We always seem to take it for granted that giving children a heavy blow and letting them know their own strength can help them grow up quickly.

That's not true. Parents' bad reviews are the heaviest blow to children!

The inner strength of a child who has been beaten since childhood is completely different from that of a child who has been inspired since childhood. In the future, when faced with the same job, the beloved and inspired children will fight for it, but the beaten children will still lower their heads and say: I can't, I don't deserve it, I don't deserve it.

Will such a child be happy?

2. Families who like sensible children

My friend Gao Xiao said that when I was a child, I liked many things like other children, and I would cry and ask my parents to buy them for me. Later, they kept saying "Be sensible" to me. I can't remember how many times I said it.

I don't know when I saw something I like, and I have been afraid to tell my parents that I want this. Brainwash yourself when you grow up. What can I do if I buy it so well?

Many children with low self-esteem care about being sensible all their lives, but never know themselves.

Parents should pay attention that being sensible is often an illusion, and its background is inferiority. When parents are deceived by illusions, we also miss the best period of children's character development.

3. Families who like to yell at their children.

With the growth of children's self-awareness, most children will have some wayward behaviors. When a child makes a mistake, you should not just yell at the child and preach the truth, but give him another choice. In other words, don't just say "no", please point out a possible path for him. Yelling loudly will only make children worse and worse.

Parents should let their children know that no matter what he looks like, someone will love him.

In this way, he won't wear defensive armor, and he will only live to satisfy others all his life, so that he can live a real self-confidence.