Case 1 indulgence psychology
Dongdong is a senior three student in a key middle school. After finishing the last subject of the college entrance examination, he first partyed with his classmates all night, and then started new "craziness": watching TV, surfing the Internet, sleeping late, traveling abroad and so on. Finally, on this day, he wanted to release all his pent-up desire to play.
Comments: Candidates like Dongdong are indulgent, and such candidates account for a considerable proportion in the group of candidates. They think that the end of the college entrance examination means that they have come to an end, so they should treat themselves well and make up for their hard work over the years, so they play freely. There are also some parents who have fabricated and connived at their children's behavior, so this phenomenon is getting worse. Some candidates have contracted some bad habits and even gone astray seriously. There are several mixed cases every year, so pay attention to them.
Suggestion: College entrance examination students generally pay attention to the rules of diet and sleep before the exam, but after the exam, the biological clock suddenly changes or even reverses, which is very harmful to the candidates' body and mind. Therefore, candidates are advised to "indulge moderately and relax moderately", return to a regular life as soon as possible, spend the post-college entrance examination period healthily, happily and fully, and even make corresponding preparations for the upcoming new life.
Case 2 Depression Psychology
After the college entrance examination, Ding Ding felt that he didn't play very well. After evaluating the scores, he felt that he would miss out on the ideal university. He was very introverted and his mood began to get very low. He kept thinking about the scene of the exam, doing the college entrance examination questions over and over again, thinking about the wrong questions, and his sense of loss was out of control.
Comments: The performance of such candidates is that they can't eat well, sleep well and feel depressed. Some are accompanied by compulsive thinking and behavior, self-blame and self-blame. It is easy to go into psychological misunderstanding, even because their personality is abrupt and irritable, which makes people feel unreasonable. When they quarrel with their families, their emotions are on the verge. In severe cases, suicidal thoughts will occur, and even suicidal behavior will be taken.
Suggestion: This period after the college entrance examination is a period of high incidence of students' psychological problems. We must capture and sort out the emotions of college entrance examination students in time, adjust bad emotions in time, prevent problems before they happen, and don't let the college entrance examination become a pain and nightmare in many lives.
Say to the candidate:
1. Don't stay in the past exam scene, go back to the present and have a correct understanding of the college entrance examination and your future. When the college entrance examination becomes a thing of the past, the candidates who consciously accept and fail in the exam should be prepared for failure. All roads lead to Rome, and the college entrance examination is not the only way in life. For better or worse, start over. You can't give up many other roads because of one mistake.
2. Face up to your emotions. When negative emotions appear, don't be afraid and adjust them in time. For example, chatting with parents or good friends, or taking part in some beneficial exercises to get rid of bad emotions. Of course, you can also find a professional teacher to guide you correctly.
Say to parents:
1. Don't put too much pressure on children, and don't blame those children who didn't do well in the exam or didn't do well in their studies. Try to stay normal. Don't be indifferent, and don't be too eager, otherwise it will easily form negative hints for candidates and increase psychological pressure.
2. Communicate with children more. The results of college entrance examination are of course important, and children's mental health and happy growth should be said to be more important.
3. Pay attention to children's behavior, understand their psychological changes in time, make correct guidance, and accompany children to spend this waiting period safely. Once a child is found to be depressed and irritable, parents should attach great importance to it, guide it in time, and borrow the help of professional institutions if necessary.
The annual college entrance examination is a gateway for every candidate, so the competition among candidates is inevitable. During this period, the nervousness before the exam is almost an invisible pressure for every candidate. Some candidates can consciously turn this pressure into motivation because of their good psychological quality, while others are nervous, insomnia, anxious and even bored because of their anxiety before the exam. Their palms will sweat and their hearts will beat faster when they think of the little time left and the solemn examination room. Therefore, a good attitude is an important magic weapon to win the college entrance examination. How to adjust the mentality before the exam, you can refer to the following ten skills:
First, be firm and confident.
No matter whether you are the first in grade or have a certain gap with others, don't forget to get up with confidence every day. Regardless of personal circumstances, everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. Some students have a solid foundation, and no matter how the college entrance examination changes, they can handle it with ease; Some students are flexible and agile, have certain innovative thinking and strong understanding ability, and are especially suitable for innovative life problems; Some students have extensive reading, broad vision, good psychological quality, strong ability to resist setbacks, and are good at playing beyond the level. In any case, on the eve of the college entrance examination, don't blame yourself too much for your shortcomings and deficiencies, but look more, think more, recall your strengths and potentials, and inspire self-confidence.
Everyone who has made outstanding achievements is guided by strong self-confidence in life and career. Hilton is the king of hotels in the world. Now he has hotel branches all over the world, but he started with only $200. What made him successful? Hilton replied: There are only two words, and that is "confidence".
It can be seen that self-confidence breeds success, and self-confidence can make you create miracles. Napoleon said, "There is no such word as impossible in my textbook." It is this self-confidence that inspires his unparalleled wisdom and potential, making him a big star that is popular in Europe.
In reality, if self-confidence does not necessarily make you successful, then losing self-confidence will definitely lead to failure. Many excellent results are due to students' failure in the college entrance examination. They lost not in knowledge and ability, but in confidence.
Second, optimize the mood
Psychology believes that emotions play a very important role in people's study and life. They are like dyes, which make people's study and life stained with various colors. There is a story about an old woman who loves her two daughters very much. Both of them are vendors. One sells umbrellas and the other sells cloth shoes. My mother-in-law is worried that her eldest daughter's umbrella won't sell and cries all day. On rainy days, she was worried that her little daughter's cloth shoes could not be sold, and she cried all day. Neighbors call her a crying mother-in-law. Later, a gentleman opened her and said, "I'm happy for you." Your eldest daughter's umbrella sells well in sunny days, and your youngest daughter's shoes sell well in rainy days. "Hearing this, the mother-in-law immediately turned from cloudy to sunny, from crying to laughing, and the neighbors called her smiling mother-in-law. The story of crying mother-in-law changing into laughing mother-in-law shows that the same thing, different perspectives, different emotions and different results. Look at the problem from another angle, and your mood will naturally adjust. In preparing for the exam and the college entrance examination, we should learn to transfer our emotions and adjust them to the best state. When you are nervous, listen to light music, hum minor tunes, or reach out, bend over, shake your neck and twist your ass; Or walk outdoors, watching clouds and listening to frogs; Or chat with classmates, tell interesting stories, and be humorous. Take a deep breath and look out the window of the examination room. Through these, we can adjust our psychology and optimize our mood.