1, inferiority complex

Inferiority is the enemy of interpersonal communication. People with low self-esteem are pessimistic, melancholy and withdrawn, afraid to associate with others, think that they are inferior to others everywhere, are introverted, and always feel that others look down on them. This kind of people are mainly caused by the following reasons: too much self-denial, negative self-suggestion, the influence of frustration and psychological or physical deficiency.

For example, some students are short in stature, ugly in appearance, from humble origins, poor in learning and so on. There are many such students in the school, which increases the difficulty of student management and school education management.

First of all, we should educate students to take a positive attitude to face it, so that they can correctly understand themselves and improve their self-evaluation. The formation of inferiority complex mainly comes from their inability to correctly understand and treat themselves in social communication.

Secondly, we should guide students to adopt the "Ah Q" method of spiritual victory. No one is perfect and no one has enough money. Learn to actively associate with others and enhance self-confidence. No communication master is born.

Step 2 be lonely

Loneliness is a feeling of isolation from the world, with no one to communicate emotionally or ideologically, and a lonely psychological state. Lonely people often show listlessness, produce unsociable sadness, and affect their normal study, communication and life.

This kind of students are mainly caused by the following reasons: personality, overconfidence and self-esteem, frustration. There is a saying that there is no fish in clear water, and there is no disciple in people's view. Self-esteem, conceit and conceit will all cause loneliness; There is another kind of person who is more likely to be lonely, that is, "like to be a giant in language and a dwarf in action!" " ?

First of all, we should integrate ourselves into the collective. Marx said: only in the collective can individuals get the opportunity of all-round development! A person who refuses to integrate himself into the collective must be particularly interested in loneliness! Secondly, we should overcome the mentality of conceit, self-esteem and arrogance and actively participate in communication.

When a person really feels psychologically integrated with others and understood and accepted by others, it is easy to get rid of this lonely misunderstanding!

3. Jealousy

Jealousy is a kind of unhappiness, shame, resentment and even destructive behavior caused by comparing with others in talent, study and reputation. The characteristics are: dissatisfaction with the strengths and achievements of others, and jealousy;

Seeing that others are unwilling to take the lead, I always hope that others will fall behind me. Another feature of jealousy is that it has no courage to compete, and it often takes sarcasm, sarcasm, crackdown or even illegal behavior to cause harm to others.

This situation seriously hinders college students' mental health and communication ability, and brings great difficulties to their adulthood and success, because jealousy will devour people's reason and soul, affect normal thinking and cause personality distortion.

Jealous people should make more efforts to improve their self-cultivation, divert their attention, actively sublimate their disadvantages into advantages, and take appropriate, legal and rational measures to eliminate this psychology.

4. Revenge mentality

The so-called revenge is to vent the dissatisfaction and resentment of those who bring setbacks to themselves through attacks in interpersonal communication. It is extremely aggressive and emotional. Revenge psychology and revenge behavior often occur when narrow-minded and bad-natured people are frustrated.

According to the research of social psychologists, revenge psychology is not only related to personality characteristics, but also related to the attribution and environment of setbacks, and revenge is often carried out in a hidden form. Because revengers often appear as the weak, they don't have enough psychological endurance and public counterattack ability, so they have to take revenge in a hidden way.

This kind of psychology has brought great resistance and pressure to the interpersonal communication of the revenger. In order to change this kind of psychology, we need to improve the self-control of the revenger, reflect on the harmfulness of the revenge result and learn to be tolerant. As the saying goes, "the prime minister can punt in his stomach."

5, communication confusion

Heterosexual intercourse is a normal social activity. At the same time, it is also a social obstacle that has been plaguing college students. Under the influence of bad psychological factors, some students always feel that it is more difficult to communicate with the opposite sex than with the same sex, so that they are afraid, unwilling or even unable to communicate with the opposite sex.

These college students can't correctly distinguish and handle the relationship between friendship and love, and some college students can't distinguish the boundaries between friendship and love, thus turning friendship into love. The age of college students is the age of generation, and the desire for the opposite sex is normal.

However, due to the influence of traditional ideas, especially the cultural tradition of "men and women give and receive without kissing" in feudal society, some college students think that there is nothing but love between men and women, which makes them fail to establish a correct "opposite sex friend view". This will inevitably have a negative impact on college students' heterosexual communication.

Another is the influence of public opinion. Some schools, teachers and parents interfere in the communication between boys and girls, which will inevitably increase the difficulty of communication between the opposite sex.

To get rid of the confusion of heterosexual communication, we should first get rid of the shackles of traditional ideas and carry out colorful group activities, because group activities are conducive to establishing natural, harmonious and pure interpersonal relationships between male and female students, and secondly, we should pay attention to discretion so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings!

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Ways for College Students to Avoid Emotional Disturbance

1, sports

College students are the most vigorous period of human physiological activities. They should not be lazy and listless. They should take part in school activities and sports, which can not only strengthen their physique, but also express their boredom and depression, and effectively prevent depression.

Step 2 adjust

University is a beautiful scene worth remembering for a lifetime. College students should be good at capturing happy factors in life and study, experience and strengthen unpleasant things less, and learn to enjoy themselves. University is also the melting pot of life and the final stage of the formation of world outlook and values. We should have a correct understanding of ourselves, overcome our demands for our physical and social existence, and form a correct understanding of fame and fortune, status and situation, and don't care too much about other people's comments.

Step 3 increase

College students are psychologically mature and can bear certain psychological pressure and setbacks. Life will not be smooth sailing, and it is through the ups and downs of life that talents are cultivated, willpower is tempered and experience is gradually accumulated. College students should study hard, pay attention to self-cultivation, enhance their psychological adaptability, make IQ and EQ develop synchronously, prepare for independent life in knowledge, ability, psychology and morality, and gradually become a healthy and mature temperament middleman.

Step 4 develop good habits

College students should also develop good living habits, including daily routine, three meals and a sense of social responsibility. Experts say that a regular and stable life is the most needed to prevent depression.

Baidu Encyclopedia-Mental Health of College Students