The common problems of college students are emptiness, hesitation, confusion and depression! This is a personal experience and the common aspiration of most students. At present, there is no distribution of college graduates, and there are many problems in the management mechanism and teaching mechanism of the school. Our self-control is a little poor, and doing nothing is empty. When we do nothing, we are anxious and confused. There are other reasons, such as worrying about everything when you leave home, life will not smile at you all the time, and you will hesitate when you meet some unknown problems. An emotional animal, from childhood to old age, always deals with its relationship with various environmental factors under the control of emotions. Because there is a process of socialization, it is impossible for people to successfully adjust their psychology at the beginning and deal with problems in life in a good state, so there will be too many psychological puzzles at all stages of life. Common psychological problems of college students are reflected in the following aspects.
First, the deviation of self-awareness
Psychology tells us that self-awareness refers to a person's cognition of himself.
Self-awareness includes three parts: first, self-awareness, that is, individuals' self-awareness and evaluation of their own psychological characteristics, personality characteristics, abilities and their own social values. The second is self-experience, the individual's emotional experience of himself. The third is self-monitoring, which belongs to self-will control.
Generally speaking, the development level of college students' self-awareness is high, but it is not yet mature, which is easy to cause various deviations. The deviation of college students' self-awareness can be roughly divided into two aspects: 1, egocentric tendency, too idealistic self-expectation, that is, excessive pursuit of perfection; 2. Strong sense of inferiority. ; This is caused by too strong or too weak self-awareness, which affects the healthy growth of college students.
The ways and methods to improve over-perfectionists are: according to their own actual situation, choose people with similar conditions, and compare their ways of doing things, attitudes towards people and things, emotional expression, etc. And find out your own characteristics to know yourself; Establish a correct cognitive concept, that is, people can not be perfect, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and will also encounter success and failure; On the basis of fully understanding yourself, have appropriate goals and requirements for yourself. The self-adjustment methods of people with excessive inferiority include: having a clear understanding of its harm and having the courage and determination to change themselves; Know yourself objectively and correctly, accept yourself unconditionally and completely, and accept everything about yourself; Dare to express yourself, dare to stick to correct views, etc.
Second, the wrong view of love
College students' physical development is fully mature, and their psychological development goes through the period of sexual alienation and sexual proximity, and they enter the period of love. College students' love is a natural and normal physiological and psychological development. In reality, the phenomenon of college students' love is becoming more and more common, which has penetrated into all aspects of college life. Generally speaking, love is an intimate relationship between men and women who need and love each other on the basis of mutual understanding and acceptance. Because college students' understanding of love is not mature enough, there are great problems in love and lovelorn periods.
If first love is like a meaningful and romantic poem, then love is like a burning fire, which makes people crazy and ecstatic. The people in it are dizzy at this time and don't realize the existence of the crisis at all. After entering the love period, they are deeply immersed in the world of two people, and their eyes on each other are infinitely beautiful. However, once there is any "trouble" with such strong feelings, earth-shaking changes will take place. Love is so magical, desirable and easy to get hurt. So keep a distance in your heart and pay attention to reducing the heat of love. There are three ways: first, keep a sense of mystery, constantly present your positive new side to your lover, and don't let the other person's interest fade. Second, keep friendship with others. People need both love and friendship. Love can't replace friendship, and love sometimes needs the help and support of friendship. Third, I miss you every day, but I may not see you every day. As the saying goes, "distance makes beauty", once we are separated, I miss you more and more, and I will cherish our time together more in the future. Distance is attractive, but never too far.