A good way to educate your daughter.
Once you know what your child needs.
Every parent wants their children to be good, but few people know how their children can be "good". If "good" means success and happiness, what qualities do children need to have to win their own success and happiness?
Many parents aim to "enter the university". In fact, you don't have to go to college to have a chance, and you don't have to go to college to have a chance. Only paying attention to the pursuit of academic qualifications is actually turning a blind eye and not seeing Mount Tai!
A healthy personality, a positive attitude, the ability to adapt to the environment and seize opportunities are the most basic guarantees for happiness in life.
Know what your words and deeds mean to your children.
Children feel too much about us, without deliberate observation, imitating too many attitudes, without deliberate imitation. It doesn't matter what we want, what children see from our behavior and what they learn are important! In front of children, we should not live and do things without thinking. We must be careful and consider what this means to children.
Knowing what to do is called having a direction; Knowing how to do it is called having the ability; Without direction, effort and speed are meaningless; Only direction, no method, direction itself is meaningless.
Parents are not easy to be, but they must be good. There is a solution to everything. We should not give up because of difficulties. We must explore how to solve it.
Know what to do.
Knowing what to do is called having a direction; Knowing how to do it is called having the ability; Without direction, effort and speed are meaningless; Only direction, no method, direction itself is meaningless.
Parents are not easy to be, but they must be good. There is a solution to everything. We should not give up because of difficulties. We must explore how to solve it.
Fourth, knowing how to be a person is to be a parent.
Since education is to make children live better in the future, then life is the direction of education. What we need in life is what our children need in the future; What tests us now will test our children in the future. All the troubles, challenges and opportunities we face will be faced by our children in the future. Although the climate of the times is constantly changing, the basic problems such as getting along with people, digesting pressure, resisting inertia and weakness, restraining desire, self-improvement, opening up the situation and grasping opportunities are eternal. We handle our own affairs well and do ourselves well, which not only provides children with experience worth learning, but also conveys a positive attitude to them. Therefore, when we are human beings, we are also parents, and the process of our life is always educating our children.
Parents' healthy values and outlook on life are one of the most important conditions for the success of family education. Parents make demands on their children, get along with each other day and night, and infiltrate their values and outlook on life into their children all the time. Values and outlook on life determine the direction of children's life and the way of feeling the world.
In life, parents demonstrate to their children through their own practice, put forward suggestions and requirements to their children according to the specific situation they face, and create a better family atmosphere and living environment for their children, thus realizing their education. Therefore, the boundary of life is the boundary of education, and the process of life is the process of education.
From the moment the child was born, our life began to change because of the child. Some people become unexpectedly good, while others become unexpectedly bad. Children lead the whole family to grow up together. The direction of children's growth is to grow up, and the direction of adults' growth is to parents. We expect our children to grow up healthily, and we should also have a sense of "growth". Parents are "learning" and doing it. It is impossible to learn at first, and it is impossible to learn quickly. Parents' skills should be gradually cultivated. With this sense of growth, there will be no loss and self-pity.
Fifth, we should have a sense of growth.
From the moment the child was born, our life began to change because of the child. Some people become unexpectedly good, while others become unexpectedly bad. Children lead the whole family to grow up together. The direction of children's growth is to grow up, and the direction of adults' growth is to parents. We expect our children to grow up healthily, and we should also have a sense of "growth". Parents are "learning" and doing it. It is impossible to learn at first, and it is impossible to learn quickly. Parents' skills should be gradually cultivated. With this sense of growth, there will be no loss and self-pity.
Know the necessity of self-doubt
The actual situation of children in our eyes is often very different from that of children. Our understanding of children is not always reliable because of our own experiences and ways of understanding.
Knowing self-doubt, preventing opinionated opinions, holding the attitude that there is no right to speak without investigation, always being cautious and perceiving children in a more diversified way will open up a brand-new parent-child relationship and educational realm.
Education is helping, not shaping.
Education is to help a child become what he could have been. Smart parents know how to observe and discover their children's nature with their children. If the child is more scheming and ambitious, then the child may become an outstanding talent in a certain field, but it is also easy to bear pressure and suffer setbacks because of too much concern; Then, while helping him achieve his goal, he should pay attention to persuading his children not to be dragged down by his own ambitions. Life can't be perfect. Learn to choose and let go. If the child is an optimist and doesn't care about anything, then such a child will be happy easily, without worrying about falling into a dead end. Instead, he will be enterprising, unlearned and live in a lower social level in the future. At this time, it is necessary to help children establish a certain degree of enterprise.
A good way to educate your daughter.
Teach her to care about others.
Happy children need to feel that they have some meaningful connections with others and understand what she means to others. To cultivate this feeling, you can help your child to get in touch with others more. You can sort out some old toys with your child and donate them to charity with her to help homeless children. Children can also be encouraged to participate in some volunteer activities at school. Experts point out that even at a very young age, you can get happiness from helping others. And form the habit of helping others.
Encourage her to exercise more.
Playing ball games, cycling, swimming with your child ... Doing more exercise can not only exercise your child's physical fitness, but also make her more cheerful. Maintaining a vibrant life can moderately relieve children's stress and emotions, make children like themselves, have a more positive body image, and find fun and a sense of accomplishment from sports.
Keep grinning
Telling jokes, making up some funny songs and laughing with children are good for you and your children. Just laughing is good exercise.
Creative praise
When children behave well, don't just say "good". Be specific, tell the details, and point out the places that are impressive or better than last time. For example, "It's really polite of you to take the initiative to say good morning to the doorman's uncle today". However, we should also pay attention to praise and not develop children's false expectations. Some parents will reward their children with gifts or money, so that their children can focus on what rewards they can get, rather than doing well. Parents should let their children discover the satisfaction and sense of accomplishment brought about by completing something, instead of rewarding her with material rewards.
Ensure that children eat healthily.
A healthy diet can not only make children healthy, but also make their emotions more stable. Whether it's dinner or snacks, we should try to follow healthy principles, such as low-fat, low-sugar, fresh and balanced diet.
Inspire her inner artistic talent
Although scientists have confirmed that there is no so-called "Mozart effect", exposing children to music, art, dance and other activities can still enrich their inner world. Experts have found that when children dance to music or catch a crow with a brush, it is actually a way for children to express their inner world and feelings. Children like painting, dancing or playing music, and they will feel more satisfied with themselves.
Hug often
A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is a silent' I love you'. Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make premature babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also relieve stress and calm restless emotions.
listen attentively
Nothing can make children feel cared for more than listening attentively. Want to be a better listener? Don't listen with only one ear. When the child is talking to you, try to stop what you are doing and listen to her attentively. Listen to the child patiently. Don't interrupt, help her express herself in a hurry or let her finish her sentence quickly, even if you have heard her say it many times. It is the best time to listen when you accompany your child to school or put him to bed.