First, most students think that they are normal and that people who go to consult are psychologically "sick", which is a very shameful thing. It would be even more embarrassing if the surrounding students and administrators knew. Eric, a famous American psychoanalyst, believes that in different periods of individual development, society puts forward different requirements for individuals, and there will be imbalance between individual's own needs and abilities and social requirements, which will bring tension to individuals. This kind of tension and contradiction is called psychological and social crisis. Every stage of psychological development has a specific task, and each stage has a unique psychological crisis. Therefore, psychoanalyst Freud thinks that all people are "patients", but the severity is different, because no one's mind is perfect.

Second, those students who can walk into the consulting room often have to make all the questions clear at the first consultation and ask the counselor to give concrete and feasible suggestions. If the first consultation fails to achieve the goal, they will doubt or even deny the consultation. As we all know, it takes a process to form an idea, and it also takes a process to eliminate an idea. There are differences between people. Different people need different consultation time for the same question, and different questions need different consultation time. Clinically, the long-term psychoanalytic treatment even reaches 1000 hours, which means that the therapist should talk to the visitors in a specific environment 1000 hours.

Third, negotiation is a process of "secret conversation" or "heart-to-heart". Some students are afraid to face the consultant for fear that the consultant will reveal their secrets to others. Psychological counseling is essentially a profession with corresponding professional ethics and codes of practice. It is not a simple "chat" or "private chat" in people's eyes. Keeping the client's secret is the first principle of psychological counseling.