First of all, we need to know. Sex is not a scourge to college students or people. Sex is a natural behavior after human physiological maturity, so we can't talk about transsexuality. But it should be understood correctly. From a social point of view, I think sex should be sparse and not blocked. We can have sex in our life, but we can't let sex be the whole of our life, or an end. Sex is the adjustment of life and the sublimation of love. Similarly, sex, under normal circumstances. Sometimes it also represents a kind of responsibility and obligation. How you choose depends on your values. My suggestion is that good things should be left to those who deserve them.
College students are 18-22 years old and 23 years old. According to Eriksson's lifelong personality development theory, it is early adulthood (18-25 years old) to deal with the conflict between intimacy and loneliness. Establishing a loving relationship with others at this stage is to integrate one's identity with that of others. There is self-sacrifice or loss here. Only in this way can we establish a real intimate relationship in love and gain a sense of intimacy, otherwise we will feel lonely.
? There may be sex with love, and now many college students will take "there is sex with love" as their own standard. Maybe we can't say "sex with love", but is it really "sex with love" outside marriage?
? "Love" should be "safe sex" first. "Safe sex" is not only to prevent pregnancy and disease, but also to provide emotional security. Are we all eager for commitment, responsibility, beauty, long-term and even eternal relationships in intimate relationships? Isn't it the same in our sexual relationship, especially in "love"?
? "Sex with love" should learn to be "reserved". "reserve" is not conservative or feudal, but interests, values and virtues; At the same time, it is also a victory of self-restraint, a satisfaction of discipline and delay, and a commitment, protection and respect for the loved ones!
? Because sexual relations between college students may be sudden and unprepared, the place may be unsafe, and tension and fear will also have adverse consequences. Cheap civil rental houses off campus are unsanitary and may infect diseases. Disinfection of toiletries in the hotel is not ideal. It is best not to take a bath in the hotel bathtub, but also pay attention to the hygiene of the toilet. Try to bring your own toiletries and never use a toothbrush. Try to choose a more formal and safe hotel and learn to protect your privacy.
When college students have sex, they must take contraceptive measures in advance, and it is best to use condoms. This is also a way to avoid the spread of sexually transmitted diseases. The main transmission routes of sexually transmitted diseases are: mother-to-child, blood and sexual intercourse. Gynecologist's suggestion: Girls should not take birth control pills casually, which has side effects. If you have sex without preparation, you can take the "emergency contraceptive" within 72 hours afterwards, sooner rather than later, but this medicine has great side effects and it is best to eat less.
? In case of pregnancy, you must consult a doctor in a regular hospital as soon as possible (don't go to a private clinic because you are shy and greedy, so as to avoid medical accidents and lead to lifelong infertility). Abortion can only be done if it is not an ectopic pregnancy. You can take medicine for abortion within 50 days, preferably after 50 days. Drug abortion should be taken at intervals under the supervision of doctors, and it is safe for doctors to observe that embryos have flowed out. Don't go to the drugstore to buy abortion pills yourself. If the flow is not clean, you have to have a palace cleaning operation, which is not only painful, but also very harmful to your health. If her boyfriend doesn't accompany her to the hospital, girls must find relatives and friends to accompany her. (This irresponsible boyfriend quickly dumped! )
Weak and sensitive after abortion. Rest for at least a week, drink more brown sugar water, eat more warm food, and don't eat spicy and cold food. It is best not to wash your hair and bathe, and avoid washing clothes with cold water. Never insist on class or strenuous exercise because you are afraid that others will know.
Other girls should not laugh at discrimination against pregnant or aborted girls. They should cherish their self-esteem, protect their privacy, care about their health and try their best to take care of their daily life after operation. Please understand their behavior with sisterly feelings and give spiritual comfort.
? The most terrible thing is that there are more and more people infected with AIDS now, and so are universities. Many infected people have revenge and take the initiative to pull people into the water. This is what parents are most worried about! I hope the students will lead an honest and clean life and be vigilant! Try not to associate with people with bad conduct inside and outside the school, and go to entertainment places outside the school less. Don't accept drinks of unknown origin, unfinished drinks, and it's best not to drink after leaving sight to avoid being thrown into drugs. Drug abuse and promiscuity are often inseparable, because most people can't afford drugs and have to be forced to sell themselves. One of the results of promiscuity is sexually transmitted diseases. At present, it is difficult for drug addicts to quit, and the cure rate of sexually transmitted diseases is very low. Careless friends will kill you! This is by no means alarmist!