1. Most of them are only children with low psychological endurance. From birth, everything is run by parents. They don't know what to do when they encounter some problems that need to be solved by themselves. Especially when they try to do something well and fail for some reason, they feel that God is unfair. Why did I pay so much and get nothing? Why do I fail in everything I want to do well? . . . .

2. It's too realistic that the present society lacks spiritual sustenance. There are too few friends who really understand you and can share joys and sorrows. I found that I like staying at home more and more, with fewer text messages and fewer phone calls, and my feelings with my former good friends have faded. . . . Some people may say that he knows a lot of people, but those people just know each other and become strangers when they pass by. Everyone needs a confidant who can live in your heart. He will be your best spiritual medicine when you are confused and helpless. No matter when and where, you will feel that you will not be alone, because there really is someone who will always be there. . . . By your side. But in reality, you can't say no, but it's often not as perfect as you think.

A university with no ideal, no goal and no pursuit is too comfortable. It is like falling into the 19 floor of hell and slowly becoming numb. No matter how good a child is, he thinks about skipping classes every day and studying hard tomorrow. In fact, he knows that tomorrow, he will still say the same thing to himself, or tomorrow. . . . . But I will never study as hard as I said. Perhaps because of the surrounding environment, everyone doesn't study and there is no pressure. For example, if the third year of high school is hell, then the university is definitely heaven. At the same time, it is also a hell and a degenerate destination. Everything around you seems to have nothing to do with yourself. If something goes wrong, you can't adapt. But if you want to get ahead in your bones and look at yourself in reality, you will accomplish nothing. Then look at those successful people around you, maybe former classmates or friends, and feel that living is really boring. . . . ?

After all, I still don't have a good attitude to face all kinds of realities. . . . . Sometimes I think it would be nice if everyone had Jiang Xihao (the teacher in the TV series "Learning God" who helped the worst students find their life direction again and rushed into key universities with them). . . . . . Unfortunately, in this life, next life, it is impossible for me to meet. . . . .

The suicide rate of college students is four in ten thousand.

In recent years, many colleges and universities have reported the news of college students' suicide. According to Beijing Youth Daily, in 1995 alone, 14 college students (including graduate students) committed suicide in Beijing. In less than 10 days on February 20th, 22nd, 27th and March this year, there were four consecutive suicides in a university. Except for the second employee, the other three are all students, including an undergraduate and two graduate students. Some people exclaim that college students' suicide is suggestive and contagious. According to statistics, at present, the suicide rate of college students in China has reached four ten thousandths. Although this ratio is not as good as the world average (the world average suicide rate is one in 70,000 to 80,000), it is enough to attract the attention of the whole society. Because the tragedy didn't end there.

Chen, a teacher in the Department of Sociology of Huazhong University of Science and Technology, used the "Suicide Attitude Questionnaire" to investigate the suicidal thoughts and attitudes of 1, 0 10 college students by stratified sampling. The results show that 65,438+00.7% students have suicidal thoughts.

Cheng Xiaolong, a student from School of Information, Beijing Union University, distributed 200 questionnaires in four universities in Beijing, specifically to investigate the suicide of college students. In 189 valid questionnaires, nearly one-third of the respondents admitted that they had suicidal thoughts.

What caused these young students to choose death?

Some people have concluded that psychological barriers, physical diseases, pressure of study and employment, emotional frustration, economic difficulties and family changes are the main causes of college students' suicide. According to a survey conducted by the Psychological Crisis Intervention Center of Nanjing University Students, love frustration and study pressure account for 44.2% and 29.8% of college students' suicide causes respectively. It is emphasized that colleges and universities should strengthen students' psychological consultation and guidance. For example, according to international practice, every 1000 college students should have a counselor, while in China, 5,000 college students can't have a counselor.

Specific incentives are not the root cause.

In my opinion, psychological obstacles, physical illness, pressure of study and employment, emotional frustration, economic difficulties and family changes are only the specific reasons for college students' suicide, not the most fundamental ones. What is the most fundamental reason? Frankly speaking, our culture has deviated. Without profound reflection and effective adjustment of our culture, even if there are more counselors, even if 100 college students have a counselor, it will be of no help. There is a simple reason. When a disease is prevalent, no amount of hospitals and doctors can only play the role of treatment and rescue, but can't control the occurrence and spread of the disease. The best way to control the occurrence and spread of diseases is to establish an effective disease prevention system. Different from Europeans and Americans, China people can't go to see a psychologist generously and calmly and receive psychological consultation. Once a person is found to have gone to a psychological counseling room or a psychological clinic, he may be regarded as a problematic and abnormal person by the people around him, which will have a serious impact on his employment, promotion, love and making friends. This is caused by China's national habits, which cannot be changed in a short time. In fact, the psychological counseling rooms set up in many universities are empty and ineffective. So we advocate psychological counseling, but at least in the short term, don't hold too much hope for it.

