Some people say that people only do three things in their life: their own business, others' business and God's business. In my opinion, people only do two things in their life: eat when they are hungry and sleep when they are sleepy. Because it's really not easy for people to eat well and sleep soundly all their lives. When he was young, Lin Qingxuan had a miserable life because he was lovelorn. He can't eat well and sleep well. The Zen master told him: "People need to practice." Lin Qingxuan asked: "How to practice." The Zen master said, "Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are sleepy." Lin Qingxuan asked, "Do you have to practice eating and sleeping?" The Zen master said: "The same is eating and sleeping, but the result is different. Mortals eat, look around, think about this and that, care about everything and think about everything; When I sleep, I dream backwards, dreaming about this dream, dreaming about that dream, and I have a lot of thoughts. Yogi bear, eating is eating, sleeping is sleeping, there is nothing else to think about! " "But how can we eat when we are hungry and sleep when we are sleepy?" "You can't control the weather, but you can change your mood; You can't change your appearance, but you can smile, "said the Zen master. "Ask yourself than ask yourself. The heart should be a pool of clear water. The heart is clear, and the flowers and birds are beautiful on the water. In that way, every day is a good day, every night is a clear night, everywhere is a blessed land, and the law is a good law, so there is no confusion to pollute us. " Lin Qingxuan suddenly realized. Liang Shuming also said that people should first solve the relationship between people and things, then solve the relationship between people and finally solve the relationship between people and themselves. Just the last one is the hardest. In one's life, one will meet many people and things, some of which are necessary and some are completely unnecessary, such as fame and fortune, greed, vanity, jealousy, hatred and so on. These are all burdens and should be deleted decisively! Just like junk files and error messages in a computer, you can operate smoothly if you delete them in time. Life is to walk step by step and throw away bit by bit. What comes out is the road, and what is thrown away is the baggage. In this way, the road will get longer and longer, and the heart will get quieter and quieter.
2. Imperfect perfection
Reader, Volume 7, 20 10 Author: liuyong
I have a friend who has been single for half his life and suddenly got married when he was almost fifty years old. The bride is about his age, and Xu Niang is old and charming. Friends I only know whisper, "That woman used to be an actress. She married two husbands, both of whom were divorced. Now she is no longer popular. She picked up a leftovers. "
I don't know if he heard these words. One day, he went out with me, laughing while driving: "I wanted to drive a Mercedes when I was young, and I had no money and couldn't afford it;" Now! Still can't afford it, buy a tricycle. "He did drive an old Mercedes, so I looked around and said," Three hands? Looks good! Horsepower is enough! "
"Yes!" He smiled. "What's wrong with old cars? Just like my wife, she married a Sichuanese in front and a Shanghainese in front. She has been in the entertainment circle for more than 20 years, and there are many scenes, big and small. Now that I'm old, I'm relieved. I'm not as delicate and flashy as before, but Sichuan and Shanghai dishes are good and I know how to decorate my home. To be honest, I met her when she was really perfect. "
I said, "If people don't tell me, I really can't see that she turned out to be a porn star."
"Yes!" He patted the steering wheel: "Actually, think about myself. Am I perfect?" I'm not full of holes. I have had many past events and many absurdities. It is precisely because we have all experienced this that we are both mature, know how to let go and know how to endure. This is not perfect. This is a kind of perfection! "
Imperfection is a kind of perfection! We are old, rusty and full of holes. See a doctor every once in a while to repair our broken bodies. Why do you want to ask people and things you own to be perfect and have no shortcomings? Breaking habits is also experience, openness and maturity, which is a realm of life!
You only have one stomach.
Reader, Volume 8, 20 10 Author: Ma
Warren Buffett holds "Lunch with Buffett" every year. This remarkable event will naturally be reported by the media. After a month of dinner, judge the best story. At that time, Buffett will personally present awards to the winners.
