Mencius has a cloud: "People who love others will always love others;" People who respect others will always respect others. "In fact, this is the importance of respecting others; In other words, if a person can respect and understand others in the process of interacting with others, then he will certainly be respected and understood by others, which is the embodiment of high emotional intelligence and high education.
First, respect is to find that everyone has their own self-esteem.
The reaction of "self-esteem is hurt" is generally very huge, and sometimes even devastating and disastrous. On the contrary, giving people self-esteem is very valuable and impressive.
Businessmen and assistants are walking outside. I saw a poor young man selling refills, gave 10 and left. But after a few steps, the businessman and assistant turned around again. The businessman took a box of pencil lead and said, "Sorry, I was in such a hurry that I forgot to bring pencil lead." When the businessman finished, he said solemnly, "You are both businessmen like me. Come on, young man.
Later, at a businessman's party, a young man excitedly shook the businessman's hand and said, "You may not remember me, but I won't forget you. If your encouragement didn't give me self-esteem and self-confidence, I might still regard myself as a beggar selling pencils and I wouldn't be a successful businessman today. " After listening to this young man's words, everyone here clapped their hands involuntarily.
Businessmen exchange respect for others. This tells us that respecting others, even a humble little person, will awaken people's noblest conscience.
Second, no one is perfect, everyone has his own homework.
In fact, the communication between people is a process of "mutual respect". What we want, we must pay. Everyone has self-esteem, and we don't want others to hurt our self-esteem. Similarly, we should be good at respecting others' self-esteem.
Respect is to accept unsatisfactory life and imperfect people; It is true that there are always many people around us who are experiencing all kinds of disappointments and hardships in life, and there are also many mediocre people. When we know that we are not perfect, we will understand that everyone has their own homework to practice.
Everyone is an independent individual and everyone is not perfect. Learning to respect people means respecting everyone's differences and their common sense and education. Generally speaking, even if we don't like a person in our hearts, we need to respect him. I like what Montesquieu said very much. I don't agree with you, but I defend your right to speak, which is to respect the highest level of understanding.
Third, to be solemn to others is to be solemn to yourself.
There are high and low social status, but no personality, and there is a gap in the height of human soul, but there is no moral quality. No one is perfect, perfect, we don't treat other people's capital with mountain scenery, and we are not qualified to despise and laugh at others; We are solemn to others, but in fact we are solemn to ourselves, because everyone is not perfect. The equality of all beings actually tells us that everyone has his own weaknesses and shortcomings, and we all need to cultivate and improve ourselves at all times.
Respecting others also means accepting our imperfections and empathy. Even if others can't compare with us in some aspects, pride and disrespect are not the aspects that we hurt others; On the other hand, if we are inferior to others in some respects, there is no need to feel inferior or jealous to preserve our self-esteem. This is the connotation of respect.
People who love others will always love others. A person who truly knows how to respect others will be respected by others. Therefore, in daily communication, we must keep such a bottom line: maintain the self-esteem of others and don't hurt others, otherwise, we will inevitably lose our dignity.
Respect is mutual. Only by respecting others first can we get their respect. Everyone is equal. No matter who the other person is, no matter how depressed his life is and how flawed his body is, it can't be a reason for us to laugh at others. Maintaining others' self-esteem is not only a way to maintain one's self-esteem, but also a manifestation of literacy.