Of course, you need to learn theoretical knowledge, and at the same time you must be able to walk into the child's heart. When the children go to college, I don't think it's necessary to care. 18 Become an adult?
The main reason is that children did not learn to stand on their own feet before 18 years old.
Yue: How to instill a correct outlook on life and thoughts in children is what parents should do from an early age, not what university their children go to. Children without a correct outlook on life are of course prone to internet addiction.
H: that's right.
Yue: He doesn't even know why he is alive. If children have been working hard to make money, there is no time to indulge in games. I just see through human nature. When it comes to education, I know nothing about it. ....
You are too young to see through.
Yue: Maybe you underestimate me.
H: It's not an underestimate.
Yue: Many people played with me, and I ended up playing with them to the death. There are many educators. Is it useful to be clear? That was when I was fooling around. There are only two kinds of parents now. One is that it doesn't matter whether children go to school or not. They can stand on their own feet, but they can't stand on their own feet and spend money at home. The other is that children don't study hard and parents are anxious. Of course. All right, let's not talk about it. The goal of life must be set by the children themselves. The more goals parents set for their children, the fewer goals they have. This is human nature, subconsciously they don't listen to other people's arrangements. If parents had instilled in their children the idea of getting ahead from an early age, instead of studying hard, their children might be much more promising than they are now. That's what society is like. Whoever has a hard background, who has money and who has a good attitude will mix. Whoever has no background, no money and no mentality will be bullied. I will say one less, and the other is the ability to deal with social interpersonal relationships, which is very important.
If the ability to deal with social interpersonal relationships is not good, it is difficult for a person to achieve much. Even if his background is hard, many people who work for him don't support him and don't like him, his career will go bankrupt sooner or later. This is ten thousand times more important than studying. With money, education in Tsinghua can be bought, although it is adult education-I found that there is little education for successful life in China now, and there are exam-oriented education for school books everywhere.
Flying freely: Yueyang, do you think the absence of parents has a great influence on children?
Zhang: Yueyang, how do you think college students should be guided?
Flying freely: the goal of life must be set by the children themselves. The more goals parents set for their children, the fewer goals they have. This is human nature, subconsciously they don't listen to other people's arrangements. You are absolutely right. Z If parents had instilled in their children the idea of getting ahead from an early age, instead of studying hard, their children might be much more promising than they are now.
Zhang: However, he can't set himself a goal in life. He can only play. what should he do ？
Yue: What if the children are changed? Just don't give him a dime, whether he lives or dies. Without money, he will find a way by himself. Isn't it still a habit of parents? Who is stupid enough to have a ready-made good life without making trouble or getting tired? Children generally hold the above ideas.
Zhang: But he is afraid of being pushed too hard. He did something bad.
Yue: That depends on your child's nature. It is usually unlikely.
Zhang: He goes to college, so I have to give him living expenses.
Yue: This matter needs careful consideration. Besides, you haven't told everyone about your children. You must treat the disease with the right medicine. Knowing the child's personality, temper and living habits, it is easy to master his psychology.
Zhang: I think my son's quality is not bad, and he has little courage.
Yue: Then you didn't do anything bad. It is often the timid child who annoys his family, while the bold child's family is too lazy to take care of it.
Zhang: I didn't give him living expenses for several days last year. He slept in the dormitory for a week and didn't get out of bed.
Yue: Even if your children graduate from college, what will happen? I didn't mean to hurt you. How did you raise your child like this? What were you doing as a parent in the early days? I have no ability to live at all. If you can drop out of college, send him to a militarized school for a while, otherwise it will be useless for him to come out of college, and his ability will be completely gone.
Zhang: I think so, too, so I want him to work.
Yue: Sleep if you have no money? How can I go to work if I can't suffer?
Zhang: In the school dormitory, I know.
Yue: This child needs tough people to treat him well, or he will be locked up at home after graduating from college. I mean to exercise his life, such as the army.
Flying freely: Yueyang said it very well!
Yue: Your child's weakness now is that he can't take care of himself, his personality is weak and timid, and his ability to live is not strong? The army is a way to train him, and there are militarized schools.
Otherwise, it will be very difficult.
Zhang: Yueyang, you are absolutely right.
Yue: He is not studying or surfing the Internet. He can't stand on the society, and of course he is tired of social life. But when he played games online, he found that the Internet was not like that. He may be the big brother in the game, so he is obsessed with the game. How to reverse his deformed outlook on life is the key. The reason why he is difficult to reverse now is because the child is always a child's mentality, and he always feels that his parents are behind him.
Yue: I have been busy cultivating children's academic performance since I was a child. Now he has no other abilities, and he has no goal to enter the university. You found the child's problem, didn't you?