On this day, Smith and Wolinski Steakhouse were surrounded. The dishes were presented one after another, which was really a feast for all ... After three hours, the meal was finished. Then the news about lunch was all over the sky, but they were all written in the same way, which was nothing more than exaggerating how beautiful the restaurant was, how well the dishes were cooked, and how luxurious and noble the diners were ... It is conceivable that these were not successful. What stands out is a small manuscript of less than 200 words. The writer's name is Aji, and he works in a local tabloid in Manhattan. He didn't mention Buffett at all, but turned his attention to a tramp. "Smith and Wolinski Steakhouse are surrounded, so I can't squeeze in. I was about to back off when I saw a tramp. He is in rags, but he is happy. At this time, he is rummaging for food in the trash can outside the restaurant. Suddenly he was overjoyed. Obviously, he found the "trophy"! After a big meal, he caressed his bulging stomach, burped and muttered, "expired sandwiches and salad dressing can still fill your stomach." "Buffett said that what moved him was the last sentence of the article. Next, he presented the trophy to Egyi.
On the way home, Aji found some words under the trophy: For a person, physical needs are very easy to meet, and what he can never fill is endless greed. In fact, life is alive and doesn't need much.
Because you only have one stomach.
4. Missing Monument
Readers, Volume 9, 2065 438+00/ Xu Baike
1958, a report in The New York Times began like this: I don't know why, the most terrible thing in the world is the bright sunshine in Brzezinka. This report is the famous "Auschwitz has no news to write" in the history of news. The reporter wrote: "Now, there is nothing to report about Auschwitz. Just because of an irresistible impulse, I want to write something about concentration camps. This impulse stems from some complicated feelings. After visiting the concentration camp, if you don't say a word or write a word about the situation there, it is extremely sad and disrespectful to those who died there. " ?
Now, we see a new report-the disappearing Auschwitz. The author wrote: "199 1 year, when I first visited the concentration camp, the hair left by the victims was still bright, black or brown or red or gold ... When I returned here in 2009, I found that these hairs had turned into gray balls."
What is revealed here is an embarrassing situation: the number of visitors to Auschwitz is increasing, doubling from 200 1 in 2009. At the same time, the preservation conditions of the concentration camp are deteriorating, cracks appear in the walls and the foundation sinks. The person in charge there said that the declining Auschwitz concentration camp was slipping out of historical memory step by step.
The deepest criminal record, like the greatest cultural relics, satirizes the blind tourism frenzy: behind the increasing sightseeing, there is a really serious commemorative wandering or even loss. This is also a sad disrespect. 5. The moment of sharing trust 20 10 Reader 10 Preface (America) Warren? One night, I was driving on a two-lane expressway at a speed of nearly100km/h. At this time, a car came at the same speed. When we passed by, I saw the driver's eyes, but it was only for a second.
At that time, I was wondering if he was the same as I thought. At that moment, our fate depended entirely on each other. I rely on him not to doze off, not to be distracted by the phone, not to drive into my driveway and suddenly end my life. Although we haven't said a word, he must be very dependent on me.
I believe that's how the world works. To some extent, we are all interdependent. Sometimes, this dependence just asks us not to cross the double yellow line. It's that simple. Sometimes, this dependence requires our cooperation-with friends and even strangers.
As early as 1980, I participated in the negotiations on the release of American hostages in Iran. The Iranian side refused to meet with me and insisted on passing on the information between us through the Algerian government. Although I have never had contact with the Algerian Foreign Minister before, I have to rely on him to receive and transmit information accurately. With his help, more than 50 American hostages returned home safely.
Science and technology have brought us closer, so cooperation between countries needs to be strengthened day by day. In 2003, doctors from many countries quickly took action to identify the SARS virus. This action saved thousands of lives. We must realize that our destiny can no longer be controlled by ourselves. I attach great importance to personal responsibility. However, with the passage of time, I finally believe that at some point, one must rely on the integrity and judgment of others. Therefore, we must learn to think that the oncoming light may not be a threat, but shows that this is a moment to share trust.
