Learn to refuse, refuse things you don't want to do, refuse parties you don't want to attend, and use this time to do something that makes you happy or meaningful. When encountering a problem, the first thought is not to retreat, but to imply that you can and try to solve the problem.

Without judging others casually, everyone's experience is different, and we can't feel the same with others. To form the good habit of keeping secrets, everyone has his own secrets. If he is willing to tell you, it is because he trusts you very much. We must be a good conservative. Set yourself some small goals for a week/month on a regular basis, and hint yourself to accomplish them as much as possible in the process. Get into the habit of reading, and you will always believe in the power of reading.