindness, eager for quick success and instant benefit. Parents mainly consider how to get their children into key primary schools, key middle schools and key universities, and relax or even give up the important content of etiquette in children's family education.

3. The negative impact of society

Due to the impact of the spring tide of market economy, some traditional ideas are being challenged by "new ideas" and "new things", and some disorders have appeared in the field of ethics. All kinds of immoral, uncivilized and impolite phenomena in society have brought negative effects to college students who are in the initial stage of forming various concepts. College students' recognition of traditional social ethical values is generally reduced, showing anti-social norms, such as generalization of disciplinary actions, frequent drinking and fighting, disapproval of shoplifting, etc. The coexistence of traditional moral thought and modern lifestyle makes college students at a loss. More importantly, young people still lack the ability and experience to integrate old and new ideas, and cannot effectively use self-defense mechanism, which will inevitably lead to their moral confusion and recognition.

Cognitive imbalance and psychological imbalance. At the same time, there are also some college students' etiquette behaviors that suffer temporarily in some social activities that lack etiquette norms, or are considered stupid and not understood. For example, some college students complain that they give up their seats on buses, and they are often given special respect. So even if they give up their seats, they have to look at people, or they won't let them. This situation has greatly affected the enthusiasm of college students' etiquette cultivation.

4. Lack of cultivation

Today's society is an era that attaches great importance to image. Contemporary college students are very concerned about their image. They strengthen the cultivation of various abilities and pursue fashionable and decent clothes, but they don't realize that it is more important to express themselves in a way that meets the etiquette requirements, so they relax the cultivation of etiquette. Although some college students realize the importance of etiquette, or have a certain or even higher understanding of etiquette knowledge, they lack standardized training and persistent training in practice, which makes it a personal etiquette habit, so rude words and deeds often appear. There are even some misconceptions that wearing strange clothes is the pursuit of "coolness", that swearing at ordinary times is "coolness", that being polite is "childish behavior", and that taking the fall for friends is "heroic" demeanor. This is another important reason for college students' etiquette anomie.

Third, the function of etiquette.

1. Etiquette education is the starting point of cultivating college students' moral quality. Etiquette itself is a code of conduct, which has both internal moral requirements and external manifestations. Modest attitude, civilized and polite language, elegant and decent manners and other aspects show people's inner cultural accomplishment, moral quality, spiritual temperament and ideological realm. Without inner cultivation, the external form loses its foundation. Inner good moral quality and cultural accomplishment can only have practical significance and function in real social life if they are expressed through certain external forms, and abstract moral theories and thoughts without certain external forms are empty and useless. Therefore, etiquette education is the starting point of cultivating college students' noble moral quality and moral sentiment. Without a correct understanding of etiquette and a profound understanding and grasp of the spiritual connotation of etiquette, it is impossible to produce positive moral feelings and correct moral judgments.

2. Etiquette education can improve college students' interpersonal skills.

The initial function of etiquette is to standardize social order and coordinate the relationship between people. The important content of etiquette learning is to learn the attitude, manner, method and etiquette of interpersonal communication, how to introduce yourself and how to communicate with others. This is a "passport" that college students must master when they go to the society, otherwise they will be "gaffed and unable to move". Good interpersonal relationships are characterized by tolerance, open-mindedness, kindness and helpfulness, the art of communication, being good at getting along with all kinds of people, and being able to gather a large number of like-minded business allies who help and promote each other. A remarkable feature of modern society is that people are increasingly interdependent. Any one's success is inseparable from the help and cooperation of others. To get others' help, we must first help others and do a good job in marriage. "Helping others is helping ourselves" is a golden rule. Forbes magazine publishes a list of 400 billionaires every year. These 400 rich people have all kinds of people, however, they all have one thing in common: excellent personality. Wexler, an American psychologist, summed up more than 40 Nobel Prize winners, and found that most of them were above or above the average IQ in their childhood, and they were not prodigies. Their success mainly depended on their good personalities. Relevant scholars believe that in the 2 1 century, with the basic popularization of higher education and the general improvement of people's cultural quality, the choice of talents mainly depends on their personality quality. From this perspective, as a modern person, you should have three passports, academic, professional and personality. Only in this way can we adapt to the current social needs of high-tech content, fierce competition and frequent interpersonal communication. Etiquette is an important way to shape high-quality personality.