6. If you make a mistake, remember humor.
20 10 reader number 1 1 Preface Zhu Hui
No one can imagine what kind of pressure the organizing Committee will bear if there is a major mistake in the opening ceremony of a world-wide sports event. This unfortunate thing just happened to catch up with the 20 10 Vancouver Winter Olympics.
On February 2010/3, Vancouver Winter Olympics was grandly opened. In order to surprise the world with this Winter Olympics, the organizing committee tried to create a stunning lighting ceremony for the world. The original plan was that the torch was introduced into the gymnasium by Paralympic champion Hansen in a wheelchair, and then passed by four famous Canadian athletes in turn. Then four people stood around the square, waiting for the four welcome columns to rise slowly, and then lit the welcome columns with torches. At the same time, the huge icicle in the middle of the four welcome columns will be lit, and the Olympic flame will burn violently ... Although the preparations are foolproof, only three of the four preset welcome columns will rise during the rise of welcome columns around the world. Such a major mistake made the organizing Committee lose face and became the laughing stock of the whole world. An old man's words are quite representative: "We all pray that there will be no more mistakes in the closing ceremony and no more people will be lost." On March 1 day, the closing ceremony of Vancouver Winter Olympics was held as scheduled. After the curtain was lifted, everyone could not believe their eyes. The torch platform was actually built in an "incomplete" state, and the scene of "mistakes" at the opening ceremony was copied to the audience all over the world. Later, something even more unexpected happened: an electrician-like clown jumped on the welcome post that was not erected, patted left and right, and looked at it humorously. Finally, he plugged in the power supply and tried to pull the huge pillar down from the ground. Under the pull of the clown, the welcome post gradually rises and slowly joins other roots. At this time, the clown happily invited the main torchbearer Flamel? Donne, she lit the Olympic torch, and the Olympic flame burned brightly. Seeing this, the audience is boiling. Canadians easily resolved their previous embarrassment in a self-deprecating way, which not only did not damage their image, but achieved an unprecedented classic picture of "two ignitions". There are not too many unforgivable mistakes in life, even if they are wrong, you can still be silent. 7. Refuse to despair, dare not expect the preface of Reader No.220 10/0 12. Mrs. Dongqiao milburn is a housewife in the English countryside. During World War II, her son Allen joined the army to fight in the front. She stayed at home with her husband Jack and lived a normal life in the bonfire. They work and rest as usual every day, while waiting for their son's letter from the front. Mrs milburn kept a diary from the day her son joined the army, and wrote it every day until the day her son came home after the war. Her diary was later compiled into a 374-page book called Diary of Mrs. milburn: A Daily Portrait of an English Woman from 1939 to 1945. On one occasion, there was no news from Allen for a long time. The news from the front said that his army was annihilated by the Germans, and it was probably gone. Mrs milburn and her husband Jack refused to despair or expect anything. Until one day—
Now think about it, the pain you encountered is nothing!