The Essence of Oriental Culture: Good as Water

Every culture has its own adjustment mechanism. Especially China culture, as the oldest and most vital culture in the world, has a perfect adjustment mechanism. What is the adjustment mechanism of China culture? In short, it is the combination of rigidity and softness, the complementarity of yin and yang, the degree of relaxation and the degree of advance and retreat. The greatest feature of this culture is its resilience and flexibility. For example, Confucian culture is a kind of "enterprising" culture, a kind of "knowing what to do" culture, and a very utilitarian culture. People cultivated by this culture often have a rigid, strong enterprising spirit, a strong will, a hard-working spirit, and an irresistible idea of getting ahead, or becoming famous. The disadvantage of this culture is that rigidity is greater than flexibility, and there is tension and no relaxation, and I don't know how to retreat. Its characteristics are like a mountain. Its precipitousness, firmness and tenacity are respectable, but it is too solid, lacking spirituality and uncompromising, and it is difficult to avoid the fate of being hurt and destroyed. This congenital deficiency of Confucian culture is made up by Taoist culture. Taoism advocates "inaction". Of course, this kind of "inaction" is not doing nothing, not doing nothing forever, but doing something, doing something wrong, doing what you can, and doing something wrong. This is a flexible culture. Its characteristics are like water. The ultimate goal of water is to flow to the sea, and its aggressiveness is beyond doubt. But if there is a peak ahead and you can't rush through it, you will turn a corner and make a detour. It won't bite the bullet and bump forward. It won't hurt. So the ancients said, "Good is like water." People trained by water culture often have enterprising spirit and know proper compromise, detour and concession; It is both principled and flexible.

China culture with complementary Confucianism and Taoism is a very mature culture, and no other culture in the world can achieve such a state of combining rigidity with softness. Therefore, some scholars are very confident that the western culture represented by American culture will eventually move closer to the eastern culture represented by China culture. American culture with "cowboy spirit in the west" as its core is an "enterprising" culture, which often only knows not to give up. This kind of culture is beneficial to industrialization and modernization, but it is difficult to come up with effective solutions to many problems of post-industrialization and post-modernization. China's medicine, qigong, martial arts, calligraphy, painting, literature, language, drama, cooking, tea ceremony, philosophy, Zen and so on. It is a series of spiritual cultures that combine rigidity and softness, complement yin and yang, have relaxation, advance and retreat, and are increasingly loved and even worshipped by Americans, which is the best proof.

"Rigid culture" is exhausting.

Undeniably, China's traditional culture has its inherent shortcomings. Confucian culture ignores individual needs, natural science and material interests, and Taoist culture is passive and lazy, which hinders the construction of industrialization and modernity to some extent. Therefore, in the past 30 years of reform and opening up, many people's attitudes towards China's traditional culture are generally more negative than positive, while abandoning them than promoting them. Some people even blame the traditional culture of China on the history of China's backwardness and beatings for a hundred years. In the past 30 years, what has been highly sought after in China cities is not the excellent China traditional culture we have, but the American culture screened by Hong Kong and Taiwan cultures. This kind of culture has formed a bizarre combination with the Confucian culture of "rigidity is greater than flexibility, tension is not relaxed, and knowledge is not retreated", and its immaturity is obvious. In this cultural background, "never give up", "never give up" and "never admit defeat" have become the most frequently used and respected popular words, while "compromise", "concession", "waiting" and "giving up" have often become synonymous with conservatism, backwardness, mediocrity and incompetence. I only know that there is progress, but I don't know that there is retrogression; Only know that there is a win, I don't know that there is a loss; I only know how to take, not how to give up. I only know firmness, not softness. This is a highly competitive, utilitarian and noble culture. In such a cultural environment, a city dweller's life goal is often locked in the best kindergarten, the best primary school, the best middle school and the best university, and then find the most decent and highest-paid job, find the most suitable partner, build the richest family, live the happiest life, then give birth to the smartest children and send them to the best kindergarten ... Many people are trying to find this series of "most" words.

Nowadays, many college students are largely influenced, instilled and cultivated by this culture. I call this culture "rigid culture". This is a culture that does not know fatigue, but in essence, it is a culture that is most prone to fatigue. Excessive fatigue means fracture and death. The suicide of college students is the result of this "rigid culture" that does not know how to retreat, how to detour and refuse to compromise. As mentioned above, 44.2% of college students who choose to commit suicide are frustrated by love. They don't understand that love can wait, choose or even give up. The "rigid culture" they accept tells them that they must get him or her, or they would rather die if they don't get him or her.

"Indicator culture" forces fraud to become a common practice.

"Rigid culture" is a highly competitive culture. Competition must have a goal, and the quantification of the goal becomes an "index culture". We now evaluate a person, mostly through some artificial indicators. What is the best student? The most commonly used indicator is the score of the exam; What is the best teacher? The most commonly used indicators are academic qualifications, professional titles, papers, scientific research projects, award-winning level and quantity, and so on. Today's university campus is actually shrouded and controlled by this "exponential culture". In fact, there are indicators and there are frauds. Because not everyone can achieve their goals. If everyone can reach the standard, what indicators will be set? However, many people want to get the greatest benefits and honors, so they have developed the habit of making fraud, and the fraud disclosed by the media is only the tip of the iceberg. As a result of fraud, people who are truly talented, capable and contributing, without real talent and substantial contribution, often cannot compete with those who are good at public relations bribery. Such an "indicator culture" environment, which is difficult to distinguish between true and false, is unbearable even for old teachers with certain life experience, not to mention those simple and fragile college students. Among the college students who choose to commit suicide, 29.8% are due to the so-called "study pressure". In fact, learning should not be stressful, and learning should be a happy thing. If I freely absorb human knowledge and wisdom and use it for my own enjoyment, can I be unhappy? In fact, the real pressure comes not from the study itself, but from the test results. Many college students commit suicide because they failed in the postgraduate entrance examination and failed in the CET-4 and CET-6. In the final analysis, it is the "indicator culture" that has harmed them. Don't you pass CET-4 or CET-6 and even have no qualifications to be a man? This truth is simple, but the "rigid culture" and the "indicator culture" derived from it make him or her unable to recall and unwilling to recall. He (she) has only one road to darkness.

"Rigid culture" and "indicator culture" have penetrated into our university campus. Therefore, to examine college students' suicide, we must reflect and adjust our culture. We should coordinate "rigid culture" and "flexible culture", "index culture" and "non-index culture".