3. Etiquette learning can improve the psychological quality of college students.

Etiquette has been a way for gentlemen to cultivate their self-cultivation since ancient times. The ancients studied etiquette for three purposes: the so-called "self-cultivation, governing the country and leveling the world", and self-cultivation was the first purpose. Good temperament accomplishment is the embodiment of good psychology, which is manifested in an objective and mature mentality, strong self-regulation and self-control ability, being able to properly and accurately position oneself, and taking this as a starting point to effectively regulate behavior, reflecting good self-awareness and appropriate lifestyle: rationality and strong control. Among them, rationality is an important quality of career success. Some college students often find it difficult to control their emotions because of lack of etiquette and youthful spirit in their study and life. Some students often regret after punching their classmates, and they didn't control their emotions at that time. In etiquette learning, students' self-control can be well cultivated. Confucius said, "see no evil, don't listen if you are indecent, and don't speak if you are indecent." Is to cultivate people's rationality. Good manners are to restrain and gradually eliminate your bad habits and desires, which are formed over time and naturally revealed.

4. Etiquette learning can improve the professional quality of college students.

Professional quality is the essential thought, knowledge and skills of professional people, including professional ethics, professional etiquette, professional knowledge and professional skills. College students seldom learn it in their usual professional courses, which are essential in their career. Etiquette learning can make up this lesson for them. Modern society is an open and global society. Especially after China's entry into WTO, our etiquette is more and more in line with international standards. We college students must be able to stand, sit, walk, make phone calls, and master office etiquette, conversation etiquette and celebration etiquette according to standard etiquette norms. Only in this way can we meet the needs of society. Good manners can enhance students' competitiveness. Etiquette is not only a necessary knowledge for modern professionals, but also a necessary quality. Therefore, many employers examine etiquette in recruitment interviews. Investigate students' gfd, manners and manners, and often set etiquette questions in students' casual places to assess students' etiquette accomplishment. When recruiting employees for an interview, Mr. * * * of Goldlion will see if he can pick up the broom on the floor at the door and put it away.

5. Etiquette is the fundamental guarantee of organizational image.

Etiquette is an important factor affecting the success or failure of social organizations. A person's words and deeds, clothing accessories, not only reflect his individual, but also represent his collective, which is an important window of organizational image. If you do reception work on behalf of a company, some visitors will be impressed by your manners. On the contrary, if you are rude and untidy, he may think that the quality of the personnel in your unit is low, and then doubt the image and strength of the whole organization. For example, students in our department should hold activities to attract sponsorship. For example, in the early 1990s, a foreign businessman went to a province in northern China to discuss with a county magistrate the feasibility of investing in building a pharmaceutical factory. Before signing the agreement, foreign businessmen offered to visit the pharmaceutical workshop, and the moment they entered the factory, the county magistrate took a mouthful of phlegm. I vomited at the gate of the factory, which caused the nausea and disgust of foreign businessmen, so I withdrew my investment promise. On the way home, the foreign businessman wrote a sincere letter to the county magistrate, which said, "As the head of a county, you are so uneducated that it is hard to imagine what your' subjects' will look like." The purpose of building a pharmaceutical factory is to cure diseases and save lives, not to talk about hygiene, which may lead to the result of' killing people for money'. Very subtle performance will bring you unexpected results. "For this problem, our graduating class students should have the deepest experience.

A Japanese company needs to buy a piece of land in a residential area to expand its business. Through work, all the other residents moved away, except one old lady who said she didn't want to leave the old house where she had lived for many years. She has to spend the rest of her life here, but there is nothing the company can do. When the old lady decided to show her attitude to the company, the reception of a young lady in the company changed her mind. When the young lady saw her, she bowed to welcome her. After the old lady explained her purpose, the young lady led her to the general manager's office. In Japan, when you enter a room, you usually take off your shoes. The old lady took off her shoes, and the young lady quickly gave her her own shoes. Because it was very cold, she helped the old lady upstairs. It was this young lady's noble behavior that changed this stubborn old man. The role of minimalist etiquette in an organization is quite simple. As small as a shop, a family, a company or a country, ignoring etiquette will damage the image of the organization. If it brings bad influence to the organization and the country, the organization can't stand on the society and the country can't stand on the world. Nowadays, many enterprises in society spend a lot of money to hire or select "image ambassadors" and "brand spokespersons" to establish a public image for their own enterprises. These "image ambassadors" and "brand spokespersons" are recognized and appreciated by the public because of their dignified appearance, reserved words and positive attitude. In this way, the visibility of the enterprise has also been greatly improved. It can be seen that etiquette is important to organizational image.