8. Kindness is an infectious disease "Reader" 20 10No. 15 Preface Author: The friendliness of Singaporeans fascinates me. I fell in love with this city because of its simplicity-although it is a big city, many people seem to come from Sanye. When I first arrived in Singapore, I was a stranger and often asked for directions. Every time you ask me, people don't want to treat me as a person, and they do send me to my destination. When you are alone, when you are in trouble, someone will stand up and help you, without asking. When it rained, I didn't bring my umbrella, and I was invited to help it several times. My umbrella is not big, but I share the warmth. One afternoon, when I went shopping, I accidentally missed my stop. I knew the general direction, but I didn't know which stop was near, so I ran to ask the driver. The driver was waiting for the red light, enthusiastically showed me the way, and said that if you got off, the road would be further. And deliberately opened the car door to let me get off quickly and pointed it out to me again and again until I got off and saw him pointing at me through the glass. I was deeply moved! When I first met my TCM doctor, I was unhappy about money. I found that he accepted 22 yuan for every consultation, but only 8 yuan for others. 10 yuan. When I asked him, he told me sincerely: "I always collect money according to my ability." I know some residents nearby, and I know that their conditions are not good, so I will charge less. Only in this way will they come to see if they are sick, otherwise there will be only pain. The doctor's parents care about me, which my father has always taught me. Don't care about the amount of money, the key is to make it affordable for everyone. In fact, many times I can't even get the books on materia medica. The price I charge you is reasonable because I can roughly estimate your income. It's the rich people who suffer. If it is successful, I will ask them to donate money. "I feel ashamed to hear that. Kindness, like a cold, is an infectious disease, which will spread when touched. With gratitude, I began to pay attention to the world. I was in such a hurry that I didn't even look around. Now I have learned to slow down and care. For example, take the initiative to open the door of the shopping mall, one step at a time, so as to facilitate people with depth to come in. For example, when crossing the bridge, help mothers with children carry strollers, such as sending foreigners with more luggage to the station. All this is in return for the help given to me by others. I hope that such a touch can last as long as an evergreen tree. 9. India Wall Reader 20 10No. 16 Preface Author: The climate of Liuyong Desert is very special. During the day, the fiery red sun can roast people alive through the reflection of sand and the accumulation of heat; At night, the cold overflows in the open field, which can freeze people to death. Although the climate in the desert is so bad, Indians live quite comfortably there. What is the reason? In the desert, the Indian wall is specially designed, and its thickness is just right-during the day, the hot sun can't penetrate the sunny wall, because when it gets hotter and hotter, the night has come. In the cold and unbearable night, the earth wall heated by the sun is slowly dissipating the heat it stores during the day, making the room warm. If the wall is thin, the room will become an oven during the day and will not give off enough heat at night; If the wall is thicker, it won't be hot during the day and it will be cold at night, because the heat can't pass. The secret of all this lies in the wall that is neither thick nor thin. No matter whether we live in the desert or not, each of us should have such a wall in our hearts-leave others' praise when we are proud and use it when we are frustrated; When our weapons are in short supply, seize the arrows from the enemy as weapons; Turn others' criticisms into useful suggestions; Leave those extra money that can only do evil to possible poverty in the future. Just like Indians leave hot sunshine for cold nights.
10. The real wise reader 20 10 No.7 17 Preface Yi Ran/Compilation Mensa is an organization with smart people, and their IQs are all above 140. It is a veritable top IQ club. A few years ago, a Mensa conference was held in San Francisco, USA. During the meeting, several Mensa members came to a small local restaurant for lunch. When eating, they found that a bottle marked "salt" on the dining table contained pepper, while the bottle marked "pepper" contained salt. How to transfer two bottles of seasoning without any overflow with the help of the existing tools in the restaurant has become a small challenge that everyone must face. Naturally, they will not be afraid of this challenge, but accept it with joy and enthusiasm, because they are members of Mensa!
