"If you don't sweep a house, why sweep the world?" ?

If you want to live in harmony with your roommates in the university dormitory, the first thing you need to do is to handle your own affairs.

No matter whether you have lived in a dormitory before, no matter how willful you are before, even if life can't be completely "self-care".

After living on campus, everyone should try to handle their own affairs, pack up their personal belongings, pay attention to hygiene, and don't throw smelly socks everywhere.

Try not to cause trouble to others, and make it convenient for others and yourself.

Let your roommate know who you are as soon as possible.

This is really very important.

Because every student is a complete stranger to other students in the dormitory.

They don't know your temper, your personality or your "beautiful" living habits.

And the occurrence of many contradictions often lies in accidentally touching each other's bottom line.

After all, everyone is different. What may be normal in your eyes may not be acceptable to him at all.

Therefore, I suggest that you can present your true self to your roommates from the beginning, and there is no need to hide it at all, so you want to show your best side.

Only when they fully understand who you are can they get along with you better, and even if they joke at ordinary times, they will be more measured.

Be honest with others and get along with others with your truest self. This is the second "survival rule"!

Gradually avoid becoming a "please" person.

Many students are really "sensible", which makes people feel distressed.

They are always considerate of others, afraid of dissatisfaction, injury and sadness.

But never think for yourself, even a little!

It seems that they were born to live for others. As long as others are happy, as long as others don't blame themselves, they feel satisfied.

This is not kindness, but a "disease".

The official name of this disease is "please" personality.

Pleasant personality is a potential unhealthy behavior pattern, not a personality disorder. The biggest feature of flattering personality is that it hides its emotions and is very afraid of conflict, so it will suppress its own needs. On the one hand, he (she) is afraid of rejection, on the other hand, it stems from fear of failure.

The reasons for the formation of this personality may be complicated, and the wrong family education method is one of the main reasons.

This character gives people the impression of being a "good old man", who doesn't know how to refuse, likes to cater to others, and likes to take the initiative to apologize (even if it's not his fault).

If you want to change this state, you can only rely on yourself.

Try to talk to yourself, feel your innermost feelings with your heart and put yourself first.

Learn to say "no", build self-confidence and have a sense of boundary.

Slowly try to refuse others once or twice. ...

Then, you will find that the consequences don't seem so serious and people won't ignore you.

In this way, positive feedback can be established.

Over time, it will gradually get better.

Please always remember to be kind to yourself, don't wronged yourself, pay more attention to your feelings, and don't always think about others.

In university dormitories, it is easy to form this kind of "please" character for the so-called "gregarious", which must be paid attention to and avoided as soon as possible.

Recognize and accept the "ugly" side of human nature

Whether we admit it or not, human nature does have its ugly side.

Especially when we go to college and know more people, we will really find all kinds of people.

Therefore, no matter what kind of people you meet and what bad things you encounter, it is normal.

Some things may be constantly refreshing your three views and challenging your lower limit.

However, for us, this is a kind of growth in itself. We always have to go through a lot of things, and then we will grow up.

Therefore, if you are in college, no matter how "unreasonable" roommates you meet, don't make a fuss, learn to get along with them.

This is also a compulsory course in future work and life.

Talk less and do more.

Illness comes from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth!

Talking less and doing more can really avoid a lot of trouble.

Don't think that a few people's dormitory will be very calm.

Although sparrows are small and complete, a small dormitory is a "small river and lake" and there may be various "small groups".

Six people in four groups is not impossible.

In order not to take sides easily, not to offend people, and to talk less and do more, others will like you.

There is a roommate in our university dormitory. No matter what happens, he doesn't express his opinions or comments first.

Even if you go out for a party, if you ask him, "Where do you want to go?" Most of his answers are: "I can go anywhere, I can eat anything you say."

Such people are the most popular in our dormitory. Whatever you do, you want to take him with you.

So I hope that everyone in the dormitory will not tell others everything, especially the privacy of themselves and other roommates.

In this way, you can gain a lot of goodwill.

Stay in the dormitory less and go to the library more.

This point has been mentioned in many articles.

University dormitory is a "cradle of depravity" for students who love learning, and a "comfort zone" for students who like decadence.

Moreover, the "decadent" atmosphere in this dormitory is contagious, really contagious.

Because everyone is afraid of loneliness and likes "gregarious", and many times gregarious in college is not team learning. Although there is, it is rare.

In more cases, it may be to "team up to open the black."

Therefore, in order to avoid being dragged down and decadent by others, people can go to the library more than staying in the dormitory and lying in bed all day.