Is the noblest seed.

She's one of them-

Follow your heart and don't take the usual road (Tsinghua graduated with a master's degree, but chose the road that few people took. The biggest confusion of parents is "how to introduce their work to their big uncles and second aunts"? )

Beauty (born of heart)

Have great love (sincere and eager to help others)

Liu Jia and I have known each other for five years. At that time, she stood out in a forum with the aura of "Sanqing" female doctor (Tsinghua University graduated from undergraduate, master and doctor). In the past five years, she has changed from the mother of one girl to the mother of two girls, and has experienced several career changes. However, when I read an interview I wrote to her five years ago, I found that her dream at that time was to "explore people's inner spiritual world as a communicator", which is the best footnote for what she is doing at the moment-a talented coach. In the past five years, she has never given up exploring and trying. She has had twists and turns, struggled with herself, and met with a fork in the road, but her steps have become more firm step by step.

? This dream is getting farther and farther away from her original dream.

When Liu Jia was a student, he was often called "someone else's child". From primary school to middle school, if she doesn't get the first place in the exam, she will become news, thus giving herself an invisible "first place". If she doesn't pass the exam, it's hard for her and those who care about her to accept it. She received a traditional education since she was a child. The mainstream thought is that as long as she studies hard, she can go to a good university and get a good job. Slowly, ignoring many inner real desires, life is like living for an expectation.

"No one has ever asked me what your dream is and what you have paid for it." So, she asked herself: Where is my dream? When she was a child, she dreamed of becoming a TV presenter, traveling around the world and opening a school. However, these dreams faded with her age and experience.

From the beginning of her doctorate, she found that she couldn't convince herself. Many people affirmed her academic ability, and her tutor also appreciated her. As long as she completed a series of procedures according to academic standards, she could enter the business school of an excellent university in Beijing and get a good position, but she felt that the result could not convince herself and make herself feel valuable and meaningful, but she didn't know what was valuable to her at that time. This self-struggle lasted for many years, and the process was very painful and more and more intense.

? No one knows the best way out from the beginning.

Up to now, Liu Jia can still recall the day of her doctoral graduation ceremony. At that time, she walked alone on the tree-lined road with thick crowns on both sides, but her heart was very complicated. At this time, she is faced with two choices: one is to stay in school and continue to engage in academic research, and all the teachers and relatives around her think that she will be an excellent scholar; The other is to work in an enterprise, which is full of uncertainty. Liu Jia finally chose to travel in the enterprise. At that time, she was more eager for a colorful, novel and adventurous world, so she decided to explore a life that she had never really experienced-entering the enterprise.

In those five years, she did a good job in a fortune 500 foreign company, which was the key training object of the company. However, when developing the "best", I fell into anxiety and panic without internal driving force. Although holding a high salary is considered to be the most promising candidate for the company's promotion channel, only she knows that she is unhappy every day. In sharp contrast to the external self who works hard to work overtime, the internal self becomes at a loss and doesn't want to go to work every morning. Fatigue, anxiety and loss are intertwined, and the work is in a state of "calculation"-calculating when the boss can take annual leave and return to Germany, calculating when the holiday will come, and calculating whether the bonus this month is less than last month. She has lost the internal driving force of her work and can only be maintained by such external stimulation.

? God doesn't need you to succeed, he just needs you to try.

At the same time, the host's dream of six years from junior high school to senior high school has been silent in a corner of her life with her going to school, working, falling in love, getting married and having children in Beijing. March 20 12, when my eldest daughter was two months old, I happened to see a hostess on Jiangsu Satellite TV in Weibo. Long-lost dreams quietly revived. That night, this Weibo kept her awake all night. She asked herself again and again, have you done anything for this dream over the years? A word lingered in her mind all night: God doesn't need you to succeed, he just needs you to try. For many years, I may be too eager to succeed, but I have never worked hard for my real dream.

The next day, she really went to the registration site, quickly filled out the form, interviewed, and went home happily. Unexpectedly, two weeks later, she received a phone call from Jiangsu Satellite TV, passed the sea election and was invited to participate in the Nanjing competition with other 120 players. It was one of the happiest moments in her life. At the same time, she was in a dilemma: her daughter was less than three months old and still nursing. If she goes to Nanjing, she will definitely take her eldest daughter, but she has to take part in the competition herself and can't take care of her, so she has to let her mother-in-law accompany her.

Although she experienced the twists and turns of changing the topic the day before the competition and finally failed to enter the next round, she gradually found that many times when you make a choice, people around you will say impossible, shouldn't and unrealistic. None of this matters. What matters is what this decision means to you, because only you know whether this attempt is happy for you and whether you are loyal to your dreams.