Several people had a heated discussion and put forward ideas and methods. In the end, they chose the most obvious solution, which only needed a napkin, a straw and two empty plates to solve the problem. They called the waiter and showed off their wonderful plan in front of her: "Miss, the salt and pepper on the table are upside down, but we have come up with the best plan for you! We just need you to bring us a napkin and a straw ... ""Oh, I'm sorry. " The waiter didn't wait for the Mensa members to finish speaking, picked up the salt bottle and pepper bottle, unscrewed the bottle caps marked with "salt" and "pepper" and put them on their respective bottles. Just as the number of soldiers is not a measure of a general's wisdom, so is IQ. The key to a really smart person is not that he can always solve problems, but that he can always do things correctly. 1 1. Forgot the stone "Reader" 20 10No. 18 Preface Author: Jiang compiled I noticed Karen put a stone on the coffee table for several months. There is a smiling face painted on the stone. Anyone can't help laughing when they see it. I looked at the stone carefully and found a few words written under it: "Don't worry." I asked Karen curiously, "Where did you get this stone?" Karen said, "A friend gave it to me when I was most stressed. My friend told me that whenever I see this stone, I should remind myself not to worry too much. Friends call it the stone of forgetting worries. There is an article attached to this stone. " Karen showed me the article, which said: 40% of the problems we worry about will not happen, because worry is the product of brain fatigue. 30% of our worries are because we regret our previous decisions, which cannot be rewritten. 12% The problem we are worried about is that we care too much about others' evaluations of ourselves, and most of these evaluations are not objective and correct. 10% All the problems we worry about are because we are too worried, and this kind of worry will only make the situation worse. Apart from this much ado about nothing, only 8% of our worries are normal, because there are indeed problems to be solved in life. Karen went on to say, "I'm worried about everyone and everything." Now, I take the stone as an alarm. Whenever I find myself worried, I will ask myself what kind of worry I am worried about. Many times, I find myself making much ado about nothing. "Life is not all troubles and worries. I hope everyone has a stone to forget their troubles. 12. Four Walls of Snow "The Scholar" 20 10 No.9 Preface Author: In ancient times, Su Dongpo once had a snow hall, which painted snow between the four walls, which was a kind of elegance of literati. I also have a small room with snow walls, no decorated tiles and no solid wood. Although it's the same, I'm only here for the leisure of a lazy person. So, one person, one house, holding the true face, walking in the opposite direction. The longer time goes by, the more I love this empty room, like a big blank on the screen, which is meaningful. The world is complex, the world is simple, and this small room can accommodate a person's myriad thoughts. Sitting between these simple walls, there is no trivial matter, and you can enjoy a moment. The life we need is actually simpler than we think. The so-called "fertile soil is boundless, and the sun is eclipsed; "There are thousands of buildings and seven feet of sleep at night." Nothing is an enviable state. Maybe we don't have to pay for too much greed. It's good to see the beautiful scenery. Countless wishes are often mixed with too many extravagant ideas. When paying the bill, I often follow the direction of others and sometimes forget my original intention. The life of addition is full of unnecessary contrast and yearning. It is better to try the life of subtraction, such as these four walls of snow, and keep a little naive and simple. Relax, let go of the baggage, the world is still beautiful. Nothing can't be abandoned, and nothing can't be stopped. We need a small corner, simple and quiet, to relax ourselves; We need some time to ourselves, thinking about things, the past or the future. You can also think nothing, just sit here quietly for a while, and you will feel infinitely beautiful.
Four snow walls, a quiet moment. 13. Endpoint "Reader" 20 10 No.20 Preface Author: Robert? j？ Hastings often hides such an idyllic dream in our subconscious. We crossed the mainland by train for a long time, intoxicated by the water-like traffic on the expressway outside the window, the children waving at the intersection, the cows grazing at the foot of the mountain in the distance, the smoke from the power plant, the rows of corn and wheat, the flat valleys, the undulating mountains and the outlines of urban and rural manors, all of which made us so addicted and fascinated. But deep down, we still think about the ending. One day, at a certain time, the train pulled into the station, drums and music sounded, and colorful flags fluttered. Once the destination is reached, thousands of dreams will come true, and the lack and disability in life will reunite-just like the final completion of the jigsaw puzzle. We