The great philosopher Bacon once said: Thought determines behavior, behavior determines habit, habit determines character, and character determines fate.
Simply put, it is values that determine fate.
However, why don't we change our destiny by reading books and listening to lectures?
Because, you just looked at it, did it enter your brain, and did it leave a mark on your brain? These are all things that need reflection.
Back to the beginning: any excellent person is the result of long-term self-brainwashing.
There are some important ideas and values that we should always keep in mind. You didn't do it, probably because you didn't take it to heart, or even forgot it. So always brainwash yourself with excellent ideas until you form a habit.