2. Interpersonal interaction

We all hope that others can recognize our own value, and we also hope that others can accept and like ourselves. For this purpose, we often pay more attention to self-expression in social interaction, attract others' attention and expect others to accept us first.

The foundation of interpersonal relationship is mutual concern and support between people. No one will accept us and like us for no reason. Likes and dislikes, closeness and alienation in interpersonal communication are mutual. We like people who are close to us, we like people who are alienated from us, and we will alienate them.

In the establishment and maintenance of interpersonal relationships, we should first pay attention to the principles of interpersonal communication, and first accept and like others. Remember one sentence: those who love others will always love others; People who respect others will always respect others.

3. Let others feel that it is worthwhile to associate with you.

It is this social exchange nature of communication that requires us to attach importance to interpersonal communication and make others feel that it is worthwhile to associate with us. No matter how close the relationship is, we should pay attention to the material and emotional input, otherwise, the original close relationship will become alienated, which will make us face difficulties in interpersonal communication.

While actively investing, we should also be careful not to rush to get returns. In real life, only a few people ask about giving and don't ask about returning. When most people pay and don't get the expected return, they will feel cheated.

Losing is a wise and positive way of communication. In this way of communication, the benefits brought by the loss far exceed the losses suffered. There are two reasons for this:

On the one hand, the loss in interpersonal communication will make you feel generous, generous, self-sacrificing, emotional, helpful and so on.

On the other hand, there is no free lunch. Losing will win the respect of others, which in turn will increase our self-esteem and self-confidence. And those who like to take advantage lose their dignity and self-confidence every time they take advantage of others. In the long run, they will find no place in interpersonal communication.

While not afraid of losing money, we should also be careful not to pay too much. Working too hard will bring great psychological pressure to the other party, make people feel very tired and lead to the imbalance of psychological balance.

4. Maintain others' self-esteem

Everyone has an obvious tendency to maintain their sense of self-worth in the process of interpersonal communication.

Affirming others will increase people's sense of self-worth, while denying others will directly threaten people's sense of self-worth. Therefore, people are particularly sensitive to negative information from the interpersonal world, and denying others will directly threaten people's sense of self-worth. Therefore, people are particularly sensitive to negative information from the interpersonal world, and denying others will arouse a strong tendency to protect their self-worth, which is manifested in avoiding others or denying themselves to maintain self-esteem.

When we associate with others, we must actively support others' sense of self-worth.

5. Let others feel that they are in control of the situation

People always have to adapt to the new environment. Being able to grasp the situation will cause strong anxiety in the body and be in a state of high self-defense, which makes people tend to avoid such situations.

In the process of interpersonal communication, if we want others to accept us from the deep heart, we must ensure that others can achieve self-control of the situation when they get along with us. In other words, let others communicate with us in an atmosphere of equality and freedom.