paced in the aisle of the carriage, wandering and anxious, cursing that time passed so slowly, just waiting, waiting for the end. "In the end, it doesn't matter." We shouted, "When I 18, when I bought a new Mercedes-Benz 450, when I sent my last child to college, when I paid off my debts, when I was promoted, even when I reached retirement age." However, sooner or later, we must realize that nothing in the world can be done once and for all. The real joy of life lies in the journey, in the process. The destination is just a dream, which is often beyond our reach. "Time waits for no one, think carefully", what a good motto! Compare it with the bible? Psalm 1 18, verse 24, put it together and have a look: "This is the day created by the Lord, and we should be happy on this day." We are worried about the hatred of the past and the fear of the future, not the burden of the present. Regret and fear are twin thieves who stole our beautiful present. So, don't wander in the corridor, don't count the miles from time to time. Go climbing the mountain! Go to eat ice cream, go barefoot, swim in the river and enjoy the sunset. Laugh more and cry less. Life is like a reverse journey, and I am also a pedestrian-then the end will suddenly come. 14 As long as there is a dream, reader 20 10 No.21Preface Author: Zhang Shipu saw a news in the newspaper, and his heart was warm. A Japanese woman published her maiden poem on her 99th birthday. In Japan, where poetry declined, it caused a great sensation and sold more than 230,000 copies. In Japan, this is a miracle. Because even professional poets, most of the poems packaged and planned by publishing houses can only sell thousands of copies. However, the first print 1000 copies of this century-old lady's poems were sold out, and it was still in short supply after eight consecutive prints. She didn't start writing poetry until she was 92. There is a simple reason. Her son is afraid that she will feel lonely. I hope she can write some words to comfort her loneliness. And she happened to like poetry, so she picked up a pen. When she wrote more poems, she submitted them to the newspaper. Her poems are not gorgeous, close to the vernacular, short and easy to read, all within 14 lines, but full of colorful dreams, with an unspeakable vitality flowing between the lines. The editors were deeply moved by this special author, and Sankei Shimbun opened a special column for her. Her readers range from 14 to 100. The publishing house has received nearly a thousand letters from readers, and many readers want to cry after reading her poems. She wrote in a poem: Even at the age of ninety, I still want to fall in love/as if it were a dream/my heart has flown to the clouds. Perhaps the reason why a poem written by a white-haired old woman is liked by so many people is that the heart that writes poems always maintains its immortal innocence and romance. This is the noblest realistic enjoyment that fate gives dream catchers. And such a state of mind, maybe some people will never feel it. Dreams enrich life. A person with a dream feels meaningful and interesting when he is alive. A pursuer who is loyal to his dreams doesn't know how old age comes from. Dreams are a race against time. As long as you have a dream, you conquer the years. Otherwise, a 100-year-old woman who has experienced vicissitudes of life can still write poems about girlish feelings. Although she can't refuse the passage of time and the vicissitudes of fate, she has a youth beyond the years.
15. Let life return to the process ● I can't imagine that the Colosseum in ancient Rome needs to be rebuilt, the ancient city of Pompeii needs to be rebuilt, the Angkor Wat in Cambodia needs to be rebuilt, and the Mayan cultural sites need to be rebuilt. It's like we can't imagine that the ancient bronzes in the distance need polishing, the unearthed halberds need nickel plating, the books in the Song Dynasty need plastic surgery, and the old lady in the Han Dynasty in Mawangdui needs skin grafting, breast enhancement and heavy makeup. As long as history does not stop and time does not go backwards, everything will age. When you are old, give the world a kind of beauty peacefully. Pretending to be naive is the cruelest form of self-abuse. Grandma without wrinkles is terrible, and old people without white hair are sorry; Life without ruins is too tiring, the land without ruins is too crowded, and the act of covering up the ruins is too deceptive. Let history return to reality and life return to the process. -This is the great wisdom of mankind. Of course, not all the remains are worth preserving, otherwise the earth will be scarred. Ruins are messengers sent from ancient times to modern people and have been criticized and screened by history. Ruins are feats launched by our ancestors, which condensed the strength and essence of that era. Ruins are a magnetic field, extremely ancient and modern, and the compass of the mind is strongly felt here. If you lose magnetism, you will lose the life of the ruins and will soon be eliminated. (Excerpted from Fragments of Civilization by Feng Chun Literature and Art Publishing House)