Fourth, ways to cultivate etiquette.

1, consciously accept and learn etiquette education, and improve the level of etiquette cultivation ideologically.

In interpersonal communication, etiquette not only reflects a person's communication skills and abilities, but also reflects a person's temperament, demeanor and upbringing.

By learning etiquette, you can improve your moral cultivation and civilization, and better show your elegant demeanor and good image. A polite and well-spoken person, his life will be a spring breeze, respected and praised by people, and he himself is a spring breeze, bringing warmth and joy to others and society. People's consciousness is not innate, but depends on the guidance of teachers, continuous cultivation, public opinion guidance of social health and a good environment. Etiquette education is the premise to fully improve etiquette literacy. Through etiquette education and training, we can distinguish right from wrong, beauty and ugliness, understand common sense and set standards, which makes people's etiquette behavior have external conditions and creates conditions for further self-cultivation. Through this important condition, college students are urged to cultivate and produce a strong desire for self-cultivation through hard work and constant tempering, and finally achieve the goal of paying attention to etiquette everywhere. The ancients emphasized "three times a day to save my body", indicating that we must pay attention to introspection in improving personal cultivation. Similarly, when learning etiquette, we should always pay attention to introspection everywhere. This will help to find the shortcomings, constantly sum up skills and improve yourself.

2. Read works of art and scientific and cultural knowledge extensively through books, internet and other channels to make yourself well informed.

Strengthening cultural and artistic accomplishment is of great benefit to improving etiquette quality. The improvement of cultural and artistic literacy can greatly enrich the connotation of etiquette literacy, enhance etiquette taste and continuously improve etiquette level.

Generally speaking, civilized, polite and educated people are mostly people with rich scientific and cultural knowledge. This kind of person has strong logical thinking ability, careful consideration of problems, thorough analysis of things, proper handling of events, and can show unique charm in interpersonal communication without being rigid.

China is known as "the country of etiquette", and books at all times and all over the world contain vast knowledge about etiquette. With China's accession to the WTO, China's foreign exchanges have become more frequent. The customs and habits of different countries in the world are very different, so it is necessary for college students to pay attention to collecting, sorting out, learning and understanding, so as to facilitate their application in practice. Over time, their etiquette cultivation can also be improved to a new height.

3, actively participate in social practice activities, and gradually improve etiquette.

In modern society, interpersonal communication is more and more extensive. It is not enough to understand the meaning and content of etiquette only in theory, but not in practice. The key to etiquette cultivation lies in practice. Self-cultivation requires both cultivation and cultivation. Without practice, self-cultivation will become passive water and rootless wood. When cultivating etiquette, we should take a proactive attitude, insist on integrating theory with practice, and actively apply the etiquette knowledge we have learned to all aspects of social life practice. In school, family, society and other occasions, we should always consciously focus on the overall situation, start with small things, and regulate our manners with etiquette rules, such as not spitting, littering, drinking in the dormitory, making loud noises or playing stereos at night, paying for shopping, and not saving money in the bank. If you persist in this way, you will gradually enhance your awareness of civilization, cultivate polite behavior, clean up vulgar and indecent habits, and become a polite person. If you practice more, you should not be afraid of making a fool of yourself. You should strengthen yourself through all kinds of interpersonal communication and constantly exercise and improve yourself. We should not only pay attention to overcoming the stubborn disease of arrogance and disdain, but also pay attention to overcoming the common problems of inferiority, timidity and dare not set foot in it. We have a etiquette in Chaoshan area: when guests come to our home, they should make congou tea for them to drink, but some students are afraid to make tea to entertain them because they are unfamiliar with it, which is obviously impolite. In fact, if we work hard, even if we don't do well, our guests will be moved by our sincerity. Some ordinary students meet teachers or leaders and think that they don't know themselves, even ignore them and dare not say hello to them. In fact, no teacher or leader will inexplicably ignore the students who greet them.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) abstract

Above, we discussed together what etiquette is, the reasons of college students' etiquette anomie, and what important role social etiquette plays in our daily life. Then, we talked about how to improve our etiquette, that is, the way to cultivate etiquette. Maybe it is not comprehensive, but I hope it can help you in some ways and remind you. Of course, what we are talking about today is more theoretical. Next, I will find time to show some CDs of etiquette lectures to freshmen to learn specific etiquette knowledge.