Secondly, we should treat the existence and non-existence of love correctly. According to Marxist theory, all high-rise buildings should have an economic foundation, and everything should be carried out on the premise of having enough food. As the highest emotion of human beings, love is definitely a luxury. Since it is a luxury, only when the social productive forces develop to a certain extent can some people enjoy it, not all. Therefore, if there is no love in your life, you should face it calmly and don't be sentimental. In fact, this is what our ancestors often said about luck! Do more good deeds, accumulate more virtues, and you will have them in your next life!
Thirdly, we should have an appropriate expectation for love, neither too high nor too low. Imaginary love is often the prince's love for Cinderella, while real love is right, depending on whether the knowledge, occupation and family background of both sides are equal. We do not expect aristocratic love, because we are civilians; We don't expect Liang Zhu's love, because we were born in modern times; We don't expect to marry the prince either, because our lives are only worth so much.
In addition, we should fully understand the main function of love and look for love purposefully rather than blindly. Only by knowing what kind of love you want can you satisfy your love as much as possible. If you want happiness between men and women, find a naive love; If you want a happy marriage, find a love that weighs all parties; If what you want is love encouragement, find a romantic love to the extreme; If you just want to get rid of loneliness, find a confidante's love. Only in this way, we won't hit a wall on the road of love. Only by knowing what you are looking for can you avoid one tragedy after another.
Third, put the position of love right. It is necessary to educate college students to straighten out the position of love in life. Love plays an important role in life. Life without love is imperfect, but love is not the fundamental purpose of life, nor is it the whole of life. It is pale to live only for love. The master of life should be career, and only great career is decisive to life. Petofi's poem "Life is precious, but love is more expensive; If you have time, you can throw both ",which just illustrates this point. Secondly, we should educate college students to straighten out the position of love in college life. Clearly adhere to the viewpoint of academic priority, so that college students can understand that today's study is closely related to their future careers, and it is also the basis of a happy love. The practice of falling in love without reading not only hinders the achievement of career, but also makes it difficult to get happy love, so it is not only stupid, but also pathetic. "Zhuangzi" recorded a man named Weisheng who met a woman under a bridge. The woman didn't keep the appointment, but the riverbed was flooded, and Weisheng refused to leave, holding the bridge fence to drown. "Micro-life and women are under the beams. If women don't come, the water can't go, and they are dead with beams and pillars. "Nothing is more important than life. If you don't wait, you won't wait. " If you don't care, I'll take a break and forget each other in the Jianghu. "Why did you die so lightly? In the book, I laugh at stupid guys like Wei Sheng, who are "like dogs and beggars".
Finally, in the process of communication, we should respect, care, help and understand each other. A man should have his own principles, and never change himself because of the lover in his heart. He should follow the principle of "independence, mutual respect and harmony", consider problems from different angles, take care of each other's feelings, and avoid hurting each other's self-esteem and embarrassing each other.