A while ago, Bian Xiao brushed Weibo and saw a news that a relative's child watered his piano with mineral water when he was a guest at his home. But the child's mother said that the child was not sensible and kindly helped him wash the piano. He had no choice but to admit that he was unlucky. As a result, not long after, the child and his mother ran into a musical instrument store while shopping, and "washed" a piano worth more than 600,000 yuan with coke.
In this way, it is natural to know that the merchant will not care about your child's size, kindness and unkindness, and can only compensate according to the price. In the final analysis, the founder of Xiong Haizi was none other than their parents. They don't know how to make children learn to behave, be honest and be educated. The end result is that sooner or later, Xiong Haizi will either deceive himself or his parents.
Now I feel that Xiong Haizi has invaded the earth, and there seems to be more and more Xiong Haizi around me. Bian Xiao went to eat two days ago. At that time, there were a lot of people in the same position. A little boy jumped up and down for a while, messed up the snack table and broke the drinking cup.
The waiter told his parents after seeing it, but was scolded by his parents, saying that it was not broken by his own children, and insisted on asking the manager to teach the waiter a lesson. That disgusting face really makes people reluctant to look at it again. This parent only neglected the influence on his children for temporary maintenance.
Once a child understands lying, he can escape the blame or let the physical pain come as late as possible, and he may gradually become an expert in lying. Children are forced to lie. If telling the truth can benefit, who is willing to risk lying?
Many children have a puzzle-why do adults lie and children don't? When the child thinks about this problem, it shows that he has found that adults often lie. We often explain to our children that our lies are "good". But for children, kindness or malice is a lie.
As the saying goes, parents are the best teachers for children, and what kind of parents usually teach children. Example is more important than words and deeds, and parents' words and deeds are important factors affecting children's growth. Therefore, parents should not only teach their children the knowledge of understanding and changing the world, but also pay attention to the influence of their words and deeds on their children.
So what behavior habits of parents will affect their children's life? What should parents do?
1, emotional expression
Children like to imitate adults' speech expression and behavior, and often learn from their parents how to face and deal with stress, anxiety and frustration invisibly. If parents use extreme words and emotions to express their views on things, children will turn to extreme directions after seeing them. If parents are upset and vent their emotions in an angry way, they will leave scars in their young hearts, and children may face problems in the same way in the future.
If parents often show decadent emotions, children will naturally be restless and even hesitant after feeling these emotional fluctuations. Therefore, in the process of growing up with children, parents should first adjust their personal emotions so that children can feel the sense of security and self-confidence in life.
2. How to communicate with people
Parents are cheerful, and children will naturally be cheerful. If parents are depressed, children will become depressed in a depressed state. Therefore, parents should realize that their personality and behavior have obvious influence on their children's growth. A harmonious family environment is an important condition for children's healthy growth. If the family is not harmonious, parents often quarrel and are indifferent to each other, and children will feel insecure if they are not cared for. Once children enter the society, they often get along with others in the same way.
Parents' attitudes towards different people can easily leave a mark on their children's hearts when they interact in society. If parents deal with interpersonal inequality, children will naturally rank people in their hearts. If parents can rely on good interpersonal relationships in society, children will naturally learn to treat others with a peaceful attitude.
3. Parents' living habits
Habits can change people's living conditions, and good living habits will bring good living conditions. As parents, we should realize that our living habits have a great influence on children's education. Therefore, parents should standardize their living habits, including work and rest, clothing, dining, manners, hygiene, punctuality and so on. These habits will exert a subtle influence on children.
If parents want to be good role models for their children, they should let their children feel what is appropriate. Good habits are manifested in many details of daily life, such as doing things seriously, saving environmental protection, working diligently and so on. These good habits need to be gradually formed on weekdays.
4. Parents' love and care
If parents don't give their children real love, if there is no love between husband and wife, and if there is no love between neighbors, it is quite difficult, even difficult, to cultivate the quality of children's love. If parents do not pay attention to inspire children to care about others and never guide children to care about parents, peers and others, children's behavior will become self-centered and will not have the characteristics of understanding and caring for others.
If parents set an example in life, pay attention to treating family and others with love, treat life and everything around them, and be good examples for children, children will know how to be a caring person. Over time, love will take root in children.
In general education, parents' influence on children is beyond their imagination. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds, and avoid their casual behavior to form their children's bad habits.
In fact, children are like a blank sheet of paper, and parents are the brushes in their hands. Please pay attention to your words and deeds and plant a piece of sunshine for your children, which is beautiful!