Before the Spring Festival this year, my son, who was a freshman in Wuhan, went home, and many changes in details made us feel refreshed. For example, after taking a shower, wash your underwear and socks yourself; After dinner, I consciously cleaned up the dishes and chopsticks of the whole family; When I got back to school, I took a lot of clothes and shoes that I couldn't put on, saying that I would give them to some students from poor families ... When we saw him off at the end of the winter vacation, he insisted that we go back as soon as we arrived at the station, saying that we wouldn't let our classmates see him, and repeatedly told us not to call him all the time, wasting money. Looking at the back of him dragging his luggage into the station alone, we deeply feel that the child has really grown up. Like many parents in Beijing, we didn't intend to send our children to school outside Beijing at first. There are so many colleges and universities in Beijing, no matter what their scores are, they are not worried about finding corresponding schools. At a friend's party, a friend talked about his children's schooling in Beijing, which surprised us. He said that after children go to college, the necessary "homework" every week is "four ones": carrying a pile of dirty clothes home every week, sleeping in at home, getting together with classmates from Beijing and middle school. In order to go home quickly and facilitate the party, his child recently took a driver's license, and the family is raising money to buy him a car. My friend's story touched me a lot. I know very well that today of this friend's child may not be tomorrow of his own child. Many students in Beijing, in addition to superior family conditions, also have a problem of "capital characteristics", that is, when they were students, they were naturally shrouded in the comparison of family "backgrounds". This unique "imperial root" spirit is very unfavorable to the healthy growth of children. Being in such an environment and classmates for a long time is likely to ruin the children. Therefore, after careful discussion, we decided to send our children to school outside Beijing. Parents' determination can only be wishful thinking, and the key is that children should be willing to accept it. How to guide should be designed according to the process of the college entrance examination: first draw a bar for the child. If the score can't reach the line of Renmin University, Peking University, Tsinghua and China, can you consider a famous school outside Beijing? This was quickly accepted; The second step is to constantly introduce him to the academic advantages, campus scenery, history and culture of famous universities in various provinces, so that he has a good impression; At the same time, he led him to visit several non-comprehensive university campuses with high grades in Beijing, which formed a contrast in environmental impression and gradually made children accept universities outside Beijing ideologically; The third step is to invite friends of some children who go to college abroad to get together from time to time to talk about all kinds of gains and anecdotes of children studying abroad, arouse their yearning for a "free new life" and dispel all kinds of concerns. Filling in your wishes is the key to your final decision. That night, we relaxed and consciously adjusted the family atmosphere, talked about the exciting scene when we left home for college, talked about the growth process of independent life after going to college, and looked forward to the colorful life in college. At the same time, we greeted his class teacher in advance to encourage him. At the same time that he volunteered to apply for a university outside Beijing, we also suggested that he apply for a university in Beijing among the schools admitted in advance (later he was not admitted because of insufficient scores), leaving him plenty of room. Under our careful design and persuasion, finally, the child happily embarked on a journey to Wuhan to go to school.