I don't know if you have this feeling. Many times, many troubles in life often come from those "good people".

An aunt I know, especially superstitious about online remedies, forwards all kinds of health articles every day: western medicine is medicine, and Chinese medicine is nourishing! It's a three-point poison You are being poisoned every day! Your illness will get better soon! Forward collection!

She not only loves to watch it herself and regards it as truth, but also always recommends it to others with great interest for others to try.

If you tell her that this is deceptive and unscientific, she will think that your goodness is like a donkey's liver and lungs, and she doesn't know whether it is good or bad.

Later, the little grandson at home had a fever and vomited and diarrhea. She had to stop the young couple from taking medicine to the hospital. Instead, I ate a lot of vitamin C and burned my back with eggs, because "this is a three-point poison" and "you don't have to go to the hospital to get rid of a cold".

As a result, it dragged on for a week and the symptoms became more and more serious. Go to the hospital for a check-up. It's not a cold. It's viral encephalitis in children. Because of the failure to treat it in time, the central nervous system was seriously infected, leaving a sequela that may accompany me all my life.

The couple quarreled over the man and mother every day, and even almost divorced.

Can you say that this aunt did this on purpose?

She may have been wronged herself. She is obviously "kind" and doesn't want her grandson to be poisoned by western medicine.

This is a typical "doing bad things with good intentions".

Why do good intentions turn into bad things?

We often advise people to be kind, thinking that good people must be rewarded, and good people must be happy. But in fact, kindness is also classified.

Ascending to heaven to be good is a kind of folly, the ability to distinguish right from wrong, good from evil is good, and no good is a kind of folly. Stupid kindness may lead to greater disaster.

In the TV series "Forensic Pioneer 1", Timothy Gao's wife Gu Zeyao (Liu Jinling) suffers from cancer and is paralyzed. After being fed the folk prescription for ten days by the kind jade elder sister, she was poisoned by cantharidin and died of heart failure.

Last time in Weibo, a woman kindly released a turtle, but it was pointed out that it was the released turtle. Putting the tortoise into the water will only cause it to drown.

Dog lovers regard a dog's life as a human life and call for equal treatment of every kind of life, but they stop cars at high speed, smash dog meat restaurants and encircle dog abusers.

There are too many examples of people getting into trouble because of their stupidity. So Socrates said: Ignorant people are not qualified to do good deeds. Because ignorance of kindness only has a good coat, but it lacks a good core.

Ignorance means no virtue, and the road to hell is often paved with well-meaning stones.

02

In the fifth chapter of Fifteen Years of Wanli, Huang Renyu wrote such a thing. Although Harry is an honest and upright official who respects the law, he follows the following principles when judging controversial cases:

Anyone who has doubts about the lawsuit would rather be his brother than his brother; Let his nephew give in rather than his uncle. It is better to let the rich yield than to let the poor yield; It is better to be opinionated than to be stupid and straightforward. ......

The meaning of this passage is: whenever a suspicious case is encountered in the lawsuit, it is better to let the younger brother be wronged than to let the younger brother be wronged;

It is better to be a nephew's grievance than an uncle's grievance;

It is better to enrich the people than to let the poor be wronged; It is better to let stubborn grievances than to let stupid grievances.

Is this logic very similar to some remarks today: Isn't it just scratching your car? You are so rich that you shouldn't let the poor pay the bill; Ma Yun is so rich that he should donate hundreds of millions to poor areas. It is painful enough for him to lose his loved ones, and it is understandable to hit a doctor; As an adult, don't argue with children; I am getting old. What's wrong with jumping the queue?

At that time, due to the constraints of the three cardinal guides and the five permanent members and ethics, Harry only judged the case by respecting the elderly and helping the weak, regardless of the rights and wrongs, which was understandable.

But now, in 2 1 century, there are still many people who admire the saying "who is weak and who is right", which is illogical and only supported by compassion, and is simply a great record in the world.

Seemingly sympathetic to the weak, in fact, in the name of kindness, unscrupulously morally kidnap others, interfere with others' lives, interfere with others' choices, and have no bottom line.

After Kimi committed suicide due to depression, Chen Qiaoen, a good friend, didn't send Weibo to express her grief like others, so someone left a message in her Weibo: Kimi died, Chen Qiaoen, why aren't you sad at all? Do you deserve to be his friend?

Some people even told her to die with them, and these messages actually attracted thousands of praises.

In fact, Chen Qiaoen was very sad at that time and had not eaten for many days.

I don't know how many people left messages in Weibo saying "kimi, we miss you very much". Kimi is the one who once clamored for him to die casually. Now that he is really dead, these people are crying again, cursing why Chen Qiaoen, who doesn't cry in Weibo, doesn't die.

03

Some time ago, a female college student committed suicide by jumping off a building in the high-tech campus of Qilu Normal University.

When the deceased was found naked and covered with scars, just netizens agreed that three roommates must have killed the female student by violence, otherwise no one could have committed suicide in this way.

For a time, voices denouncing campus violence spread all over the internet, and some even launched human flesh to harass and insult three girls and their families.

Later, after many investigations, the police found that the incident had nothing to do with school violence at all, but the netizens who were too "kind" did indelible harm to three innocent girls because of their assumptions.

Many people are like this, holding the banner of kindness and justice, standing on the moral commanding heights, and doing "moral judges" with peace of mind. They can use public opinion to direct others, enjoy the pleasure of free charity, and feel good about themselves every day, such as "the years are quiet" and "the country is peaceful and the people are safe".

If you don't meet their moral requirements, then you are vicious and wrong, and they will attack you until you bow your head and "repent".

Then you can't even blame them.

Because they are all "good people", they are all "moral benchmarks", they are all trying to maintain the moral order in their world view, and they are even stupid enough not to feel anything wrong from beginning to end.

And when they do bad things, they will say to you with innocence and confidence: "I didn't mean it, I meant well ..."

When kindness becomes an obligation, it is no longer kindness, but a reform.

In this world, there is never a lack of kindness. What is lacking is reason and restraint.

When kindness becomes irrational and has no bottom line, it will become evil, because I don't know how many people will do stupid and dirty things under the banner of kindness and justice.

If reason does not exist, kindness is meaningless.

There is poison in these confused kindness, and arsenic in these ignorant kindness.

The biggest enemy of this society has never been a few anti-social elements, but good people who are cheerful, numerous and easily incited.

True kindness should be enlightenment, tolerance, great wisdom and a clear distinction between right and wrong, not useless kindness and blind concern. Either you don't listen to me, you are wrong.

I hope you can manage your kindness and don't let your kindness become arsenic for others.