Every time he can't contact his mother, he misses her very much.
Nearly 20,000 kilometers away, in Jingzhou City near the Yangtze River in China, Zou Yuyan smiled and recited her son, her eyes bent into a crescent. "When he encountered any life or emotional problems at Harvard, the first thing that came to his mind was me."
However, Tintin is not a "baby girl"; He was once a child with severe cerebral palsy.
In order to treat her son, Zou Yuyan did not hesitate to be a single mother and put the whole family on her shoulders. ...
Recalling the pain of childbirth 29 years ago, everything is vivid.
"Stubborn" motherhood
"This child has no rescue value, and he will not become stupid or paralyzed in the future. I suggest you give up. "
1July, 988, a medical accident caused Zou Xiuyan's fetus to suffocate. Exhausted in the delivery room, she received five critical notices and a doctor's "rational" advice.
"Don't want this child, it will drag us down for life." Zou Yuyan was extremely disappointed by her husband's almost ruthless reasons.
Zou Xiuyan, 25, tried her best to let the fetus come into this world to breathe fresh air.
/kloc-pregnant in 0/0 month, fainted several times on the platform and was carried home by students; Change the habit of going to bed late and getting up early to read poetry every day; Buy the freshest ingredients, cook them yourself and throw up after eating.
"no! I want to have the baby! His little feet once kicked me in the stomach, and his little heart beat with mine. I once promised to bring him to the world and share joys and sorrows. " A mother's instinct is like a flood.
"You don't listen to the doctor's advice, so stubborn, raise this child yourself!" Husband's words are like knives.
"Is this someone I know? Ruthless, selfish and irresponsible. This kind of husband, don't let it be. "
Women are weak, but mothers are strong.
Between flesh and blood and her husband, Zou Xiuyan finally chose the former, and from then on, she began a life doomed to thorns.
"Almighty" mother
Tintin's cerebellar motor nerve was damaged. At the age of one, he couldn't hold his hand. At the age of two, he could stand. At the age of three, he could walk. At the age of six, he could jump.
In childhood, when Tintin was a few beats slower than his peers, Zou Xiuyan made several times more efforts than other mothers.
At that time, the income of Zou Yi Yan Yue, who taught in Wuhan Kindergarten Normal School, was only 100 yuan. Tintin's rehabilitation treatment is all at his own expense. He just massages three times a week, and 5 yuan every time.
Three generations and four people are crowded into a 20-square-meter bungalow. When it rains, it rains both outdoors and indoors. The end of the bed is full of leaking pots and barrels, and mushrooms often grow on the windowsill. In order to support her family and treat Tintin, she traveled all over the province to do etiquette training and sold insurance for five years part-time.
The hard treatment process is unbearable. The doctor never promised to what extent Tintin could recover, only that treatment was definitely better than no treatment.
In order to give her son a stable future as much as possible, she almost tried her best: going to work during the day and taking her son to see a doctor at night, rain or shine; Train yourself as a masseur and massage your son whenever you have time; During lunch break, I will run home and play paper tearing games with my son to develop my intelligence.
"My mother raised me very hard. When I was a child, I remember a massage to catch up with the heavy snow. My mother took me to ride a bike and got stuck in a mud pit. Help me up, my bike fell; Lift the bike, I will fall down. At the hospital, both mother and son became clay figurines. The doctor was shocked when he saw it. He said he didn't think you would come today. My mother said that my illness could not be delayed, and the doctors were moved to tears. " Ding Ding recalled.
"I left the child and will accompany him to the end. The first time a child stands, the first time he steps, and the first time he calls' Mom' are all gifts from God. God is very kind to me. " Zou Yuyan was full of gratitude, and all the misfortunes were filtered out by her.
"cruel" mother
In the eyes of others, Zou Yuyan is sometimes a "cruel" mother. Tintin's movements are not coordinated, so it is difficult for him to use chopsticks. Others can't stand it, so they advised Zou Xiuyan not to let him learn.
"A table of people after eating, he a person without chopsticks, others will be curious. He wants to explain his cerebral palsy to everyone, which will greatly hurt his self-esteem. So I insisted that he learn, "Zou Xiuyan said.
After more than a year, Ding Ding finally learned to use chopsticks.
"I don't want him to be ashamed of his physical illness. It is because he is not as good as others in many aspects that I demand more from him and make him work harder. "
Zou Xiuyan tried her best to help Tintin overcome the obstacles brought by physical defects to his study. Tintin couldn't hold the pen steadily, so she took his little hand, started with a rough brush, practiced drawing some shapes, and then changed it into a fine pen. I have taken Tintin to school every day since I was one year old. Before the age of two, children knew more than 100 Chinese characters.
After Ding Ding went to school, Zou Yuyan never helped the children with their homework and never forced them to attend training classes.
"If you only look at learning, then my mother seems to be herding sheep. But she focuses on something higher, "Tintin said. "My mother's mantra is,' Don't ask me, I'm illiterate'. I think this is also an educational concept. "
Spiritual "mentor"
Accompanied by his mother, Ding Ding graduated from Peking University Institute of Environmental Science and Engineering on 20 1 1 and entered Peking University Transnational Law School in the same year.
2065438+In March 2006, Tintin, who worked for two years, was admitted to Harvard Law School.
"I have been afraid to apply for Harvard, but my mother has always encouraged me to let me try. Every time I hesitate, my mother will extend a strong hand to protect me, "Tintin said.
When it comes to the experience of raising a son, Zou Yuyan thinks that there are two most important things: respecting the self-growth of children and parents. When his son was faced with a major life choice, Zou Yi and Yan Dou regarded Tintin as an equal "negotiator".
Ding Ding also believes that equal consultation is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship between mother and child.
"Many parents can talk eloquently in the workplace. They are either indulgent or impatient with their children and will not discuss them equally and seriously. My mother is different. When there is disagreement, she will quote the classics to persuade me to accept her point of view. "
In Tintin's eyes, mother is a "spiritual teacher". Zou Yuyan thinks she is a good friend of the child. "I never felt great. I prefer to define myself as a mother who is constantly growing and progressing for her children. "
Yesterday, on Mother's Day, Ding Ding told reporters that although Harvard University provided up to three quarters of the tuition fees, the remaining quarter of the fees was still a great burden for her mother.
"When I was a child, I often thought about what it should be like to be 30 years old. Now I'm 29 years old, and my mother has to support me. I hope I can live up to expectations, support myself early and let my mother live a better life. "