? When you are on the way to find yourself, your companions and opportunities will find you.

Because of the huge gap between dream and reality, Liu Jia took part in many activities outside of work to resolve the fierce inner conflict. Once people have the experience of falling to the bottom, they will definitely seek change. For example, reading club, theme salon, etc. After a reading party, a woman in her 60s came up to her and said, Liu Jia, I am very moved by your sharing. I think you have been looking for something. I recommend you to read a book, Tearing Down the Wall of Thinking by a classical teacher. It is this book that changed the course of Liu Jia's life. She found a classic career planning company and continued her studies in it.

When you really embark on the road of finding yourself, you will find that companions and opportunities will find you; When you really expect something, the universe will push the distance between you. When attending the course of career planning, she shared her dream-to establish the School of Life (SOM) in China, where we can learn how to be ourselves and how to make life more fulfilling and happy. I was very surprised to hear the classicality of this story. "This is what the new elite has been eager to do, Liu Jia. Let's do it together! " So, from the end of 20 12 to 20 13, Liu Jia led the team to run the school.

? The experience of pain and failure is also worth integrating.

At the same time, for a person who pursues meaning and depth, Liu Jia is eager to help others by becoming an expert in a sub-field. She became a career planner through her own efforts. In this process, she deeply realized that without that career trough, she could not really feel the pain of losing motivation, and she had no chance to get a new career by getting out of the trough.

Therefore, her research direction is "how to break through oneself and regain the internal driving force", which is also one of the hottest consulting topics in the knowledge sharing platform, and Liu Jia has thus become an expert in the field 100.

You see, there is no road in life in vain, and every step counts. We should not only integrate our knowledge, skills, talents and resources, but also those painful and failed experiences and all our inner desires.

In the process of helping many people in the workplace to find internal driving force, Liu Jia felt from these people-although everyone's internal driving force is different, if a person has the opportunity to do what he likes and is good at, it must be one of the great sources of his driving force. It is precisely because of this discovery that she plunged into the field of natural advantages and immersed herself in it. She quickly obtained the qualification of senior coach certified by Gallup, the world's most authoritative company in this field, and became a special lecturer in institutions such as Red Rabbit, Netease Classroom, Shantou Business School and Orange College.

Liu Jia believes that everyone has talent potential, which is by no means exclusive to the so-called genius. If you don't dig, these talent potentials will lie there quietly. However, once excavated, through professional methods, it will be everyone's greatest room for growth. Yes, a person's greatest room for growth lies in his strongest advantages, not his shortcomings. Many people gain a sense of accomplishment by making up for their shortcomings, because they never believe that advantages have no ceiling, only shortcomings.

? Faith and appreciation will give strength to others.

In this process, she felt the strength and shock of the concept of talent advantage in different people again and again.

Two months ago, she held a talent advantage salon in Guangzhou. A mother is sitting in the audience. After listening to Liu Jia's sharing, the mother asked Liu Jia to be the dominant coach for 14 year old son. Liu Jia was hesitant at that time, because she had never been an advantage coach for teenagers. Moreover, 14-year-old boys were diagnosed with mild ADHD and mild sensory impairment.

However, this mother is persistent. She insisted that Liu Jia could help her son. During her stay in Tomb-Sweeping Day this year, she flew from Guangzhou to Beijing with her son and met Liu Jia in a cafe.

When they met, the boy didn't talk or look at Liu Jia, but bowed his head and played games. She is very curious about him, quietly observing him, starting with the fact that he recently won the prize in robot contest, the province. During the conversation, she felt that this is a boy who attaches great importance to friendship, cares about others and has a sense of justice. Besides, he is also a mathematical genius. He is eager to speak with strength and get real respect and recognition. Liu Jia is only responsible for listening, asking questions and guiding him to actively set goals. When people appreciate and trust people from a favorable angle, this energy can really be transmitted to each other and make him feel strong. She felt the light in the boy's eyes and left contact information with each other when she left, so as to meet again next time.

"Helping more people to discover their talents, build their advantages, find their real passion and realize their mission and value in life" is what she will do in the next few years and decades.

Happiness and pain in life are in direct proportion. Some people are not so entangled in their dreams, and the happiness they finally realize is not so profound. Liu Jia has gone through a process of struggle with himself over the years. If you are a person who has never pursued a dream, that dream has not driven you crazy. Life is always like this, just like a coin has two sides. Pain is often the real source of passion in life.