(A) fear of communication

At school, you may find some students who choose quiet paths when walking, pick corners on the side when attending classes, and are afraid of direct eye contact with others, especially teachers and the opposite sex, and often think that others are "better" than themselves. They have low self-esteem and will not take the initiative to communicate with others. After a long time, others can't get to know them well, pay attention to them, ignore their demands, and lack communication, which leads to communication obstacles for these students, which will seriously lead to social phobia.

(2) no communication.

At school, you may meet some classmates: when you are in contact with people, your mind is full of books, your language is stiff and dull, and your inner feelings are not properly expressed. Some of them don't understand the importance of "first impression" in communication with others, don't pay attention to communication methods, and don't talk about methods when persuading others, criticizing others and rejecting others. For example, in the process of communicating with others, some college students joke regardless of the occasion, do not pay attention to protecting the privacy of others, and do not know how to save face for others. These behaviors are detrimental to their own image and are not conducive to further communication between students.

(C) "high expectations" communication

Freshmen who have just entered the university campus often have idealized requirements for interpersonal communication. Taking the ideal model of friendship as the standard to measure interpersonal relationships in life leads to high expectations and high setbacks. These students often recall the past and show strong dissatisfaction with the real interpersonal communication. Some of these students are passive and always expect others to actively communicate with themselves and take the initiative to care for themselves; Some people use their friends as crutches, use them when they need them and throw them away when they don't need them. Such contact usually doesn't last long.

Lack of vertical communication

In college, most students communicate horizontally, usually with their peers, but lack vertical communication. Due to the lack of social experience, students have some problems in communication: college students are stubborn and arrogant in communication, which is caused by narrow social communication and wrong self-cognition.

(e) Less communication with parents.

Communication can enhance the understanding and affection between parents and children. Through communication, parents can really understand their children's needs and inner feelings and help them solve problems. With the rapid development of modern society and the different values of two generations, the parent-child relationship has been estranged and children can't communicate with their parents. If children adopt negative communication methods and parents are busy with work, the "generation gap" between the two generations will become bigger and bigger, and parents will gradually lose their influence in emotional communication. Some students grow up in an overly caring environment, are self-centered, have little concern and understanding for their parents, and are prone to communication difficulties.