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First-tier urban families
Pay more attention to children's self-growth.
In the economically developed first-tier cities, only three of the 10 educational problems that parents are most concerned about are related to learning, which shows that parents in this area pay more attention to their children's self-growth, the cultivation of living habits and the cultivation of will quality. However, children in these cities have behavioral and health problems such as smoking, drinking and poor eyesight, which are not reflected in other cities.
Different regions attach different importance to family education (Figure 2).
Better communication
From a good family atmosphere
Niu Hongwei, Master of Psychological Counseling and Therapy, School of Psychology, Huazhong Normal University, and Deputy Director of civil aviation university of china Mental Health Guidance Center:
When children don't want to talk to their parents, there are several possible reasons from a psychological point of view:
1. With the development and maturity of children and adolescents, especially the arrival of adolescence, children will undergo a series of changes in physiology, cognition, social psychology and other aspects, showing a strong demand for autonomy, hoping to get rid of their parents and cope with their own lives independently;
Second, parents fail to adjust their educational behavior in time according to their children's psychological development characteristics, and they are still worried that their children will make wrong judgments and inappropriate behaviors because they are not mature enough, so they control their children too much, which leads to their resistance;
Third, some parents' parenting styles are too strict and autocratic. The long-term family atmosphere makes children feel insecure and have no trust in their parents. They think that parents can't fully understand, accept and support their thoughts and emotions.
A good family atmosphere allows children to grow up independently, maintain good attachment and communication with their parents, and get support and help from their parents when needed. This requires parents to:
First, create a warm and caring family atmosphere;
Second, not only adhere to important principles, norms and values, but also be willing to listen and negotiate to encourage children to speak freely;
Third, treat children in a more adult way and let them participate in more family decisions;
Fourth, we can constantly negotiate and compromise with our children and reach an agreement between their autonomy and parental rights.