I went camping with many friends on May Day, and they all took their children. The children had a good time.
When there is a barbecue in the afternoon, parents are responsible for the main work, in order to let the children have a good experience. The children are responsible for taking dishes, spices and the like.
When netizens saw a child who couldn't find the seasoning, they went to tease the child. Aunt said: "There are spices in the car, and the car is far away. Aunt will take you to get it! "
The child left hand in hand with the netizen without asking his mother.
Later, netizens told their children that the seasoning had been taken out. And I was told not to walk around with anyone, even my mother's friends had to ask face to face before leaving my mother's sight, and to ask my parents' permission.
Let's imagine that a child meets this mother's friend for the first time, but before leaving, he is completely unaware of greeting his mother and asking for advice.
Will children get hurt when they meet bad people outside? Will it be life-threatening if it is serious?
Of course, children walk neatly with their mother's friends because of their simple heart.
Every parent wants their children to be simple, happy, carefree, healthy and healthy all their lives until they are old.
However, this netizen said that she does not advocate that children are too simple.
As the writer Liu Zengzeng thought: I am not teaching you to cheat, but to see the world clearly. In case you are sold, you are still helping people with money!
The netizen's phrase "Don't advocate children to be too simple" is not to teach children to cheat, but to hope that children can see the reality from multiple angles and avoid causing their own danger.
There are three reasons why children are too simple: there are too few people in contact.
Children are young, rarely have access to many types of adults, and lack communication with the outside world.
People around you are relatives almost every day, so interpersonal relationships look friendly, but this is not true.
Parents need to guide their children to feel safe in many ways. If children feel that the relationship with their relatives is particularly friendly for a long time, they will feel that everyone is like this.
After a long time, children will lack a correct understanding of some facts.
Life scenes are too monotonous.
Many parents may ignore their children's hands-on ability, and their children's living places are basically home, school and, more likely, an amusement park.
When parents isolate the possibility that children are in danger, children have been living in very familiar places. This will prevent children from participating in the real world and further deviate from their understanding of the world.
Lack of frustration education
Now the safety of children has really attracted the attention of parents, so some parents protect their children very closely in order to prevent them from being hurt, and the children have basically never encountered difficulties.
But it also leads to the children's life is too smooth, they lack the experience of setbacks, and they will naively think that the world is like this.
In the absence of parents' usual family safety education for their children, children will always be as simple as "silly and sweet".
As we all know, simplicity is an excellent trait in children. This is too simple. Without the respect of the society, they will encounter many problems, which may even be fatal. There are probably the following four effects: easy to be deceived and easy to simply trust others. In case someone has ulterior motives, it is easy to be deceived;
Once a simple child is in a comfortable state for a long time and suddenly accepts the storm outside, it will be very fragile;
If you don't feel happiness, if you don't know how to work hard, you won't understand how rare happiness is. If you don't know how to be grateful, you won't feel real happiness.
Children who are too simple are often stubborn and don't know how to be flexible when encountering things.
None of the above effects can convince that simplicity is wrong, but it can be proved that being too simple will make it difficult for children to navigate in society. Therefore, children must understand that "the heart of preventing people is indispensable" from the following three aspects: human nature is complex.
There is a saying: "Why are you afraid of ghosts? It's people who hurt you. " .
In recent years, the elderly can range from cases in which many female passengers were injured by hitchhiking drivers to tragedies in which young kindergarten teachers molested students.
This proves that evil does exist in society. The same person, facing different people at different times, will have different impulses and different harmful behaviors.
Good and evil are actually in one thought, and we can't turn a blind eye to the weakness of human nature, let alone hide our ears. So start with self-protection.
Children always have to live independently.
As children grow up, parents should always let go and protect their children everywhere.
But one day, children will live independently. In the days before he lived independently, parents should protect their children and instill in them the importance of independence and the traps in life.
Otherwise, naive children will be naked in a complex society just after breaking through the support of the greenhouse, and their world outlook will fall into a state of collapse.
Some injuries can lead to the destruction of life.
Many children don't know how to protect themselves, they can't find out when they are in danger, and finally they lose their lives.
Just like some college students were cheated and eventually lost their lives; Just like Wei Zexi was cheated by a "black hospital".
Who would have thought that what ultimately harmed them was too simple personality characteristics.
Really healthy children are not too simple. The best gift parents can give their children is to know the world and not follow the crowd. Specifically, we should cultivate children's safety awareness from these four aspects: timely safety education.
Parents should educate their children about safety in time. For example, they can show their children some legal programs at home, which not only improves their safety awareness, but also strengthens their self-protection ability.
Let children know that good and evil coexist in the world.
To protect children, let go appropriately.
The real responsibility of children is to learn to let go. Usually take children to participate in activities and get in touch with their peers, such as going out for an outing, so that children can solve their own contradictions.
Only when they have experienced the real world can they have the ability to think independently, solve problems independently and have a real feeling about the world.
Timely guidance
In the step of protecting children's safety, we should guide children's safety education at all stages.
Daily patient communication
Communication is the best bridge to enhance mutual affection, and parents need to pay more attention to their children's mental health.
There is such a saying in the Warring States Policy, which expresses the great love of parents. "If parents love their children, they will do something far-reaching."
Parents should not avoid the possibility of children being injured in the name of love. Please let the children touch the real world and teach them to love life and life itself.
The most important thing in life is not to know the truth of the world, but to still love life?