Communication methods with children who go to college 0 1 Children need parents' understanding and encouragement. New environment, new classmates, new ideas, children should adapt to these new changes. Originally, I was the center of everyone in my family, and I took care of everything. Now I feel lonely when I leave my parents and home, and there is a big gap in my heart; There are still many life skills to learn. With such a big change in a short time, his psychology will inevitably fluctuate. In the process of self-adjustment, parents' understanding and tolerance are also needed. Growing up is his own business, and he is bound to step out of this step. Going to college is the beginning of his independent life and the starting point of his stepping into society. At this stage, we should tolerate some of their small emotions, and at the same time encourage them, give them confidence and let them face everything bravely in the future.
Parents should be good listeners. Many times, children don't need us to point fingers when talking to their parents. What he needs most is our listening and understanding. He said it, which relieved the depression in his heart. In fact, he already has the answer in his heart. We just need to make some suggestions at the right time. Stop nagging. If you don't talk, will he still talk to you? At this time, just hold your horses and don't worry, the fire will spoil the event.
Teach children some experience and ability to solve life problems and deal with emergencies. Life itself is a rich textbook, so it is effective to give children room to read and write by themselves? Help? . Unexpected things will appear constantly in real life. We should learn the experience and ability to deal with these unexpected events and sudden pressures, and learn to control our emotions more effectively. Parents can guide their children to solve problems, such as how to formulate steps to solve problems, how to choose ways of action, and how to communicate effectively.
Treat children equally and treat them as our friends and colleagues. When he goes to college, we should clearly understand that he has grown up and is no longer the child who does what he says and dares not disobey. He has his thoughts, he has his life. Let's take them as friends, a good friend who can really talk, treat each other as equals and encourage each other.
There are freshmen at home, so parents should adjust their concepts and accompany their children through this transition period. Don't play the role of authoritative tutor, be a companion, don't give opinions easily, and encourage independent thinking and diversified growth. The lesson about life is more about experience in life than in class, so that children can get more experiences in life.
How to communicate with college children 02 1 Realize that successful communication has no secrets.
Without a universal communication model, one child's communication style may not be suitable for another child. Therefore, parents must create their own communication methods according to their children's characteristics. For example, the mother's son is introverted and taciturn, and it is difficult to communicate effectively by ordinary methods. Therefore, according to her son's characteristics of listening to music, writing and reading, the mother often goes to the bookstore with her son, where she listens to his stories and characters and understands his thoughts and feelings. She also listened to music with her son and was the first reader of his works, constantly encouraging him. Her son has finally become lively and cheerful. It can be seen that there is no secret to successful parent-child communication. As long as you have the heart, you can find a communication method suitable for children.
2. Learn to listen.
Communicating with children requires talking about your own opinions, but it is more necessary to listen to children's ideas patiently. Listening means avoiding interrupting children and focusing on the process of communication. In order to facilitate this, it is best to communicate in a quiet place and eliminate the interference that may distract people's attention. If you are busy cooking dinner or watching your favorite TV program, it is difficult to listen carefully. Being a patient listener can help you understand your child's problems and opinions, clarify the facts and avoid misunderstandings about your child. Always listen to your child's voice, and you will find that although you don't have many demands and suggestions for your child, your child asks you more questions. This is because parents who are good at listening can become close friends of their children.
3. Create opportunities for conversation.
Communication with children requires appropriate opportunities. Children don't like scheduled conversations. When you want to talk, they may not be interested; Only when they want to talk can communication go smoothly. Some parents may like to talk with their children at the dinner table or before going to bed, while others often use the time of walking or outing together to communicate with their children. No matter what time we choose, we should know that the best communication is often carried out in the same activity. Don't always try to communicate with children at impromptu and irregular times. The result can only be failure.