Come to think of it, so is marriage. In other words, the end of love is marriage, so everyone can't live without marriage.

In marriage, the most important thing for both husband and wife is mutual trust, mutual understanding and down-to-earth attitude. Because a happy marriage is not achieved overnight, it is impossible to get happiness through marriage. Marriage requires husband and wife to run together to get happiness.

There is an interesting question: Do you think lovers should keep secrets?

In fact, this question depends entirely on what the individual thinks. Some people think that there should be no secrets between lovers, because to trust each other, secrets will break this trust and be bad for marriage.

Some people think that couples should have secrets. After all, people are independent individuals and some secrets are human nature. If you are completely exposed to the other half, you will lose your mystery, which is not conducive to the feelings between husband and wife.

In fact, in my opinion, I think husbands and wives should keep proper secrets. Some secrets that are difficult to say and may affect the relationship between husband and wife can be kept. If the other party asks, you should also be honest with each other. After all, the longer you hide it, the more likely it is to affect your's relations.

In fact, everyone has secrets in their hearts, and we don't want to share them with others, so it is only suitable for being buried deep in our hearts. Even with the other half, it's hard for us to talk. It's best to hide this secret and let time heal it.

But some people are very controlling, especially the other half. They are eager to know everything about their partner, including secrets. But some secrets are hidden, because once exposed, they will hurt each other.

So I suggest treating feelings and learning to control your desire for control. Don't pry into your partner's secrets. Because sometimes the truth can be cruel.

Reader Jia Yu is a man with a strong desire for control. When he treats his wife, he can't wait to know what happened to her since she was a child. This kind of personality is too extreme and easy to hurt each other. It was also because of personality problems that Jia Yu finally lost his marriage.

Today, Jia Yu is in great pain. He doesn't know whether the divorce is his fault or his wife's fault, or whether both of them are at fault. But he is always worried about his wife's secret and can't sleep at night. That's why you came to me.

Jia Yu is 27 years old and works in a state-owned enterprise with a good income. His family is okay, his parents are employees of state-owned enterprises, and he is the only child in the family, so his parents spoil him very much.

In fact, his personality has a lot to do with the love of his parents when he was a child. After Jia Yu worked, his parents began to worry about his emotional problems, but Jia Yu was in no hurry.

Jia Yu and his wife Jed met at a friend's birthday party. That day, Jia Yu saw that Jade was very beautiful and was very moved, so she started to strike up a conversation. The two people chatted very well that day and found that there were many topics to talk about. So I left contact information with each other that night.

After that, Jia Yu often chats with Sapphire on the Internet, and will ask her out during the break. They will have dinner and watch movies together or go to road trip. After a period of contact, Jia Yu confessed to sapphire. Jed promised her.

Jade is lively and good at deceiving men. Jiayu was fascinated by her and wanted to give her everything she had.

Two people have lived together for less than two months. Living together in the house that my parents bought for Jiayu, Jade can spend money on weekdays, and the salary is not enough. Jiayu has to give her some.

Jiayu loves sapphire very much, so everything depends on her. It's just that Jia Yu is too controlling and often asks about sapphire's past. From childhood to now, Jia Yu can't wait to know everything. This makes sapphire very upset.

In fact, Jiayu cares most about how many boyfriends Sapphire has had. He kept pressing sapphire, but at first sapphire didn't want to answer. This made Jia Yu very uneasy. He broke a cup at home and frightened sapphire.

Finally, sapphire told him that she had only had one boyfriend, in college. Not anymore. Jia Yu didn't believe it until he proved it again and again.

There are many such things. Every time Jiayu apologizes to Sapphire, saying that she just cares too much about her, so she wants to know.

Actually, there is something wrong with sapphire. She has some material things and often asks Jiayu to buy her luxury goods. Jia Yu's salary is spent on her every month, but Sapphire is still not satisfied and doesn't like Jiayu earning less.

Two people talked about love for more than a year, and Jiayu proposed to sapphire. In this way, two people got married.

In fact, the days after marriage have not changed much, but sapphire is becoming more and more extravagant. They often work part-time and owe a lot of credit cards. To this end, Jia Yu had to find a part-time job to support his family.

Even though sapphire can spend so much money, Jia Yu still loves her dead set, but sapphire always doesn't like him making less money and says something to stimulate him. Two people often have a little friction.

The days passed by until one day, Jia Yu met his former friends and they chatted for a while.

He looked shocked when his friends learned that he had married a sapphire. Q: "Do you know her? You married her? "

Jia Yu was puzzled and replied, "Of course, we have been together for two and a half years."

The friend looked at him strangely and said, "Then you are a generous person. You know, she lives with black people at school. "

Hearing the news, Jia Yu came as a bolt from the blue. He immediately grabbed his friend and said, "What did you say? She lives with a black man? When did this happen? "

When a friend saw him like this, he knew he didn't know, so he told him the truth.

It turns out that sapphire talked about a black boyfriend in college. The black man is an international student. Jed talked to him for more than a year and moved in together. Finally, the black man returned to China and the two broke up. However, the fact that sapphire lived with a black man was widely circulated at that time, and many boys were discouraged from her.

Jia Yu suddenly collapsed to the ground. He never imagined that sapphire had such a love story that he didn't even know. In a rage, he ran home and questioned the authenticity of sapphire.

Jed knew his secret was exposed when he saw him like this, so he had to admit it was true. Jia Yu flew into a rage and accused her of deliberately deceiving herself, yelling at the sapphire and starting to smash things. Sapphire sobbed with fear.

After venting, Jia Yu recalled getting along with sapphire in recent years, thinking that she was too materialistic and kept it from herself, so Jia Yu insisted on divorcing her regardless of sapphire's begging.

After the divorce, Jia Yu was in great pain. He once told me frankly that he really couldn't accept the fact that his wife had lived with a black man, and he couldn't stand her high demands and always squandered money.

In marriage, both husband and wife will keep secrets from each other, which will either destroy the relationship between husband and wife or be secrets that they are difficult to tell.

In fact, many times the meaning of secrets lies in hiding, because once exposed, they will hurt each other. So many times it is difficult to be confused.