This is not a special case. Others also shared their wonderful experiences, such as "I heard my mother go into the dormitory to help the children wash clothes", "I met a child who was admitted to the country, but parents would rather let the children go to private schools than allow them to stay too far away from home", "My friend's dormitory roommate can't open cans with a can opener, and her mother opened cans for him as soon as she got home from the south. 」
Some parents only ask their children to study, but ignore the importance of basic social and self-care ability. In addition to counting Ma Bao's 10 behavior, this paper will also introduce "New Ma Bao", which is quite different from what most people know.
Before discussing the new Ma Bao, let's look at what Ma Bao is!
The word "Ma Bao" is not a psychological term, nor is it literally translated from English, but comes from the Japanese English word "mother complex" invented in Japan.
Ma Bao's possible behavior patterns are as follows:
1) When faced with problems such as marriage or job-hopping, I will discuss with my mother, but the final conclusion is decided after my own thinking.
2) Always contact your mother by email. But I won't tell you every day's itinerary.
3) Go shopping or travel with my mother occasionally.
4) I once told my girlfriend (wife) that I miss my mother's home cooking very much. It doesn't matter if their cooking tastes different from mom's.
5) Mothers will be given gifts on anniversaries such as Mother's Day or Mother's birthday. I will have dinner with my mother, too.
6) Always remember to visit relatives in your hometown regularly every year. Seeing how my mother is, my mood will suddenly become calm.
I want my mother to be pleased with my success. I hope to be praised by my mother: "I am really working hard! 」
8) Just when you want to drive after drinking or face the possibility of injury, your mother's sad expression will appear in your mind and give up immediately.
9) Give parents a little pocket money once in a while. If life is ok, consider bringing your parents to live together.
10) is called "Ma Bao" without resistance. I think it's just filial piety.
(The above is from Youhuo Health Network times.hi/news/20114605).
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Wikipedia also said that Ma Bao is called skirt feet in Cantonese, which means that some adults take their mothers (commonly known as mothers) as the center and listen to their mothers' advice as if they were not weaned. Their life route is completely in accordance with their mother's wishes, lacking independent thinking, self-confidence, independent opinion and sense of responsibility. They use their mother as a shield, often talk about her, and rely on her to make decisions. What's more, we need our mother to take care of our daily life, and we also need her to provide us with the living expenses after adulthood.
Well, as we all know, everyone is a mother's baby, and even the psychoanalytic circle thinks that people surrounded by maternal love want more praise and love, so they will become harder and more ambitious, so they will be more likely to succeed.
The students of the University of Tokyo are not so much Ma Bao, but they have achieved good results through repeated efforts and have been praised by the audience. As a result of various experiences, they won the final victory in the exam war.
Ma Bao is basically successful, and we should not think that Ma Bao is not good. Now let's see what the new Ma Bao is!
The new mother's behavior pattern is that everything her mother says is right. She told us to do whatever we want, such as cleaning and tidying up the housework. She loves her like a baby and is afraid that her mother will get hurt.
The biggest difference between the new mother treasure and the mother treasure is that the mother is regarded as a treasure in turn, and the first thing that comes to mind is the mother.
What the mother said is still an imperial edict, so when the mother treats her children as footmen and maids, she will certainly do it! Even if mom doesn't call, when mom can't find anyone, she will automatically appear to help her!
Ma Bao is not rare, but New Ma Bao is rare!
How to cultivate a new type of mother treasure requires an extreme desire for maternal love!
Because of the lack of maternal love, everything is accommodating to my mother, just to get her caring eyes! Mom did something wrong and said something wrong. It's all someone else's fault!
With Ma Bao, mothers regard their children as treasures and can't bear to bear hardships. Everything is different for her.
Do you have a new mother treasure with you?
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