All parents want their children to become better and have the ability to face and solve difficulties independently. But there will always be some children who don't have this ability. When faced with difficulties, they will be very scared and their inner endurance is very weak. This kind of behavior will make parents feel particularly headache. I also thought about letting children make changes, having the ability and courage to face difficulties and exercising their psychological endurance. But it's no use.
Some time ago, a news broke out on the Internet:
A graduate student of Communication University of China was rejected by her tutor and blacklisted, which led to her death by jumping off a building. It was widely circulated for a time, and everyone was accusing the tutor of his wrong behavior. This student is in the flower season, because such a thing committed suicide by jumping off a building, which makes many people feel sad.
Among them, some people are puzzled by the student's behavior. Explain that the inner endurance is too weak to bear the blow of society, which also has a certain relationship. At present, most children will have very weak inner endurance for many reasons. Often after encountering setbacks, the blow to them is very great, and even serious will lead to loss of confidence in life and some extreme behaviors.
What effect does weak inner endurance have on children?
To put it bluntly, children have weak ability to resist blows. Now, after encountering setbacks, some children often show great inferiority, lose confidence in themselves, and the inner pressure will not be released for a long time, which will lead to introversion and self-isolation, and refuse to communicate with others. There will also be serious mental illness, often becoming very irritable and often doing some extreme things. Communication can ease their inner feelings.
How should parents cultivate their children's anti-strike ability?
Let go of your hand properly.
Many parents overprotect their children when they are young, and when they encounter setbacks, they will take the initiative to help them solve problems, resulting in a kind of "arranged" education. It is necessary to let go of your hands and feet appropriately, so that children can face setbacks in life from an early age and exercise their independent ability. At first, children may want to back down or ask for help. We can guide and encourage them. Slowly, children will have the ability to face problems independently and improve their resistance.
Let children face up to setbacks
In normal life, children will encounter many setbacks. At this time, children should be trained to face up to the immediate setbacks. No one can have a smooth journey. It's normal to encounter setbacks. Often after overcoming setbacks, what we get will make us better. Let children understand this truth, so that they will not be afraid of setbacks in the future. Let them realize the benefits that can be brought to us after overcoming setbacks.
Parents should let their children have the courage and ability to face setbacks from an early age. Avoid giving children the wrong education. Often some parents are always lucky and always talk about "children are still young". Overprotection can lead to children's dependence on their parents. When they face problems independently, they will panic and have no ability to bear failure. If they do this for a long time, it will also lead to depression and do some extreme things. Parents must cultivate their children's good anti-strike ability and make their children's hearts strong enough.