At that time, Liu went to China Renmin University with dozens of tea eggs and founded a company after graduation. Although the process was ups and downs, he worked hard to overcome it and eventually became "the legendary swordsman".

I mention this stem just to show that the students of Renmin University of China have done well and can go to the National People's Congress, at least to prove their strong learning ability. Dong Ge scored 680 points in the college entrance examination that year and went to Renmin University as the top scholar in Suqian, Jiangsu.

However, not everyone who comes out of Renmin University can have a carefree future. Wu, from Ganzhou, Jiangxi, was admitted to the National People's Congress with a score of 692 and became a 94-year-old student of the Archives College of Renmin University. It's just that although she has a high degree, her life is low after graduation and she has become a low-income household, which makes people feel very embarrassed. What is the reason?

Wu passed the Beijing civil service examination before graduation, but was eliminated in the interview and failed to find a normal job. So after graduation, she had to return to Guangdong to work in educational institutions, project projects and garment factories. It's just that every job she has done won't last long.

In the blink of an eye, in 2000, Wu met junior high school students in Shunde, Guangdong, and fell in love with them, married and had children, and lived an ordinary life.

However, the weather is unpredictable! Five years later, Wu suffered a marital accident, and her husband left her completely with his daughter. This made her hard to accept and her spirit was severely hit. She will go back to Ganzhou for a few days. At this time, she was pregnant again and had to go back to her ex-husband's house, where only her father-in-law was struggling.

Later, someone introduced her to the Deng family in the neighboring town, which is her husband's family now. But this marriage has not changed her fate, because this man is poorer than the last one. Moreover, in the Deng family, after giving birth to her son, she gave birth to four children in succession. A family of nine depends entirely on their husbands to work and farm. If there is no subsistence allowance, her family may be living like a year, and it is difficult to maintain it until now.

If the poverty alleviation cadres in the county hadn't visited the village, I'm afraid they wouldn't have known Wu's poor living conditions. It turns out that this woman who once graduated from China Renmin University is 43 years old and emaciated. She is the mother of five children and lives in a shabby house.

Wu has such a high degree. It shouldn't be difficult to find a good job and marry a good husband. Why did he become a low-income household?

First, the "iron rice bowl" was broken.

Wu originally chose the archives management major of the National People's Congress, hoping to be assigned to a government department for archives management after graduation.

Unexpectedly, when she was about to graduate,1996,65438+June 9, the former Ministry of Personnel issued the Interim Measures for the State not to allocate college graduates to choose jobs, and her dream of "iron rice bowl" was broken. This break became an important turning point in her fate, even fatal.

So she turned to civil servants to get an "iron rice bowl". Unfortunately, although she successfully passed the Beijing Civil Service Examination with high marks, she met the interviewer who saw Yan Yan and was eliminated in the interview. Of course, there are other reasons. Finally, she failed to find a normal job.

Her dream of an "iron rice bowl" was completely shattered.

Second, the unpopular major

After the iron rice bowl was broken, Wu and other students who graduated from 1998 had to choose their own jobs.

However, because her file management major is a relatively unpopular major, it is difficult to find a professional counterpart in society except in government departments, so she went to Beijing, Guangdong and Tianjin to find job opportunities, and all of them hit a wall.

Third, her withdrawn personality determines her tragic fate.

Wu's sister said, "She is like this. Everything is hidden in her heart. What hurts her is her character. "

"The spirit is normal, but there are psychological problems." An explanation of the doctor he examined.

Her withdrawn personality determines her tragic fate, mainly in her work and marriage.

1998, after graduation, Wu Ji found her first job in an educational software company in Zhongshan City, Guangdong Province. The monthly salary was 3000 yuan, which was a good income at that time, and it was a counterpart major. Over time, with her education, it is not difficult to get a promotion and a raise.

However, it was not long before she resigned, but the reason was that her interpersonal relationship was not good.

Then, she went to another company that made new year cards and calendars, but within a month, she resigned because of the same problem.

Two decent jobs didn't last long, and finally she had to go to a clothing factory to do manual labor, repeating the same work every day, sewing buttons and cutting cloth.

However, she made another mistake-too high and too low. She thinks that after graduating from the National People's Congress, she should sit in an office and do matching mental work. How can she do such manual work in the factory? So she resigned again with this sense of humiliation.

After failing to find a job again and again, Wu lost great confidence in life, or because she had never been nourished by love, she decided to marry him after being favored by her classmates who just graduated from junior high school.

Who knows, her unsociable personality made the contradiction between her and her first husband grow bigger and bigger, and she was finally abandoned by men. Pregnant, she thought she had no choice, so she chose to marry a poorer and uneducated man.

Fortunately, although the man was not rich, he didn't abandon her. A family of nine people, relying on subsistence allowances, will have a hard time.

Fourth, education.

Some people say that the reason for Wu's bumpy fate is education. A person with higher education has failed one after another in life and work, which is the failure of education.

Although Wu has a high degree, he does not have the ability to fight. In other words, she should know how to sum up the reasons after hitting a wall everywhere in her job search, and then continue to look hard, but she didn't continue. If she had been stronger after failing in job hunting and applied for more jobs, maybe she wouldn't be down and out here.

Although Wu has a high degree, he doesn't have the thinking to solve problems. When a person is faced with failure and confusion, it is very important to choose what kind of thinking to solve the problem. But in the face of poverty at home, she doesn't know how to change her destiny with knowledge.

To this end, many people accuse that the education under the baton of the college entrance examination should teach students how to face setbacks and difficulties.

5. What is the reason?

Is Wu's tragic fate really due to the breaking of the "iron rice bowl", the unpopularity of his profession and the problem of education?

When the "iron rice bowl" was broken, although it had an impact on many people, the social economy did not retrogress because of it, but developed better, which shows that the national policy is correct. If you can't mix well because of this, it can only mean that it is a matter of personal ability.

Wu's major is unpopular, so it is difficult to find a corresponding job. However, with such a high degree, she should have some self-study ability. However, after being hit by reality, she did not show this ability.

We admit that there are some problems in current education, which only focus on exams and lack quality education and interpersonal relationships.

However, people have not reached a consensus. We have to admit that under the baton of college entrance examination, many excellent high flyers have been taught, and they have made great contributions to the country and society.

Wu has a high degree, but lives a low-key life. The reason is still because of his withdrawn and indifferent personality.

"When we got married, her family refused to attend the wedding reception. She has a very bad relationship with her family, and there seems to be no relatives at home. The situation is getting worse and worse, and I have no ability to change it. " Wu's first husband said

Judging from Wu's work experience, every time she resigns, it has a lot to do with her personality. Her withdrawn personality directly led to the tension of interpersonal relationship, which eventually led to her ill-fated.

Sixth, how to avoid the child's withdrawn personality?

"Character determines fate", which is deeply rooted in the bone marrow and has little to do with school education, but mostly depends on the growth environment.

Professor Li Meijin, a child-rearing expert, said that family education determines the happiness of a child's life.

Without a good family education environment, children's physical and mental development will be affected.

It is said that companionship is the best education. As parents, we should always find time to study with our children and cultivate their good study habits. After busy work, create an undisturbed learning environment for children.

Seven, the status quo of Wu.

Wu's experience was written by media reporters and uploaded to the Internet, which set off a number of alumni groups in China Renmin University. After seeing the news from the Internet, the former class teacher An Qingfu bluntly said, "I am very shocked."

After that, the poverty alleviation working group made a poverty alleviation plan for her and built a new house for her family. Her college classmates also actively helped her and recommended her to work in the archives from her original job.

Finally, I hope she will regain her confidence and live the rest of her life.